ElizabethIII Posted December 3, 2016 Posted December 3, 2016 BUT he did pay for the Uber, so basically if he paid for a trip that took 30 mins longer than anticipated, then he is not going to be happy about that, hence I see the need to send the screenshot. I read it as the uber driver messing up the map and setting the location 30mins away. She was taken home, but the uber driver messed the map up. If you read the Op again, I think that is what she meant. She was taken home and told him to check with the uber driver about the map. 1
MarkIVSteel Posted December 3, 2016 Posted December 3, 2016 The fact that it would even occur to him that this could be any of his business puts this firmly in the "serious bullet dodged" category. Scary. Well, he paid for the ride and the app shows the progress of the ride so yeah, it's his business. If you don't want someone seeing your ride progress, you don't let them pay for you. 2
OatsAndHall Posted December 3, 2016 Posted December 3, 2016 The fact that it would even occur to him that this could be any of his business puts this firmly in the "serious bullet dodged" category. Scary. I think it's natural for people to jump to the worst conclusion in many situations. We're geared toward a negative response naturally: any stress induces adrenal hormones to release which make us edgy, to one degree or another. But, how people respond to that little twinge of anxiety is what makes or breaks us. This guy took it too far. 2
LargoLagg Posted December 3, 2016 Posted December 3, 2016 (edited) So im in uber and tell the driver to stop 1km before the actual destination since there are different ways to get in my condo and i know a shortcut. Sounds like a lie. Nobody "stops" for a shortcut. They turn, or maybe they go straight. They don't stop, unless you were dropped off and were going to cut across a field or something.. BUT THEN YOU SAYSo now my date is txting if im home allright and i say yes THEN asks why i stopped at a strange location. Basically the uber driver messed up and instead of stopping at my adress , she ended up putting on the map that she left me at another location about 30 min from my place. Wait! Your address? Or 1KM from your address? Which is it? I'm not saying you're lying, but your story, as told, doesn't add up. Why was he tracking you? I can think of three reasons: Some of the stories you've told him don't add up either, and he doesn't exactly trust you. Or, he actually cared whether you got home or not. Or, he is controlling. You know what? You're probably never going to find out. I wouldn't waste my time if I were him. Too many fish in the sea, and this one smells rotten. Move on. Edited December 3, 2016 by LargoLagg 3
OnlyHonesty Posted December 3, 2016 Posted December 3, 2016 Maybe he was following the 3 dates sex rule for dating.
eightytwenty Posted December 3, 2016 Posted December 3, 2016 Maybe he just thought it was fishy and decided to not want to mess with you anymore... Some guys in the beginning feels or something is off they rather just not mess with it and find another. 1
NuevoYorko Posted December 3, 2016 Posted December 3, 2016 Well, he paid for the ride and the app shows the progress of the ride so yeah, it's his business. If you don't want someone seeing your ride progress, you don't let them pay for you. That's just wrong. A person who pays for or buys something for another person doesn't automatically have the right to stalk them. I bought my partner an Iphone. Does this mean I have the right to put tracking software on it, follow them and get copies of all their texts and calls? Not in my world. 2
Sunkissedpatio Posted December 3, 2016 Posted December 3, 2016 Aside from the whole moral argument of the tracking aspect of this situation, or that he paid, in the only circumstance this bozo would be justified to confront the OP is to claim extra fare $$ for a fare wrongfully logged on the app. Other than that, after 3 dates, it is none of his ****n business where she went or to who's house she went. Even if she was stopping to blow 10 guys on her way home, it's none of is f'n business. 3 Dates people! 3 dates. He is welcome to think what he wants but to accuse her as he did...BYE! He sounds psycho. 5
bachdude Posted December 3, 2016 Posted December 3, 2016 Aside from the whole moral argument of the tracking aspect of this situation, or that he paid, in the only circumstance this bozo would be justified to confront the OP is to claim extra fare $$ for a fare wrongfully logged on the app. Other than that, after 3 dates, it is none of his ****n business where she went or to who's house she went. Even if she was stopping to blow 10 guys on her way home, it's none of is f'n business. 3 Dates people! 3 dates. He is welcome to think what he wants but to accuse her as he did...BYE! He sounds psycho. He didn't accuse her of anything, other than implying she was lying about where she was. 1
