Most evil break up ever? mental illness?

[anthony2349]

Been dating a girl for ten months..She has a home in another state but has basically been living with me..

 

She was married for ten years, and divorced last year.. Throughout the ten months she would "go back" to her ex and make outlandish promises to me she never ever would again.. I was dumb and would take her back..

 

So, we have been together straight for past 3 months... SHE bought me a $6000 ring, and wants to marry.. Recently all of our children met on extended breaks and they got along wonderfully...She just told her kids last week we are getting married...I got her a ring for her bday.. her kids were very excited...As was mine.. We also had christmas plans with all of us together..

 

her ex travels for work, and through text we found out he is coming back dec 1...And will not travel anymore this year... I always see and use her phone and vice versa...he was then texting stuff like "boo boo", "I am alone if you care" etc...he also knows she is with me..She got mad at the texts, and replied it is not appropriate etc, but it still bothered me..

 

Next morning i go to work and leave my computer open.. She snoops...

 

Over the past year, I sent 4 emails to different women from dating sites...The last was 4 months ago, when she broke up with me...The other 3 were the first week I met her.. These are women I never met...Never really wanted too. Was just passing time...

 

Also, an ex gf who I blocked on my phone sent me many emails just recently out of nowhere..professing her love for me... Saying she misses me etc.. But I never even checked this account for the past 4 months.. I never replied.. or spoke to her...

 

Also, she found random emails from dating sites that i probably signed up for years ago and just forgot about..

 

So, while at work she packed all her things and left.. Said it is over... She drove home... I asked her to wait for me, she pulled over at an exit, and she was adamant it was over...Totally over... No way to explain or even know what she saw..

 

So, next 2 days we argue back and forth, talk some etc,,, She is still adamant it is over, blocks me etc...

 

Then at 1 am I get a text... It is a photo with her blowing a guy... The guy is her ex, who then also texts me as soon as I reply to her photo...

 

Then she just wrote. "i dont love you"

 

Next day she texts me about some stuff at my house and says "too bad it ended like this".

 

And today she randomly emails me if I put a cash offer in on her deceased fathers house.. huh? Why would I do that...

 

Does this entire thing seem like some "excuse" to be with her ex again.. Were my transgressions that bad? She was also on dating sites during our "breaks"

[GorillaTheater]

"Mental illness" seems like a fair guess to me. No, your transgressions, if they can be called that, weren't that bad and yes, you're one lucky SOB to have this disaster of a woman walk out of your life. If you don't feel that way now, you will in a year or so.

 

 

I hope you still have the ring. Sell it and have a nice vacation with your kids.

[RecentChange]

Holy S*****!!!

 

You were ready to MARRY someone you had known for less than a year, and those months were full of break ups and drama no less!?!

 

Dude, pump your brakes. This is not what a healthy relationship looks like. This is not the sort if drama you should be exposing your children to.

 

Thank your fairy godmother she broke up with you. Because you were about to legally sign up for a world of hurt.

 

My recommendation? Get some counseling so that you can gain some perspective and realize what a crazy mess this is.

[anthony2349]

Also, during the past weeks she was wanting me to get her pregnant...looking at houses...Told her entire family we are getting married etc...I mean i was never even on any dating sites... She found really nothing..

[LostOnes05]

I'd say you dodged a mean-spirited, manipulative, and plain trashy woman. It was a break up that she initiated so you had the freedom to do as you pleased. If she wouldn't listen or discuss things with you about something like that, imagine how being married to her would be. Especially since she has played ping pong between you two.

 

Heck yea she used it as an excuse to go running back to her ex. I'm the type of person that when I got that picture, I would've taken a picture of the ring she gave me and sent it. Then I would've saved the picture she sent and kept it in a file on my phone. When she came back around and tried to text me, I'd send her picture back to her...and then tell her to get lost. You'll be fine man. While I can understand her discomfort with what she found, she's acted like a complete jerk. Best of luck man...but again, you dodged a huge bullet.

[anthony2349]

I'd say you dodged a mean-spirited, manipulative, and plain trashy woman. It was a break up that she initiated so you had the freedom to do as you pleased. If she wouldn't listen or discuss things with you about something like that, imagine how being married to her would be. Especially since she has played ping pong between you two.

