kirby96 Posted December 4, 2016 Posted December 4, 2016 I met a guy online last Sunday and he proposed we get breakfast on Saturday, to which we did. I had a good time and after the date he said he did too. Later in the day around 6PM i texted him, and he did not reply. This is strange because he always replies to me, and when he doesn't reply after hours he usually later replies and says he is sorry and continues conversation. My friend (who he doesn't know nor does he have her number) texted him later in the night saying something random, just trying to see if he was avoiding my text (even though I told her not to because obviously my feelings would be hurt if i knew he was purposely avoiding me) and he replied within minutes. Today it is Sunday in the early afternoon and i still have yet to receive anything. I talked to my friend who DOES know him and she said she thinks he is going to reply because she suggests he is just trying to look cool. I know he does not owe me anything, but I think it sucks that he probably isn't interested in me, when i was totally interested in him. Any thoughts or suggestions you have for me? What do you think?
winny Posted December 4, 2016 Posted December 4, 2016 Step back.... You are investing way too much into a guy after 1 date... What are you gonna do if he ghosts you after having sex??? Stop over analyzing, talking to friends about this, sending him texts thru them... These are not healthy behaviors at all... I can see you driving past his house if he dumps you after dating you. Get a hold of yourself... If he likes you, he will get back. 8
losangelena Posted December 4, 2016 Posted December 4, 2016 My advice is to not have any expectations after one date. 99% of dating is rejection, one person liking the other more, etc. It happens. Yeah, it sucks, but he's not the last person you'll ever be interested in. 5
smackie9 Posted December 4, 2016 Posted December 4, 2016 Men don't text you back because they don't want to. Welcome to the world of dating....rejection is just part of life. Move on. 5
salparadise Posted December 4, 2016 Posted December 4, 2016 If he's playing games by not returning your text, he's an idiot. If he's really not interested and this is his way to communicating that, he's an idiot. He'd need to be in the hospital, in traction to get a pass on it. If he's not interested... I'm sorry. Sometimes it happens to women too. Men have to deal wth that all the time. Don't lose any sleep or take it personally. Better luck next time. 4
Gaeta Posted December 4, 2016 Posted December 4, 2016 Everything that was said before meeting face to face does not count. When you meet face to face everything goes back to square 1. It doesn't matter he always replied promptly before meeting. Now that he met you he is not interested anymore and he's disappearing on you. You just met him once, you should not care at all if he gets back to you or not. 6
Karine26 Posted December 4, 2016 Posted December 4, 2016 Do you look like your pictures online? All of my male friends say this is the number one reason they ignore a girl after a first online date, even if they were really excited before the date. The second reason is bc they feel that the girl is "crazy" or socially awkward (overly shy, giving one word answers and not asking any questions or won't stop talking about "nothing"). But yea it was one date. If your pictures are not deceiving I would just chalk it up and say it is his loss ) 1
RoseHeart Posted December 5, 2016 Posted December 5, 2016 I doubt he is not responding to look "cool" or anything like that. Considering that he has not been doing that the whole time you've been talking prior to the date, tells me he is not interested and just trying to let you down easily. It's very strange for someone to ignore you after a date if they actually was interested and has been consistent in responding to you prior the date. If he has been unreliable prior it would make semi sense but this sudden twist is a red flag. Don't contact him again and wait it out. But please don't get hopes up or think this is the end. I've been on many dates with guys who just stopped responding a few days later and it's tough but don't give up. I met my match at the end after all those failed dates and I'm happy it didn't worry with any of them. One day you'll feel that way too xx 3
Erik30 Posted December 5, 2016 Posted December 5, 2016 He probably lost interest after meeting you IRL, and is now doing the fade. Maybe he already had some doubts because getting breakfast seems a bit weird to me as a first date, and this was on a Saturday.. That's more like something you would do with a friend. He might have even had a date with another girl in the evening, so that's why you were getting Saturday morning.
ilovemefirst Posted December 5, 2016 Posted December 5, 2016 Hes clearly not interested. And if hes playing hard to get like your friend says, then hes immature. Either ways, hes not right for you. 1
Author kirby96 Posted December 5, 2016 Author Posted December 5, 2016 Thank you all for your honest words. He never texted me and I'm sure he won't, but I'm over it! 1
leogirl876 Posted December 5, 2016 Posted December 5, 2016 Thank you all for your honest words. He never texted me and I'm sure he won't, but I'm over it! It's waaaaay better to find this out after 1 date and no investment or sex on your part, then if you went out on lets say 5-10 dates, had sex with him and then he ghosted. Count your blessings, he did you a favor!!! 1
RoseHeart Posted December 6, 2016 Posted December 6, 2016 Thank you all for your honest words. He never texted me and I'm sure he won't, but I'm over it! Good for you! You can do better and with that attitude, you will find a great guy soon 2
Author kirby96 Posted December 18, 2016 Author Posted December 18, 2016 He texted me last night at 2AM.... yeah LOL Obviously I didn't reply because it was clearly a booty call, and of course I lost interest a while ago. 1
HereNorThere Posted December 18, 2016 Posted December 18, 2016 He texted me last night at 2AM.... yeah LOL Obviously I didn't reply because it was clearly a booty call, and of course I lost interest a while ago. Good for you not taking the bait! There's nothing more attractive than a strong woman who doesn't fall for that kinda crap! You'll find what you're looking for, OP. Be patient and keep maintaining your integrity. It will pay off in the end. 2
winny Posted December 18, 2016 Posted December 18, 2016 He texted me last night at 2AM.... yeah LOL Obviously I didn't reply because it was clearly a booty call, and of course I lost interest a while ago. Awesome Kirby!!! What a low class man!!! I wish for you to meet someone great soon!
purrrfectlyflawed Posted December 18, 2016 Posted December 18, 2016 I am online dating too I hate it but its what I am doing. If he didn't reply back after the first message he Is not interested. The first initial meeting should be brief. Coffee. A drink. Breakfast sounds ok. you are going to have to get used to rejection, as well as doing the rejecting. Be honest and up front. If after the date you don't feel any spark let him know. If you want to see him again let him know. Either way if a guy is interested he will see you again and reply back to texts. you could have this massive connection with someone only to meet online and be disappointed. This time around I have met 2 guys. First guy zero interest he had nasty teeth and didn't show them in any of the pics. Second guy I met last night and just did a thread on him. Super cute and he is texting me, and we have another date planned but all guys my age have baggage. Women too. it's to be expected. I am picky so I have no idea what will happen. good luck.
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