Kkristine Posted December 5, 2016 Posted December 5, 2016 I've been interested in this guy for about a month now. We spend time together in a group setting, as his best friend and my best friend are dating. So, he always initiates that the 4 of us hang out. Examples of hanging out have been: going to a nice dinner, grabbing drinks, and just spending time at the house together. He also invited me to Vegas with the 3 of them. The amount of times we hang out have been rising since the beginning. I see him at least twice a week, this past week it was 4 times. He works 48 hours a week, so I'd like to think that he's interested in me as well if he wants to spend all of his free time around me, but who knows. He does flirt and tease me. We drove by my ex's house the other night because we were going to dinner around the block, and I mentioned the entire "cheating" story to him, and he said he would mess with his stuff in his garage, and do other things. Then, he went on to make fun of him and his landscaping. The problem is, we text in a group. He's initiated texting with me privately a couple of times about some inside joke or something. But, we haven't had actual private conversations, and he hasn't made any type of move. He "gets around", but he doesn't hang out with women. If that makes sense. He's a genuinely good guy and keeps saying that he's burnt out and ready to settle down. He even applied to go back to college last week. At a bar the other night, my friend pointed out a few good looking men to me, and I immaturely acted all excited about it. He then starts talking about a girl he's interested in, and shows us her picture. That's the only time he's ever talked about a girl around me, but he is single.
mortensorchid Posted December 5, 2016 Posted December 5, 2016 If he's telling you that he's interested in another woman, he's telling you that he's interested in another woman. And that other woman does not sound like it's you. He'll just be a friend. Move on from your thoughts about him and treat him as your friend and nothing else. 2
winny Posted December 5, 2016 Posted December 5, 2016 He's a genuinely good guy and keeps saying that he's burnt out and ready to settle down. -->>> Doesn't mean he wants to settle down with you. And genuinely good guy based on what? I once was told by very good friends of mine that so and so guy is very nice and I must give him a chance, turned out to be a huge jerk. How a guy behaves with his friends is no proof of how he would treat a woman. He then starts talking about a girl he's interested in, and shows us her picture. That's the only time he's ever talked about a girl around me, but he is single. -->>> Stop building castles in the air and getting high hopes. Right now he only considers you a friend. Most guys flirt around. That is no proof of him liking you as a lady he would want to date. Be yourself, do your own thing, enjoy his friendship and company and give it more time to see if he makes any moves which are more obvious. However if he keeps talking about this other woman then you have to skip this one.
smackie9 Posted December 5, 2016 Posted December 5, 2016 A guy doesn't just tells you he likes you.....what he does is asks you out on a date. 1
Methodical Posted December 5, 2016 Posted December 5, 2016 I've been interested in this guy for about a month now. We spend time together in a group setting, as his best friend and my best friend are dating. So, he always initiates that the 4 of us hang out. Examples of hanging out have been: going to a nice dinner, grabbing drinks, and just spending time at the house together. He also invited me to Vegas with the 3 of them. He's initiated texting with me privately a couple of times about some inside joke or something. But, we haven't had actual private conversations, and he hasn't made any type of move. At a bar the other night, my friend pointed out a few good looking men to me, and I immaturely acted all excited about it. He then starts talking about a girl he's interested in, and shows us her picture. That's the only time he's ever talked about a girl around me, but he is single. He always initiates the 4 of you hanging out. What have you done to show interest? It's likely that he wants more than a casual relationship but you've given him a "buddy" vibe. Then again, he may be inviting you along bc he doesn't want to feel like a third wheel. Having you along for the ride creates a balance. Pointing out good looking men may have been his way of baiting and gauging your interest in him. Since you took the bait, he responded with a pic. of another girl. Sounds like a lot of cat and mouse play to me. If you are interested, do some of the initiating to show interest. No need to be a wallflower.
Sunkissedpatio Posted December 5, 2016 Posted December 5, 2016 He pulled out the other woman he likes to make you jealous, or worse yet because he felt jealous that you reacted as you did about the hot guys in the bar. It's laughable that he said that and chances are he is probably mildly interested in that girl. If he is really interested what is stopping him from making a move on her? Is it he who keeps asking you to join the 4 of them on these outings or is it your friend who sets it up because her guy wants his guy friend to join and therefore they need a fourth person? What's stopping you from initiating text conversation? If you want to have one-one text convo then initiate it yourself. You will be able to gauge his interest from that.
bachdude Posted December 5, 2016 Posted December 5, 2016 Tough call. Why would he feel the need to share the picture with you right at the moment you got all giddy over the good looking guys? Pay back? Maybe a little teasing? A little of both. Don't know. He also seems like a guy who is passive. He is interested in another woman yet he is hanging around you all the time? Why isn't he asking her out and spending time with her instead of you? Is he going to carry her pic around in his wallet the rest of his life without actually doing something about it? Right now he is choosing to invite you. Time to kick it up a notch I'd say. Turn on a little female flirting. Touch his arm. Sit closer to him. Whisper something in his ear. Come up with reasons for him to be close to you. Show him a video on your phone so you have to stand close. See his reaction.
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