Hair color and dating?

[Poe77]

So as we speak I am currently waiting for my hair to set once its done hopefully it will come out a nice snowy blue kinda color ive had my hair every color I can think of from purple to teal various shades of blond its gone the spectrum and as I sit here I kinda wonder how a persons hair color affects their lives and dating luckily I found a guy who likes my wild side when it comes to this.. but what are others thoughts on hair color in general I dont think ive seen a thread on this as of yet on here.. please keep it civil and respectful...Thanks guys

[Lorenza]

Well, the only thing I can say on this topic is that I've been way more desirable as blonde than brunette.

[umirano]

I think purple and green should be restricted to carnival and raves. Other than that I don't care too much about a girl's hair color or how often it changes.

[Eternal Sunshine]

I get much more attention as a blonde which sucks as I wish I could pull off the brunette better.

[Newcitygirl]

I get much more attention as a blonde which sucks as I wish I could pull off the brunette better.

 

I'm naturally a redhead got more attention as a brunette. I guess guys can't handle a redhead?

[eightytwenty]

I'm naturally a red head... Got a lot more attention as a brunette. Don't know why it is.. Feels like a guy has to be really into a red head or they don't want anything to do with them.

[umirano]

Feels like a guy has to be really into a red head or they don't want anything to do with them.

 

That's a real shame. I have yet to get with a RH though. I'm excited.

[Gaeta]

Funny you say that. This morning while I was getting ready for work my BF was telling me how he thinks I am beautiful as a natural brunette because seems nowadays all women are coloring their hair and it's not attractive to him.

 

My daughter (29) is a bit of a punk. She had her hair green, purple, red, name it. She always had more attention as a brunette, her natural color.

[Larryville]

I think purple and green should be restricted to carnival and raves.

 

I agree...

 

I know I might get blowback but from a dudes standpoint I’m being honest.

I have always seen either changing hair colors or extreme tattoos especially tats on the chest as people who are clamoring for attention or going thru some major life crisis

Changing hairstyles is really common during life transitions such as a break-up or a new career, major trauma because making the decision to do some wild color is in some ways empowering, but if you throw that out it is seemingly a cry for attention for some life changing reason.

I have seen (my ex daughter in law) who was absolutely gorgeous dye her hair all of these crazy colors, and did it well into her 30’s and nobody ever took her seriously.

Of course we all have free will to do what we want but in a relationship if I start dating you and I am attracted to you and like who you are why would you “dramatically” change the canvas?

[NuevoYorko]

I agree...

 

I know I might get blowback but from a dudes standpoint I’m being honest.

I have always seen either changing hair colors or extreme tattoos especially tats on the chest as people who are clamoring for attention or going thru some major life crisis

That's fine. You just wouldn't be compatible with someone like the OP who expresses herself through unique hair colors, etc. She needs to be with someone who appreciates it, which does exclude quite a few men. Nothing wrong with that; the right guys for her will love her rainbow hued hair.

[Larryville]

OP: but what are others thoughts on hair color in general

 

I want to be clear. If you are on OLD and you have a wild hair color in your profile then a dude makes the decision to be with that individual based on what he sees.

 

If you get into a relationship however and in the middle completely change your hair color to something completely off the mainstream that is what I am referring to.

 

I personally don’t care what color folks have their hair but the thread is about hair color in general. Not judging the hair color thing, but its possible effect on a relationship.

 

If a dude comes to like a wild change, cool.

[winny]

We are individuals on our own and free to choose any hair color irrespective of what any guy would think about it. Its my hair and I do whatever I want with it.

 

People who judge you based on your hair color need to go n get a life.

 

Also, I dont think having "extreme" hair colors somehow makes you wild. I have seen some of the most shy and socially awkward and sweet people having green n purple hair its all in your mind... No outer appearance can decide how wild or tame you are.

[eightytwenty]

 

People who judge you based on your hair color need to go n get a life.

 

Also, I dont think having "extreme" hair colors somehow makes you wild. I have seen some of the most shy and socially awkward and sweet people having green n purple hair its all in your mind... No outer appearance can decide how wild or tame you are.

 

People can't help what they like. I might be naturally red head and have red hair, but I wouldn't date a red head unless just something is right about him.. Just not something I'm been into.

 

That being said I have tattoos and I love guys with tattoos, but I don't date guys that have them . I have a flower set on my shoulder, my boyfriend does not like it and will never get one. Some things we can look past and some we can't... Just like if I ever end up single I won't be looking at a red head. I can't say I would never date one because every time I say I'll never buy a red horse, that's the one I end up buying because its the right fit.

[Larryville]

People who judge you based on your hair color need to go n get a life.

 

That’s the thing we “judge” on all sorts of things. Race, religion, politics, height, weight and hair color is but one. Some judge on hair "style". Hair braids, fake hair, Afros, beads, very short hair, no hair, or what you wear hijab for example.

 

Just like you have the right to make your hair whatever color you like, people have the “right” to reject whatever they want as well.

