justagirl1121 Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 Can u help me out with analyzing what this means.....you may have read my other posts abt the guy i like. basically, we dont work together anymore, i've known him for about 10 mo. i havent seen him in like 5 weeks since we stopped working together. our converstations were basically, he called me when we found ou twe were done, he called me at th eend of that week. then i called him a few days later and he didnt call me back, so like 4 days later i called and talked to him for a while nad tried to get him to go out with me and my friends, but he didnt knkow, so i tol dhim to call back the next day, which he did nad said he couldnt go.... so then i didnt talk to him for about 2 weeks. i didnt want to call him but i did. i left a msg. he called me like 2 days later and there was some p hone tag but by the end of the night he didnt call me back and we talked. at the end he told me he'd probably call me sometime the following week. (an i will call u, not a 'call me sometime' ok....) but he called me the next day already! to give me a num to call about a job. we talked for a while.... that was last friday. i wasnt sure if he would call me back the following week like he'd said in th efirst call or if since he called me friday again that would make it my turn to call or what......but he called me wed night! i didnt get to answer th ephone tho. so i will call him later tonight. but he left me a WEIRD msg. he was like 'oh no u didnt! oh no u didtn! oh girlfriend, oh no u didnt make me see your voicemail!!....that was the first part of th emsg, at th eend he was basically like 'was just seeing what was goin on, catch ya later....' so to me it seems hopeful? but i dont know what to really think. but my thing is, he called me without me leaving him a msg to respond back to or anything, so otherwise he probably wouldnt have called me again if he didnt want to talk to me at all right??? what should i do? what might he be thinking? at work there was flirting and joking around, picking on each other. ppl at work made comments like to me 'where's your boy?' and "you two are *FLIRTING* it is out of control.." and one girl was like out of the blue to me 'you two will end up going out" i was like "---what??" etc.... ???? I'm lost.......
crazy_grl Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 Originally posted by justagirl1121 ???? I'm lost....... You're not the only one... From what you said, I think he's interested, but I seriously got lost in the middle of all that calling, calling back, not calling back, messaging, etc., etc. My advice to you is to RELAX. Stop overanalyzing. I used to do that too, and you'll just drive yourself crazy. Ask him if he wants to go out for a drink, to a movie or something. Then you'll have your answer. You won't have to worry about what his calling or lack of calling means.
unsafe Posted July 15, 2005 Posted July 15, 2005 Ok yeah I agree I kinda got lost with the calling and calling back stuff. But you sound similar to me. Hahahaha I tell total details. You seem like you have axiety about and maybe your stomach hurts when you think about it. You just want to know. Insecure maybe? I am...I am not pointing fingers. I am just saying I can relate to the feelings. But if you are needy he will sense it and run. unless he is codependant which it doesn't sound like. You need to be comfortable with yourself weather he is or isn't interested. If you don't want to play the game you need to find another boy. Other wise just kick back and have fun while the road ahead of you day by day gets clearer. It sounds like he is interested. But guys are different. He likes you he doesn't seem like he is that interested in a relationship. But that doesn't mean in time he won't. Some guy takes longer to realize they have a good thing and need to hold on to it. Just give it time. And remember there are a ton of guys out there. Don't wait on this guy. Go out and have fun too. Unless you are talking and dating alot. I would say you should have him as one of your guys and if and when he is ready to show you more of a commitment then you can drop the others if he is the one you want to be with. Does this make sense? I need to listen to my own advice. Really. But its true I talk to tons of people about problems I have with men cause I don't get men each man is different and they are all so confusing to understand. Women are the same but...for me. We are women so we can kinda understand more. Anyway just try to relax go out with your girlfriends have fun. Dont wait around for him if he is that interested he will keep pursuing you. dont play to hard to get but don't wait on him either. Good luck!
Author justagirl1121 Posted July 16, 2005 Author Posted July 16, 2005 Sorry, I start to ramble b/c i have so many thoughts lol.... Basically to sum up the whole phone thing, is that he called me 3 times in a row, and the second and third time were not in response to replying back to MY call. Maybe he just wants to be friends, our work schedules are not screwy, he works some weekends, I will be starting working the weekends HE'S off, etc..... He'd say things over the months at work and I couldn't be sure if he was trying to tell me something or what. He'd tease me about this otehr guy tim, calling him my bf and stuff, once he said "if a guy is interested, he'll let you know" but i'm not so sure that's really true...? My friend from college tells me guys (and people) like me, I just don't know it...but I've never had a guy ask me out before, and I told one guy I liked him and his response was that he liked someone else....so it's hard for me to tell, b/c the guy i told i liked talked to me over the internet alllllll tetime and we all hung out a lot and i even hung out with him a bit on my own, so you can see how i'm confused by the signs!! unsafe, you got me pretty good as far as the way i'm feeling and stuff. i am pretty insecure, maybe it is because i analyze people too much, i'm not needy but i do like to feel like i am wanted, which sometimes i dont feel from people who should be my friends, you know....but other people seem to meet others and i can't seem to get anywhere with this stuff, and this time i have put quite a lot of effort into it, tho i never really told him how i feel or anything of that sort, it's a long story, there's lots of details involved that to me, even looking at it subjectively and being my own worst critic, i would say he's interested in me! maybe you're right, i hope you are, nad it just takes time. once i guess he thought some girl was talking about him and he was like 'lets walk closer, maybe she'll think you're my girlfriend and not do anything" i dont know what that was about....that's only one example. i would move on, exept, its kind of like i have him in my head nad i can't see anyone else. i realllllly like this guy, and not because i think he's hot or anything. i actually didnt think so much when i first met him but the more i got to know him and we b/c closer friends, the more i realllly liked his personality, and the more i'm attracted to him physically, if that makes sense..... but besides not being interested in anyone else b/c of that, there's no one aroudn that i come in contact with to even try for, and i do go out to bars with my friends and stuff but no like....opportunities ever arise. i am not needy, but i am at a point in my life where i DO need someone else in my life. when i was working, and working with him, things felt pretty good about life. then when thos eboth went away, and i also still live at home, things just seemed to be missing, any sense of accomplishment and security (personally, financially, socially, etc)... i guess i'm just trying to find out as much as possible from other people on how ppl think and stuff
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