guyonline Posted December 2, 2016 Posted December 2, 2016 Well lets begin with the simple things, we have been dating for 5+years now, met in college and recently graduated. After several months I was able to get a job and have been working for a year, she wanted to take her time and look at doing advance education/another degree. Which I supported, though she isn't sure several months later and is still deciding. She tends to spend most of her time just watching TV/movies all day. For me it feels like I am in a limbo state with the relationship. We have talked about marriage, she isn't really into the idea at least for a while and kids, she doesn't want them any time soon. She had mentioned if I were to propose any time soon, she wouldn't say yes. I understand she hasn't traveled much and just getting out of school you need time off, but I don't see when that will be enough. Its hard to look to the future when all I see is a big unknown factor to kids, marriage and advancing our relationship. When it comes to meeting her extended family, she gets excited when I am going to meet them and actually encourages me to meet them which it does show signs she still wants me to be with her. I guess I am looking for a second opinion, when is it enough time before I start to push her to go for a career/advancing our relationship/setting new goals?etc. 1
WhatYouWantToHear Posted December 2, 2016 Posted December 2, 2016 when is it enough time before I start to push her to go for a career/advancing our relationship/setting new goals? Never. You shouldn't push people towards goals you want. That's selfish. What you should do is explain how important those things are to you. See if they are important to her and if not, it might be time to move on from this relationship. 1
Satu Posted December 2, 2016 Posted December 2, 2016 Never. You shouldn't push people towards goals you want. That's selfish. What you should do is explain how important those things are to you. See if they are important to her and if not, it might be time to move on from this relationship. Exactly. Just as you said it.
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