Sunkissedpatio Posted December 4, 2016 Posted December 4, 2016 (edited) Implying she was lying is an accusation, that she's lying. And then on top of it when she explained herself. Basically the uber driver messed up and instead of stopping at my adress , she ended up putting on the map that she left me at another location about 30 min from my place. Basically an error with her map. I didnt realize this till my date screenshot the map and sent it to me with "sure ". I replied with "??? Edited December 4, 2016 by Sunkissedpatio 2
bachdude Posted December 4, 2016 Posted December 4, 2016 Implying she was lying is an accusation, that she's lying. Yes, I said "other than", which means that was an accusation. Her didn't accuse her of the things you listed. 1
Sunkissedpatio Posted December 4, 2016 Posted December 4, 2016 No the things I listed were to point out that it is none of his business where she went, EVEN if those were her next stops. He asked if she got in ok. She said yes. End of story. 1
bachdude Posted December 4, 2016 Posted December 4, 2016 No the things I listed were to point out that it is none of his business where she went, EVEN if those were her next stops. He asked if she got in ok. She said yes. End of story. Where are you getting that he thought they would have been his business? You're making a huge assumption about why he looked at the snap shot. 1
joseb Posted December 4, 2016 Posted December 4, 2016 People seem to be either not understanding or ignoring how uber works. He paid for her uber. Which means it's his account. Which means it sends you a message with the bill and the final destination on it. There isn't any "stalking". Uber notified him. I'm the last to assume the worst, be paranoid or track anyone. But presented with the info this guy got, I would probably bail on this girl assuming she was not interested. 9/10 times it would be the right thing to do. 4
bachdude Posted December 4, 2016 Posted December 4, 2016 (edited) He agreed to pay for her ride HOME. So yes, it is his business. Edited December 4, 2016 by bachdude 1
Sunkissedpatio Posted December 4, 2016 Posted December 4, 2016 He's a bozo. He went from super into her to not letting her explain her side of things and writing her off with a "sure ;)" when she said she actually did go home, to completely ignoring her. His age came through in his petty reaction. OP move on, this guy will be an insecure, jealous nightmare if you make him your boyfriend. The fact he never even allowed you the opportunity to explain your side of things speaks to his mental imbalance. 2
joseb Posted December 4, 2016 Posted December 4, 2016 He's a bozo. He went from super into her to not letting her explain her side of things and writing her off with a "sure ;)" when she said she actually did go home, to completely ignoring her. His age came through in his petty reaction. OP move on, this guy will be an insecure, jealous nightmare if you make him your boyfriend. The fact he never even allowed you the opportunity to explain your side of things speaks to his mental imbalance. I agree with you on the first part. Him coming on that strong is definitely a red flag. So OP is maybe better off out of it. However, i don't think he is "mentally imbalanced" because he doesn't believe the OPs not very well enunciated explanation (It even sounds fishy on here with all the stop for shortcut versus 30 mins away map, makes no sense). 1
losangelena Posted December 4, 2016 Posted December 4, 2016 People seem to be either not understanding or ignoring how uber works. He paid for her uber. Which means it's his account. Which means it sends you a message with the bill and the final destination on it. There isn't any "stalking". Uber notified him. I'm the last to assume the worst, be paranoid or track anyone. But presented with the info this guy got, I would probably bail on this girl assuming she was not interested. 9/10 times it would be the right thing to do. This is exactly how uber works. And having been both a passenger and a driver, I can tell you that sometimes the GPS data is incorrect. I think this guy was in the wrong to simply assume that OP was up to no good. For him to ask why she made an extra stop and then condescendingly say, "sure," without ever waiting for an explanation, is a d*ckish move. A reasonable person would maybe ask, if curious, and wait to an explanation before deciding what to do. This guy's rashness is a problem, whether it be coming on too strong or jumping to conclusions. I think if he really liked OP and respected her, he would have maybe waited to address this in person. But no, especially after not getting 3rd date sex, it seems he's just looking for a reason to be out the door. Either way, good riddance. OP, you don't need a guy like that in your life. Not someone who's going to accuse you of things without getting your side of the story first. 3
