Hair color and dating?

[Poe77]

I agree...

 

I know I might get blowback but from a dudes standpoint I’m being honest.

I have always seen either changing hair colors or extreme tattoos especially tats on the chest as people who are clamoring for attention or going thru some major life crisis

Changing hairstyles is really common during life transitions such as a break-up or a new career, major trauma because making the decision to do some wild color is in some ways empowering, but if you throw that out it is seemingly a cry for attention for some life changing reason.

I have seen (my ex daughter in law) who was absolutely gorgeous dye her hair all of these crazy colors, and did it well into her 30’s and nobody ever took her seriously.

Of course we all have free will to do what we want but in a relationship if I start dating you and I am attracted to you and like who you are why would you “dramatically” change the canvas?

 

Ermm its not a cry for attention its just an expression of my love of color honestly dude some times a cigar is just a cigar after all..lmao both me and my BF are artists so we love color to start off with..funny you mention no one taking some one seriously I actually get more positive comments when my hair is a bright color so not to sure about that..

 

 

That's fine. You just wouldn't be compatible with someone like the OP who expresses herself through unique hair colors, etc. She needs to be with someone who appreciates it, which does exclude quite a few men. Nothing wrong with that; the right guys for her will love her rainbow hued hair.

 

Thanks for that least some one understands..

[Poe77]

Hey guys also please keep your responses respectful if you dont like wild colors that's fine but please dont insult others in anyway thanks..

[Gr8fuln2020]

Well, some people actually only date people with certain hair color. Crazy, huh? Or, I should say, 'prefer' to date only those with certain hair color. I am strongly partial to black hair and gingers. :-)

 

So, yes, hair color makes a difference and certainly a first-impressions difference. I tend to go for the dark brunette/black and gingers of the world. :-D

[salparadise]

I have always seen either changing hair colors or extreme tattoos especially tats on the chest as people who are clamoring for attention or going thru some major life crisis.

 

 

Yup, they seem to be expressing some kind of intrinsic need, unable to be content with the natural order. Not much different from feeling like tattoos or nose rings are improving something that mother nature didn't get right. Or perhaps a way of expressing a need to belong to an in-group that is also an out-group to those squares who just don't get it. I also wonder if they rearrange the furniture every few weeks, or change the color of the walls from purple to pink and back every month or two... and do I really want to hitch my cart to that stuff.

 

I have no tattoos, no piercings, haven't moved a piece of furniture or changed the interior color of my walls in five years. Hair... well, I sort of remember what it was like.

[introverted1]

Yup, they seem to be expressing some kind of intrinsic need, unable to be content with the natural order.

 

So you are ok with women who don't cover their grey hair? Most women have at least a few grey hairs in their 30's and considerably more in their 40's. And most dye it because, culturally, grey hair is not accepted But it's certainly the "natural order."

[Larryville]

Yup, they seem to be expressing some kind of intrinsic need, unable to be content with the natural order. Not much different from feeling like tattoos or nose rings are improving something that mother nature didn't get right. Or perhaps a way of expressing a need to belong to an in-group that is also an out-group to those squares who just don't get it. I also wonder if they rearrange the furniture every few weeks, or change the color of the walls from purple to pink and back every month or two... and do I really want to hitch my cart to that stuff.

 

Every single woman I have ever come in contact with (I’m talking 40’s and above) who did some MAJOR transition, hair color, major tat, nose ring ect went thru some serious life changing issue. Death of a child, long marriage divorce, major breakup, major career change. Many said they did it because it was “empowering” to some degree. NOT a criticism, just sharing my particular experience.

 

So you are ok with women who don't cover their grey hair? Most women have at least a few grey hairs in their 30's and considerably more in their 40's. And most dye it because, culturally, grey hair is not accepted.

 

My daughter who is 36 if she never colored her hair would be totally gray. She got it from her mom, DNA

 

Ermm its not a cry for attention its just an expression of my love of color honestly dude some times a cigar is just a cigar after all..lmao both me and my BF are artists so we love color to start off with..funny you mention no one taking some one seriously I actually get more positive comments when my hair is a bright color so not to sure about that..

 

I'm sorry if I’m not articulating clearly.

 

Poe if you boyfriend met you and you already had “unusual” colored hair, that’s cool because that is what he was drawn too.

As far as being taken seriously, if you had teal hair and worked at Forever 21 for example or some young trendy business no problem. But you are not getting hired to work at a big time law firm or be a Washington intern. We judge, that was what I was talking about.

 

Folks seem to be commenting as if I am making a personal attack against people who have unusual hair color. I don’t have an issue and don’t care at all. There is this thing called "free will."

 

First I’m specifically talking about people WHO ARE ALREADY IN RELATIONSHIPS, NOT random people, family, or strangers and what they think.

 

Put another way, if your significant other DRAMATICALLY changed his or her hair color, style WITHOUT discussing it with SO (I’m not talking about someone you are casually dating either) Would you talk about it? Discuss it or would you do so REGARDLESS of what you SO/husband/wife thought?

 

If a guy had “great hair” and went bald, would you ladies not care or would you have an issue?

 

Ladies, If a guy was cleaned shaven when you met and later grew a massive beard, would you have an issue?

 

Guys if your girl had beautiful waste length hair, and chopped it all off and colored it teal green would you have an issue?

[No_Go]

I had tons of grey hair from age of 17. Very stressful life back then + genetics. Now at 32 I dye it every 5 weeks, but nobody knows because I use my natural shade. Naive people still ask me why I dye it when I don't change the color - grey hairs people

 

I'm wearing my hair pretty long (below mid-shoulder) and most guys comment on liking it a lot that way - even saying they won't be that attracted if I cut it shorter. So men seem to be pretty particular for at least this aspect (length).

 

I don't get the 'empowerment' from changing hair styles but have heard this theory and matches somewhat with my observations.

 

I'd not like it if my SO changes drastically hair / facial hair styles, but it is their choice, so I won't interfere. An ex of mine would alternate full beard to smooth - well, he looked much better with the beard because of his specific facial shape, so I won't date him if I met him in his shaved version, but since we were together already - it didn't matter. My last BF had shaved head - I'm not a fan of this style but he attracted me and I start seeing him looking good with it (plus he didn't have much choice due to bolding and greying).