kismetkismet Posted December 5, 2016 Posted December 5, 2016 I would go with a hug, but play it by ear. I wouldn't try to kiss her though. Unless you knew each other previously, you really baaarely know each other. Especially because the night was probably blurry. People are different when they're drunk, and your opinions of people can be different when you're drunk. Cocktail bar is totally fine, just don't make any assumptions about the formality or intimacy of the date. Especially since she suggested a weekday, and not somewhere where she would be likely to sleep over - that's an indicator to me that she might want to make it clear she's not just going to get drunk and go home with you. Rather than suggest her coming over after the date, suggest a second date.
Author London123456 Posted December 5, 2016 Author Posted December 5, 2016 Give it a shot! The relationship before the one that I'm in now started with a guy i met on a dance floor of a club and brought him home that night.. We dated for a year and a half after that and he was a good guy, and we're still friendly. My fiancé was also a 'one night stand' sort of situation haha. We work in different departments for the same company and hadn't spoken before really, but then at a staff party we hooked up and slept together. Not exactly the classiest move either haha. He asked me on a date the next morning and even though I wanted to I gave him a semi excuse about not really knowing what to do because I wasn't sure if it would be a good idea to date someone at work (we thought no one knew we'd hooked up). He said he thought that was me basically blowing him off, but then a few days later I asked him if he wanted to grab a beer. I hadn't meant it as a blow off, more of a caveat. Now obviously we're engaged and I've never been even close to this happy with anyone. The thing with one night stands is that you really don't actually know each other at all so it's not the same as if you'd been on a date or two before hand. You'll have to enter the date basically as though you haven't really met. That's part of why I was a bit hesitant before my first date with my now-fiancé. There's something awkward about going into a get-to-know-you type of situation with someone you've already been intimate with. You don't want them to assume you definitely want to date them/keep sleeping with them. So.. my advice would be to do a casual date. Maybe coffee or something like that, some kind of situation where you can indicate to her that you aren't making any assumptions about where the date is headed (physically OR emotionally). I would go with a hug, but play it by ear. I wouldn't try to kiss her though. Unless you knew each other previously, you really baaarely know each other. Especially because the night was probably blurry. People are different when they're drunk, and your opinions of people can be different when you're drunk. Cocktail bar is totally fine, just don't make any assumptions about the formality or intimacy of the date. Especially since she suggested a weekday, and not somewhere where she would be likely to sleep over - that's an indicator to me that she might want to make it clear she's not just going to get drunk and go home with you. Rather than suggest her coming over after the date, suggest a second date. Totally with you on this. I'd rather not rush it and hopefully that'd be a sign I'm not just looking for a hookup. Of course, if she's pushing for that it's another thing entirely. Thanks for your input. Will let you know how it goes. 1
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