Dis Posted December 1, 2016 Posted December 1, 2016 Hi guys! So I've been chatting for a day with a guy from OLD We actually know each other from high school....its funny that 10 years later he reached out to me He is actually...to my surprise...incredibly sweet. Not cocky or arrogant whatsoever. He is engaging...very interested...sweet...modest. It only been a day of talking but so far I get a good feeling from him He says things like, "I would be honored to be your out of school distraction" "Would you like to talk to me or hang out sometime?" Just giving you examples of his overall vibe. He does not seem to be a player...he actually seems a little intimidated by me. A little meek So today, he asked for my number. I gave it to him. Then he messages me his number with a face What is that about?
travelbug1996 Posted December 1, 2016 Posted December 1, 2016 Just so you have it maybe. I would still not contact him. Wait until he asks you out properly. Ask him what he's looking for. He may not be looking for a serious relationship but the only way to find out is to ask. 3
Author Dis Posted December 1, 2016 Author Posted December 1, 2016 Just so you have it maybe. I would still not contact him. Wait until he asks you out properly. Ask him what he's looking for. He may not be looking for a serious relationship but the only way to find out is to ask. He is looking for a serious relationship We're on the same page about that...same exact sentence He did properly ask me to hang out already...I told him when I'd be free...2 weeks (my semester is wrapping up) and he said the timing works perfectly for him because he has a lot going on until then
Art_Critic Posted December 1, 2016 Posted December 1, 2016 IMO, he is unsure of your interest and hoping you will use his number so he will know "for sure" you are interested so he can proceed to woo you and get you naked... It seems to be he isn't as self confident as you might think... No biggie.. don't call him and if you have contact with him show him you are interested (if you are that is) or text him a joke in the morning.. light hearted funny joke... Other than that.. do nothing.. if he is interested he will call... 3
TheTraveler Posted December 1, 2016 Posted December 1, 2016 So today, he asked for my number. I gave it to him. Then he messages me his number with a face What is that about? I don't know why, but I laughed Odd that he asked for your number, than offered his back with a wink face 1
jen1447 Posted December 1, 2016 Posted December 1, 2016 Who cares what it's about? Don't over-analyze it Dizzy Lu, just get your game on and have fun. 8
Sunkissedpatio Posted December 1, 2016 Posted December 1, 2016 Exactly what others said, he is trying to gauge interest. Nice. I'm rooting for you D! Show some interest woman. 1
Pete2304 Posted December 1, 2016 Posted December 1, 2016 Who cares what it's about? Don't over-analyze it Dizzy Lu, just get your game on and have fun. Haha this pretty much covers everything, good luck! 1
Author Dis Posted December 1, 2016 Author Posted December 1, 2016 Thanks for all the advice guys!!! I'm still a little conflicted though #1-He asked me for my number...so I feel like he should text me #2- I like the guy to take charge so I dont know that I'd feel good about being the first to text #3-If he was really interested he would text me as some of you have said #4-On the other hand, I think some of you are right. He's trying to gauge my intrest. He has dropped a couple lines that made me feel like he's a little intimidated by my looks and he feels hes out of my league. So...I think I might need to reassure him a little and make contact first But like I said, I like the guy to go ahead and make the moves I can't not over analyze!!!
winny Posted December 1, 2016 Posted December 1, 2016 just sit back and let him take the lead... if he can't do that much at least for first few dates.... he is not worth it.... but whenever he texts or calls you show your interest... also its been just a day of chatting... so chill 2
Author Dis Posted December 1, 2016 Author Posted December 1, 2016 just sit back and let him take the lead... if he can't do that much at least for first few dates.... he is not worth it.... but whenever he texts or calls you show your interest... also its been just a day of chatting... so chill This is what I'm thinking I'm just wondering why others have told me to reach out first
Kamille Posted December 1, 2016 Posted December 1, 2016 This is what I'm thinking I'm just wondering why others have told me to reach out first I just read the thread. Not a single poster said you should call first. At most, they suggest you make sure to show interest the next time he contacts you, be it on the site or on the phone. Things like this happen if you're on-line dating. Like others said, don't over-analyze it.