[introverted1]

Dyeing one's hair any color is a statement of sorts, so others are well within their rights to "judge" those statements just as we all judge each other to some extent based on appearance.

 

Also,some people dye their hair a color that just doesn't work with their skin tone, and this affects overall attractiveness regardless whether the color itself is acceptable. For instance, my skin tone could probably pull off blue hair but not pink, although I have no desire to dye my hair either of those colors.

 

Personally, I get the most attention as a deep brunette, which is my natural color. Maybe Mother Nature knows what she's doing.

[smackie9]

You mean mermaid hair color. My hairdresser has her hair like that. I say whatever floats your boat....just remember things like that you will end up limiting your chances.

[winny]

 

Just like you have the right to make your hair whatever color you like, people have the “right” to reject whatever they want as well.

 

But I am changing my own hair... They are getting bothered wifh someone else life choices which has nothing to do with them --- there is a big difference...

[eightytwenty]

But I am changing my own hair... They are getting bothered wifh someone else life choices which has nothing to do with them --- there is a big difference...

 

 

But if a guy isn't into wild colors or doesn't want to bring a pink haired girl to his parents that's his choice

[introverted1]

But I am changing my own hair... They are getting bothered wifh someone else life choices which has nothing to do with them --- there is a big difference...

 

Who said anything about being bothered? People have all sorts of physical preferences in a partner -- height, weight, race/ethnicity, dress style, etc. Hair color is just another metric in the complicated formula that makes for attraction (or not).

[kismetkismet]

I have had pretty much every hair colour and currently have blue/mermaid ish hari. I actually think that I get a lot more positive attention when my hair is differently coloured. I've been in relationships for most of the 3-4 years that I've had weird hair though so it's hard to say. My fiancé said he was initially really drawn to me partly because of my hair - and at the time it was a tealy green, which I would normally think is the least traditionally 'attractive' of the hair colours I've had. His previous girlfriend was super blonde and straight edge looking as well.

 

It 100% depends on your personal style and the style of people that you date. Plus we live in a big city and having different hair colours really isn't that unusual here. I don't have a ton of tattoos or piercings and I wear heels things quite a bit so it's kind of more fashion-y than it is punk-y.

[TheTraveler]

I was dating a woman this past summer who had red hair and blue eyes and I read it's the rarest type of woman on this planet. She looked almost exactly like Sansa Stark from GOT. Out and about strangers would always comment about it and she hated it lol and was considering dying her hair blonde or dark brown haha

 

I typically date blondes and love all the funky colors I see women have these days.

 

Definitely two thumbs up from me!

 

[Larryville]

But I am changing my own hair... They are getting bothered wifh someone else life choices

 

Winny: I am specifically talking about hair color (as is Introverted) in the context of a relationship NOT random people or strangers.

 

I actually think that I get a lot more positive attention when my hair is differently coloured.

 

This is talking about random strangers…

 

My fiancé said he was initially really drawn to me partly because of my hair - and at the time it was a tealy green

 

But was drawn to you because that was your hair color when you too met….

 

That’s cool, no problem BUT

 

I stated that if I meet you and you have what many might consider “normal” hair color and later you switch to something very wild, we would have issues.

 

Now I’m older, in my 50’s would not jive with me specifically but the other issue would be if I wanted you to come to a VIP event or function (I work in a facility that does this all the time, very high level people) if someone I was with changed to pink hair that would not be cool. Maybe “some” guys would not have an issue, but many would, especially if it came out of the blue.

 

But OP specifically said: I kinda wonder how a persons hair color affects their lives and dating

[kismetkismet]

I'm talking about how it's affected my dating life.. and OBVIOUSLY it's something that is going to vary according to your age and personal style.

 

The OP asked how it affected dating - when i said i got more positive attention I was referring to attention from the opposite sex/guys that wanted to date me.. i feel like that was pretty clear.

 

I also stated that it obviously has something to do with your personal style, and the style of the person that you're dating. You're in your 50s and work in a highly professional industry. I work in an office as well and have a high salaried job - but I'm in design and marketing for the restaurant industry, and am an artist.. We would run in different circles.

 

The OP asked how it affects people lives and dating and I responded with how it affected my life and my dating I certainly can't answer for every person haha and my comments weren't in response to yours at all.

[kismetkismet]

Oh and as for the change, I did start dying my hair crazy colours while in the middle of a relationship and he loved it - HOWEVER, my style is already somewhat 'edgier' to begin with and thus something he was attracted to. Hopefully when we're dating people we're dating people that have similar tastes and lifestyles to us. any kind of dramatic 180 in appearance would be unsettling. If my Fiancé suddenly started dressing in suits and loafers I would be both alarmed and turned off. But I imagine t would be an indicator of more than just a change of clothing. (Obviously if he was doing it because it was a requirement of work that would be different, but we are in similar industries)

[Haydn]

In my `Blonde bombshell` phase. (I feel fantastic)