Fiercelover Posted December 1, 2016 Posted December 1, 2016 I dated a girl for 4 years all throughout highschool and she was my first love. We went to college and tried the long distance thing. Im only 2 hours away so very manageable. She came up to visit once at the beginning of the year and i went to visit her once. After my visit she said things became "too routine" and that we should see what we are like on our own. I tried to deter her and work it out but she was set in her own ways. So we finally break up, over the phone i might add, and i dont see her for almost a month. I was upset for a week or two but then i began to move on. Then i went home for thanksgiving break and saw her. The whole time we had broken up it seemed like she wasnt affected at all so when i saw her i didnt know what to expect. I find out that after a month of being broken up and "being on our own" i find out she is in a new relationship. This is what is killing me. A hirl who i know was madly in love with me as i was with her, almost to the point of obssesion did not seem to be upset and had moved on. She claims that she loves me and the she misses me like crazy but her showing that she doesnt care is burning me up. Im struggling now and i know i need to move on but im not sure how. I have trouble sleeping and i feel sick to my stomach all the time and idk what to do. Any advice on how to move forward and get last this?
BAcK Posted December 1, 2016 Posted December 1, 2016 Sorry for what happened. When someone says that things became too routine, it means that you no longer excite them anymore. They are no longer interested in you. When someone really loves you, he/she will never find anything 'routine'. They will always be excited by the idea of spending time with you. After 4 years she might have lost feelings and the distance might have influenced her decision. Basically she did not waste time getting into another relationship. People really in love do not do that. She wants to try new things. What she is doing right now is trying to keep you in check. You are like a habit to her, just In case it doesn't work out there, she can still come back. You need to cut off completely from her life. Go NC. Do not stalk her anywhere, better block her. If she can be happy without you then why can't you. It is difficult but this is the best solution. Obviously, at the beginning it will be hard, but you have to overcome that. Remember, life goes on with or without anyone. Work on yourself. Stay single for a while. Being single is fun. Set yourselves some objectives and achieve them. You have to prove to yourself that you do not anyone to be happy.
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