 

Heck yea she used it as an excuse to go running back to her ex. I'm the type of person that when I got that picture, I would've taken a picture of the ring she gave me and sent it. Then I would've saved the picture she sent and kept it in a file on my phone. When she came back around and tried to text me, I'd send her picture back to her...and then tell her to get lost. You'll be fine man. While I can understand her discomfort with what she found, she's acted like a complete jerk. Best of luck man...but again, you dodged a huge bullet.

 

I like this idea.... Anyone have any better ones? Would like to do something like this..

[GorillaTheater]

Holy S*****!!!

 

You were ready to MARRY someone you had known for less than a year, and those months were full of break ups and drama no less!?!

 

Dude, pump your brakes. This is not what a healthy relationship looks like. This is not the sort if drama you should be exposing your children to.

 

Thank your fairy godmother she broke up with you. Because you were about to legally sign up for a world of hurt.

 

My recommendation? Get some counseling so that you can gain some perspective and realize what a crazy mess this is.

 

 

Great point, Anthony. What about this relationship made it seem like a good idea? You've got some inward looking to do if you found any of this acceptable.

 

 

And thank Christ you didn't knock her up.

[RecentChange]

I sure hope she isn't pregnant!

 

Look, perhaps she is mentally ill, but you were not making wise choices every step of the way here. Takes two to tango.

[anthony2349]

Great point, Anthony. What about this relationship made it seem like a good idea? You've got some inward looking to do if you found any of this acceptable.

 

 

And thank Christ you didn't knock her up.

 

Kids the same age...When it was good was amazing... Similar wants and goals.. She was extremely convincing..Wanted to be the perfect mate and wife in all ways...

[kgcolonel]

Send one last text that she shouldn't send any picture that she doesn't want to be made MORE public..... let her think you have published her performance pics to her "friends and family" lol...not really,but fun to think about.....

 

I'd meet her actions with deafening silence...and blocks....

[anthony2349]

Now she is already texting if she can call me...

[RecentChange]

Dude, read up about no contact and block her.

 

Unless you want to ruin your life.

 

Like they say, fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.

 

You have all the info you need. If you continue to ALLOW her to contact you. To allow her to walk all over you, that is your CHOICE. You are not a victim here.

 

Your children on the other hand, have no choice and will have to bare the consequences of your bad decisions.

 

This lady gave you soooooooooo many red flags, but you willfully ignored them.

 

Time to pull your head out of the sand.

[elaine567]

She rebounded onto you then dilly dallied back and forth with the ex but eventually thought she could probably make it work with you hence the overboard "engagement".

BUT she is still emotionally involved with her ex and he obviously still thinks a lot of her too.

However she had made up her mind to choose you, as she probably thought you would love her through thick and thin.

She then sees your dating site stuff, and that made her see you in an entirely different light. She probably was under the impression you were besotted with her, but once she realised you had been on dating sites she goes "OMG I just can't do this" and bails. I guess she probably never really loved you, she merely slotted you into the space her ex left.

She was about to choose the "better" option of the two presented to her, but you were not who she thought you were, so she upped and left. I think had she been totally on board then the dating site stuff would have been a blip but because she was not totally on board she saw it as some sort of a sign that she was doing the completely wrong thing, and decided to just go.

 

I guess she was a bit hurt and annoyed, so posted you the BJ pics to hurt you.

 

She was obviously never ready to date anyone, newly divorced people tend to act "crazy", as it takes a long time to get over a marriage, particularly when the ex is still on the scene and wants to reconcile.

 

Moral of the story

- Never get involved with people who are still emotionally invested in an ex.

[anthony2349]

Now she is begging to see me. "One last time". What is wrong with her

[GorillaTheater]

Now she is begging to see me. "One last time". What is wrong with her

 

 

Who knows, but it's no longer your problem. Not your circus, not your monkeys.

[DeepVibeZ]

Bullet definitely dodged. Now block that emotionally retarded skank.

One day she'll mess with the wrong guy!

[LostOnes05]

Dude, just send her bj pic back to her and tell her to get lost. Then block her. Just like you shouldn't drink expired milk, you shouldn't entertain her antics. Send her back her picture and give her silence from there til eternity...she'll get the message.

[LargoLagg]

Now she is begging to see me. "One last time". What is wrong with her

Just tell her that you won't see her one last time, because that picture is the way you want to remember her forever.

[Stercrazy]

She's not worth it. She acted very immaturely and a person who cares about you wouldn't treat you like this. Shut her down and never allow her back in your life. You deserve better!