rgonzales Posted December 1, 2016 Posted December 1, 2016 Title is self explanatory...How can you possibly stop having dreams about her?It'd be nice to have a good night sleep
loveloss86 Posted December 1, 2016 Posted December 1, 2016 I'm right there with ya. When we first split I was having dreams about the ex every single night. I was talking to this one girl for a while before bed and I actually didn't dream about the ex I dreamed about the person I was talking to. I'm not an expert on dreams but from experience I realized that if I watch a YouTube video or read about something, even play video games right before bedtime I more than likely will dream about it. Try tricking your brain about thinking differently by doing something right before you go to sleep. Stop any thought about the ex and think about what you were last doing. It's working for me.
Pete2304 Posted December 1, 2016 Posted December 1, 2016 I'm afraid I have some bad news gents; I split with a girl ten years ago and despite having been married since, I still dream about her on a fairly regular basis. It did though seem to become a lot more frequent as my marriage was really falling apart so I don't know if it's just your body taking you back to a happier time, if the brain does this to release some much needed seratonin maybe. I dream about my dad who passed away nearly ten years ago on a fairly regular basis too and whilst it can be upsetting, I've come to be thankful for it. When you are happy and settled in a new relationship, I reckon the dreams about your ex will probably stop.
BAcK Posted December 1, 2016 Posted December 1, 2016 Dreams are the reflection of your subconscious mind. It means that you project in your dreams what you actually want in real life. Normally when we sleep our brain processes all our hidden desires and projects it as dreams. Dreams are just a reflection of our thoughts. The more we try to run away from them in real life, the more they manifest as dreams. It is not always true but most of the time dreams are of our own conconction.
The_Onceler Posted December 2, 2016 Posted December 2, 2016 I find that I dream about my ex almost every time that I have to see her. But those are the only times, really. So, one more reason to keep contact to a minimum.
Chief1970 Posted December 2, 2016 Posted December 2, 2016 Title is self explanatory...How can you possibly stop having dreams about her?It'd be nice to have a good night sleep Have you gone full nc? Are you looking at her social media?
Pascal333 Posted December 2, 2016 Posted December 2, 2016 Oh my, I sure know what you are talking about. Indeed it does come from the subconscious mind. At one point my mind was so overloaded with my ex that I was having multiple dreams about her in a single night! Now I dont't dream about her anymore but still have very light/fragmented sleep...it has never been like it was before breakup anymore... What kinda helped was to let go...a little bit. I still love her deeply (hell I still live with her, we bought a house and it ain't sold yet...), but what helped the most was somehow being able to tell myself to live "day-by-day"...to do my stuff, let her do her stuff, have fun whenever we could, and that's it. And to tell myself if we are to be toghether again one day, cool, but if not then so be it. At first I completely refused this possibility, but now I do see it as a bit of a possibility. Every situation is different but I guess letting go even the tiniest bit will help. But it can take time.
acephoenix Posted December 2, 2016 Posted December 2, 2016 I just broke up with an ex and only dreamt about her once. That particular night I was thinking about her right before I went to bed, and so she was in my head before I went to bed. This phenomenon is quite well known in sleep psychology. I normally watch Netflix or Youtube before I go to bed, and I never end up dreaming about her even though I've struggled with moving on for the last month. I'd recommend just reading a book or watching something that'll distract you before you go to bed.
Kelley Posted December 3, 2016 Posted December 3, 2016 I went through the exact same thing dreaming of my ex, then not sleeping or waking up at 2am, watching netflix to take my mind off things to go back to sleep. I remember the mornings completely broken. It is your subconscious dealing with your feelings though, it's way of processing and healing. I would google everything :-) It just takes time and you will have less dreams. I don't dream of my ex anymore which I'm happy about I guess it's because I have healed and moved on. You will get there too. 1
Sunkissedpatio Posted December 3, 2016 Posted December 3, 2016 Went through exact same thing for first three months. The first month was almost every dream I remembered was about him. The following months were blissful dreams that went back to our great days, that ended in some conflict with another woman. (those were really frustrating and unsettling dreams) Then they magically went away. I never dream about him anymore. He's been replaced by some mystery men I've never seen before It's coming guys, hang in there ...your subconscious will eventually kill the ex off.
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