what456 Posted July 15, 2005 Posted July 15, 2005 well, my ex didn't dump me..i dumped him first. then we started to get along really well and we were kind of in the middle for a long time....i really liked him and we got along well but he was still hung up on his ex. i don't deserve that. i actually fell in love with him..but didn't tell him until a year later. he is still in that stage where he wants to have alot of girls and doesn't want to settle down. he knows i love him and on three separate occassions i have asked him if he wanted to get back together but he has always said i dont want a girl friend..the timing is not right etc. so, finally the last and third time) i was like screw you...he always tried to act like he was my boyfriend...getting jealous, calling, etc. and i didn't want to be in the limbo any more. finally, the last time he told me he couldn't do a long distance relationship and that he didn't want a girlfriend so i was like ok fine whatever...and he said that "we aren't in a relationship and that our relationship was done--it is what it is". he was rude... But i have feelings for you and i care about you. he doesn't or else he wouldn't be doing what he is doing..and the way he got off the phone...he was mad at me and doesn't want to talk to me....when i should have been mad at him!!! whatever, i have sent him this closure email and have trained my mind NEVER to talk to him again. i am not mad at him..i have done my all and that's what counts. also, i was always nice to him and cared about him and even when we were broken up i never dated anyone . i am not chasing him anymore...i deserve better than that. if it is meant to be they will come back..if not then they were not the one for you. i will be seeing him next weekend. i am scared but i am not ever going to let him have that satisfaction. he knows that i am nervous seeing him but he hasn't called me so i am thinking that he wants me to feel wierd. i still don't get why he would be mad at me though!
queenie01 Posted July 15, 2005 Posted July 15, 2005 Well whatever you do, DONT CONTACT HIM!! I have finally learned this...YEAH FOR ME!! HA!! Good luck when you see him and dont give in. You are right, if its meant to be they will come back but the question will be, would we still want them? Karma is a bi*ch!! What goes around comes around!
what456 Posted July 15, 2005 Posted July 15, 2005 yeah i believe in that too... i won't give in to him because i have seen the way he has treated me...so rude for no reason. sometime i think that he was rude to because he was getting some revenge back from the past.... i wrote him an email..closure email and feel so much better...this is what i said" i am not going to say what goes around comes around. But i am going to tell you that i feel sorry for you...you changed from the man you use to be to the boy you are now. I will be praying for you." the email was way longer than that...but i had so much questions...so i had to write it. maybe he found someone else, maybe he wanted sex either way...what he did was wrong. i asked him if he did find someone else and laughed and was like no....i asked him a few time actually.... he didn't try anything when he saw me but it seemed to me that he didn't want anything to do with me afterwards...so, there is a good possibility that he was mad because he didnt get what he wanted...i don't know...i just don't want to think about it anymore
queenie01 Posted July 15, 2005 Posted July 15, 2005 I like that email...it sounds good! I understand you had lots of questions, i did too and i have no regrets in asking him them. I even asked him if him and his ex got back together because honestly i thought there was someone else...it would have made so much more sense to me if he went back to her or found someone else, because honestly the way he ended things was so out of the blue it was all i could think. Now my mind is set on the fact that he has commitment problems that stem from his childhood, thats really all it could be. I tried to get him back in the beginning when he broke up with me and i tried to convince him we could work things out...after i got denied by him, i decided screw it. I am done trying...i know i was an awesome gf..even he told me when he broke up with me that it wasnt an easy decision for him because i am such a great gf and he said i have done more for him than anyone has, also said it sucked losign me.. I say WHATEVER to all these guys...they need reality checks!
Duvessa Posted July 15, 2005 Posted July 15, 2005 I thought mine would miss me 3days nc and i called today. he was so mean to me.i dont know i guess 3 days is not long enough to miss me or maybe he will never miss me.
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