rose27 Posted December 2, 2016 Posted December 2, 2016 I feel like I've been going through a never ending breakup. I dated a guy I work with and he promised me a future. I went through a lot of heartache with previous relationships so when he suddenly left, I was devastated, despite the fact that we were not together for a very long time. Since we broke up, working together has unsurprisingly been difficult. I see him at least once a day. I have also noticed myself becoming obsessed with his interactions with other females at work. For example, if I see him chatting to another female co-worker and they're both getting along and laughing etc., I start to worry that he's somehow using his 'charm' to win them over. All of the women in my workplace are taken, so there's a very high chance that I am overthinking everything. I know this is not normal, but it gives me major anxiety. I can only put it down to when my ex of 4 years (he was also once the love of my life) left me and replaced me with someone else who he proposed to within 4 months. It was humiliating and heartbreaking. He then broke up with his fiancé, came back to me, then met someone else who he decided to settle down with and marry. I have had a fear of being 'replaced' ever since. I am looking for a new job because I realise that this is unhealthy and it's affecting my health. I just wish I could stop making up scenarios in my head because I feel like I'm going insane! Does anyone else understand? I feel like a total psycho right now 1
fromheart Posted December 2, 2016 Posted December 2, 2016 Its understandable and quite common, there's nothing wrong with you. We all feel that way. It sounds like you have fully processed the breakup of your ex. When we don't process these things, it can leave us susceptible to people who don't treat us as well as we deserve. Maybe take a break from relationships and do some self work on the past? If you love your job, don't leave it if possible. 2
salem mark Posted December 3, 2016 Posted December 3, 2016 It happens, ignore him and keep looking for a new job and leave 1
Satu Posted December 3, 2016 Posted December 3, 2016 snip I know this is not normal, but it gives me major anxiety. Not only is it normal, its to be expected. Detaching is a painful process. Very painful. But you'll get through it. To answer your question: Whats wrong with you, is the fact that you think there's something wrong with you. Take care.
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