Bacardi Silver Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 I'm a guy and the no.1 fear and pretty much only fear I have approaching and dealing with women is running out things to say. I am scared to death of akward silences. I'm not quiet by any means but I know sooner or later I won't be able to think of anything to say. What do you girls think of this issue. Does your man have to be entertaining you all the time or do you not mind not talking all the time?
Opium Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 You don't always have to say something. When you first start dating someone, the first thing you do is talk. You get to know each other in different levels. What food they like? Color? Favorite Movie? Favorite WHATEVER?...Things like that. You don't automatically stop talking about things. You would have to be a very boring person if you had absolutely nothing to say after a date or two. After a while, being around someone in silent just cuddling is almost better than them saying something romantic or even saying I love you. I know some of the best moments I have with my bf are the silent ones where he just holds me and caresses me and kisses my forehead. I love it. You just have to find someone that sparks your interest and doesn't bore you. If after a while you have nothing to talk about with a girl, maybe she's not what you're looking for.
RecordProducer Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 Some people are quiet by nature but usually when people have nothing to talk about it's because they have little in common. With some people the conversation just goes on and on, you jump from one subject to another, and with others it's difficult. In any case, you can have questions prepared in advance to ask her about her family, past, school, tastes, etc. The more personal and direct the question the better. E.g. "why did you move here?" sounds much better than "what do you like to do in your spare time?" Show interest towards her life.
laRubiaBonita Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 i think the biggest mistake is too talk to much. sure akward silnce is odd....but it is worse to have to talk about something dumb or lame...just cause you feel the need. plus, it should not have to be all you carring the convo. the best, is to listen and ask her questions about hat she is talking about, or seems interested in.
Author Bacardi Silver Posted July 14, 2005 Author Posted July 14, 2005 How can you ask a lot of questions about herself w/o it sounding like an interview? Like how could you better phrase these questions: What's your favorite color, movie, food, sport, etc?
scratch Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 Originally posted by Bacardi Silver How can you ask a lot of questions about herself w/o it sounding like an interview? Like how could you better phrase these questions: What's your favorite color, movie, food, sport, etc? Google "active listening." Read about how to appear to be interested in what someone is saying, and how to keep them talking.
tiki Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 "Seen any good movies?" "What's your fave restaurant?" "Are you one of those suhi-eatin chics?" Crap like that. A relationship that can sit in silence feels comfortable enough to not say a word. Don't blab her ear off. Just chill.
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