saltyfishhead666 Posted December 7, 2016 Posted December 7, 2016 I'm back... HELP haha I am so bad at dating Ok so I got talking to someone on Friday and on Monday he said let's go out tonight, he's not my normal type and is 4 years younger which I don't do. However I had nothing on so I said yeah ok. So date 1 - we went to a Chinese, then went walking on the sea pier arm around my shoulders and loads of laughter. Awesome. So I got back home that night and thought screw it. I said what are you doing tomorrow? He said nothing why, I said we're grabbing a movie.i also noticed earlier in the night that he looked like he was going to kiss me, he said I got cold feet I was like ah ok. So date 2 - Pizza Hut (it was beside the cinemas) then movie loads of laughter once again, hand holding through the movie (feeling like a teenager here and I'm 29!) Anyway in January he goes away for 8 months (gets to come back for a few weeks every 3 months) so when I got back lastnight I was like, I like you, and your leaving I'm just putting that out there. He's been a little text quiet today, he's actually been busy. However now I'm stumped. Who asks who out next? And how long should I be waiting to be asked/or asking? I'm not entirely sure it's worth it with him leaving, and he's not going to jump into something. But we get on extremely well and have amazing chemistry
Philosoraptor Posted December 7, 2016 Posted December 7, 2016 If you want to see him again, ask him. Nothing is gained by being indirect. If he likes you, he'll keep seeing you. If not, he'll reject your offer. No easier way to save both your time and your mind.
AMJ Posted December 7, 2016 Posted December 7, 2016 I think you just keep in touch, but keep your options open in the meantime. It's not going to be very fun for you to only see him once or twice every few weeks during the next 8 months. Since he's the one who's leaving, I'd let him be the one to initiate keeping in contact. There's something about meeting someone who you know it will never go anywhere with due to circumstances like this- it takes off all pressure and lets both people just enjoy the "right now".
hippychick3 Posted December 7, 2016 Posted December 7, 2016 I would let him be the one to ask you out next. Pull back a little and try not to chase him. He knows you're interested.
Miss Peach Posted December 7, 2016 Posted December 7, 2016 I prefer to let the man do the work early on. You jumped the gun and asked him out. Let him chase you a bit IMO. I would also keep your eyes open for other men as he may not be that interested if he hasn't kissed you in two dates.
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