winny Posted December 1, 2016 Posted December 1, 2016 This is what I'm thinking I'm just wondering why others have told me to reach out first The reason why he sent you his number was when he texts/calls you you know its him. Just save his contact details and wait. 6
Author Dis Posted December 1, 2016 Author Posted December 1, 2016 The reason why he sent you his number was when he texts/calls you you know its him. Just save his contact details and wait. Very wise As a very impatient person...this will be difficult I'll lose interest quickly if he doesnt make a move 1
CryForNoOne Posted December 1, 2016 Posted December 1, 2016 The reason why he sent you his number was when he texts/calls you you know its him. Just save his contact details and wait. LOL. Exactly. I have no idea what the fuss is about. I don't OLD but when I get a number IRL I always immediately call them so they get my number too. Also to make sure it's not a fake number but thankfully neither of us has either been caught in that embarrassing situation... 1
Author Dis Posted December 1, 2016 Author Posted December 1, 2016 LOL. Exactly. I have no idea what the fuss is about. I don't OLD but when I get a number IRL I always immediately call them so they get my number too. Also to make sure it's not a fake number but thankfully neither of us has either been caught in that embarrassing situation... Oh wow, I had no idea this was a routine thing. Thanks for the insight CryForNoOne I thought it was just his way of being lazy...pasing the torch on to me Or that he was too intimidated to reach out Either one
Redhead14 Posted December 1, 2016 Posted December 1, 2016 It's, just plain common sense/courtesy -- "You give me yours, I'll give you mine". That's just what people do. I don't understand your question. What's driving that question? Like, there's some kind of oddity or possible sinister concern? 5
Author Dis Posted December 1, 2016 Author Posted December 1, 2016 It's, just plain common sense/courtesy -- "You give me yours, I'll give you mine". That's just what people do. I don't understand your question. What's driving that question? Like, there's some kind of oddity or possible sinister concern? I dont suspect him of anything sinister...def not. He seems very sweet I'm just an overthinker and I've never had a guy do this before Like I told CryForNoOne, I thought he was either passing the torch on to me or he was too intimdated to reach out first I like the guy to take the lead so I read into it too much I didnt know this was a routine thing
CryForNoOne Posted December 1, 2016 Posted December 1, 2016 (edited) Oh wow, I had no idea this was a routine thing. Thanks for the insight CryForNoOne I thought it was just his way of being lazy...pasing the torch on to me Or that he was too intimidated to reach out Either one I mean I never analyzed it but now that we're on the topic, it's not essential but I think it's the better thing to do. I could always text her "Hey, it's CryForNoOne" but I prefer to call - as so few guys do that these days. And I reject any number I don't recognize as I get a ton of random solicitors on my cell phone (because I use it for work). Maybe she does the same and nobody likes to ask a women out by voice mail... So giving out your number too means they immediately know who is calling or texting. I dunno about ya'll but the first few calls and texts from any new romantic interest are always a bright spot in the day for me. Seeing their name pop up is cool... Edited December 1, 2016 by CryForNoOne
Redhead14 Posted December 1, 2016 Posted December 1, 2016 I dont suspect him of anything sinister...def not. He seems very sweet I'm just an overthinker and I've never had a guy do this before Like I told CryForNoOne, I thought he was either passing the torch on to me or he was too intimdated to reach out first I like the guy to take the lead so I read into it too much I didnt know this was a routine thing He took the lead by asking for your number. So let him keep the lead and see if he uses it. You don't have to use his . . . If he's intimidated to reach out first, that's his loss and you won't end up dating a wishy-washy, insecure man. 2
Author Dis Posted December 1, 2016 Author Posted December 1, 2016 I mean I never analyzed it but now that we're on the topic, it's not essential but I think it's the better thing to do. I could always text her "Hey, it's CryForNoOne" but I prefer to call - as so few guys do that these days. And I reject any number I don't recognize as I get a ton of random solicitors on my cell phone (because I use it for work). Maybe she does the same and nobody likes to ask a women out by voice mail... So giving out your number too means they immediately know who is calling or texting. I dunno about ya'll but the first few calls and texts from any new romantic interest are always a bright spot in the day for me... Never thought of this before....good point I love hearing from someone I'm interested in too! Butterflies! He asked me to hang out...we agreed to do so in two weeks (we both have a lot going on until then) Lets hope he reaches out soon...I have a short attention span as of late so if he waits to contact me...I dont think I'll be interested in meeting up
CryForNoOne Posted December 1, 2016 Posted December 1, 2016 I love hearing from someone I'm interested in too! Butterflies! Do you just say that also or did you read that in my other thread??
Author Dis Posted December 1, 2016 Author Posted December 1, 2016 He took the lead by asking for your number. So let him keep the lead and see if he uses it. You don't have to use his . . . If he's intimidated to reach out first, that's his loss and you won't end up dating a wishy-washy, insecure man. I agree 100% I'll stay quiet and see if he continues to lead....nothing worse than a wishy washy man 1
Author Dis Posted December 1, 2016 Author Posted December 1, 2016 Do you just say that also or did you read that in my other thread?? Lol it just popped into my head! But I'll check out your thread 1
Author Dis Posted December 2, 2016 Author Posted December 2, 2016 He texted me An engaging text...his usual style Yes, I am very silly/neurotic 3
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