Sunkissedpatio Posted December 4, 2016 Posted December 4, 2016 I agree with you on the first part. Him coming on that strong is definitely a red flag. So OP is maybe better off out of it. However, i don't think he is "mentally imbalanced" because he doesn't believe the OPs not very well enunciated explanation (It even sounds fishy on here with all the stop for shortcut versus 30 mins away map, makes no sense). I think it was totally ok for him to question where she went I can see how that would look suspect. But not how he reacted that's not normal. He barely knows her and he just accused her and never let her explain. That's the imbalance part. 1
Author chanel003 Posted December 4, 2016 Author Posted December 4, 2016 Wow! I was not expecting this many replies! Thanks everyone!! I just wanted to add that i understand where he's coming from so i get that he found the uber issue weird because i did too. But the fact he ghosted hurts a little, didn't even bother listening to what i had to say. I actually ended up sending a light text on friday repeating that uber made a mistake and i said that i use uber too so i know he'll see that map, so why would i lie. Anyways he didn't reply back but is updating his social media profile periodically. I mean obv he's entitled to his opinions/feelings but i keep remembering our conversation, dates ect. and some places we were gonna go eat at and it just sucks how someone can act so into you and then vanish. Uhg just need to ramble a little bit.
Author chanel003 Posted December 4, 2016 Author Posted December 4, 2016 He's a bozo. He went from super into her to not letting her explain her side of things and writing her off with a "sure ;)" when she said she actually did go home, to completely ignoring her. His age came through in his petty reaction. OP move on, this guy will be an insecure, jealous nightmare if you make him your boyfriend. The fact he never even allowed you the opportunity to explain your side of things speaks to his mental imbalance. I'm seriously going to have to keep reminding this to myself. Thanks! 2
Author chanel003 Posted December 4, 2016 Author Posted December 4, 2016 Wow! I was not expecting this many replies! Thanks everyone!! I just wanted to add that i understand where he's coming from so i get that he found the uber issue weird because i did too. But the fact he ghosted hurts a little, didn't even bother listening to what i had to say. I actually ended up sending a light text on friday repeating that uber made a mistake and i said that i use uber too so i know he'll see that map, so why would i lie. Anyways he didn't reply back but is updating his social media profile periodically. I mean obv he's entitled to his opinions/feelings but i keep remembering our conversation, dates ect. and some places we were gonna go eat at and it just sucks how someone can act so into you and then vanish. Uhg just need to ramble a little bit. edit: woops double post 1
Sunkissedpatio Posted December 4, 2016 Posted December 4, 2016 It's so infuriating. You did nothing wrong and on top of it he wrote you off before you could even explain. Do remind yourself that a person like that is not worth having in your life. It's like someone else said he is probably mad because you wouldn't put out and using this as an excuse. Very immature. 1
winny Posted December 4, 2016 Posted December 4, 2016 Wow! I was not expecting this many replies! Thanks everyone!! I just wanted to add that i understand where he's coming from so i get that he found the uber issue weird because i did too. But the fact he ghosted hurts a little, didn't even bother listening to what i had to say. I actually ended up sending a light text on friday repeating that uber made a mistake and i said that i use uber too so i know he'll see that map, so why would i lie. Anyways he didn't reply back but is updating his social media profile periodically. I mean obv he's entitled to his opinions/feelings but i keep remembering our conversation, dates ect. and some places we were gonna go eat at and it just sucks how someone can act so into you and then vanish. Uhg just need to ramble a little bit. edit: woops double post Message him - "LOSER!!!" and then block him... :laugh:
joseb Posted December 4, 2016 Posted December 4, 2016 I think it was totally ok for him to question where she went I can see how that would look suspect. But not how he reacted that's not normal. He barely knows her and he just accused her and never let her explain. That's the imbalance part. Yeah I'll concede that. Definitely a bit of a knee jerk reaction. I think it was a case of heavy petting but no sex +weird uber story = he decided not worth the hassle 1
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