jen1447 Posted December 9, 2016 Posted December 9, 2016 I can see that but I know he's attracted to her and something isn't quite adding up. He's arranging for us to meet so I don't think it's anything sinister but I'm wondering if I have the entire story yet. But yes, he likes being appreciated and to feel manly but I could probably order him around. Who knows, maybe he wants to gift her to you. (Remember your safety principles if it gets to that right away.) Either way you should be able to get a make on her - and him with her - if you all meet up.
Author Miss Peach Posted December 9, 2016 Author Posted December 9, 2016 (edited) Run forest run! I realize this is something I may need to do. I have mentally given myself a time to reevaluate things. This ^ is a catch-22 for many women isn't it –– feeling some need to be assertive and exert some control, however, if the guy goes along and doesn't push back she loses respect. I'm not really the type to test and push back. I'm just surprised that a man his age (early 40s) is like this. He reminds me of a teenager sometimes. He admits all the time he doesn't know what he's doing and tries to get me to jump in. I know that's part of why he got into strippers. They came to him. It could be what he's doing. But it could also be he hasn't sown enough oats. I do get the sense he tries to do the right thing all the time. There are a few things that make no sense to me and show me again he doesn't get it but I can see his point. The big one is he's been trying to push friendship on his xw when she still wants to be NC. Luckily his therapist seems to be giving him the same advice I'm giving him which is to let her go and maybe they'll find that friendship later. Who knows, maybe he wants to gift her to you. (Remember your safety principles if it gets to that right away.) Either way you should be able to get a make on her - and him with her - if you all meet up. Actually you're close. He mentioned that when they had dinner earlier this week that he asked her about a threesome since both her and I are bi. He was really nervous mentioning that to me. I don't know if I like that idea with a friend of his though. I would be more on board with someone new without a connection to either of us. He arranged for us to meet tonight (his suggestion) so I should hopefully get a better read on things. Edited December 9, 2016 by Miss Peach
jen1447 Posted December 9, 2016 Posted December 9, 2016 Actually you're close. He mentioned that when they had dinner earlier this week that he asked her about a threesome since both her and I are bi. He was really nervous mentioning that to me. I don't know if I like that idea with a friend of his though. I would be more on board with someone new without a connection to either of us. He arranged for us to meet tonight (his suggestion) so I should hopefully get a better read on things. I understand that thinking but the truth is, most connections are made thru ....connections. It's a much harder job to go get them cold.
salparadise Posted December 9, 2016 Posted December 9, 2016 He was really nervous mentioning that to me. I don't know if I like that idea with a friend of his though. I would be more on board with someone new without a connection to either of us. Perhaps relabel the package to enhance the appeal –– entourage, associate, colleague, titillation consultant, customer relations specialist... I mean the irony is kinda cute but I'm opposed to transmutation of the word for obfuscation anyway. Hell, just caller her his stripper. That's about as accurate as it's going to get and you avoid sleeping with his friend all at the same time.
Author Miss Peach Posted December 12, 2016 Author Posted December 12, 2016 He arranged for me to meet her over dinner. She came in and gave us both a hug. It was a little awkward at first making basic small talk but we eventually found some things to talk about though a lot of it had sexual undertones. Her and I sort of ganged up on BF a bit but he took it well. She gave me her number and texted a few times back and forth that night. The BF got pretty charged up sexually. I can't tell if it was from her or from it going well and being relieved. Good news is I got him to do things that night I hadn't before. She has a ton of walls up but I can see how she exploits her feminine and i can see how BF likes that. It's interesting to see because I do that one too but not the the extreme I see her do it. I noticed BF seems a little protective of her which alarms me a bit but I have gotten the same response with my male coworkers so I know it doesn't necessarily mean anything will be acted on. I'm not sure what she's getting out of it other than free meals. I'm still not convinced he's not being naive.
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