MEOrtega Posted November 30, 2016 Posted November 30, 2016 My boyfriend and I have been dating a year and 3 months and he's going away to Europe without me. First I'm not allowed to go because his parents won't let me. They said I can go but I can't go WITH him (I guess that means on the plane etc.) Originally he was supposed to be going to Amsterdam for a week but now his classmates (yes this a college trip, has to do with his thesis though the trip isn't mandatory for the class or graduation) decided to add 3 more days to the trip and stay in Rome since it's cheaper first then travel to Amsterdam. He already has expressed he doesn't want to go. He told me his parents don't want me going because they don't want to be liable if anything were to happen to me and the fact we are a man in a women. My boyfriend is 22 years old and I'm 20, I feel we should be allowed to travel together. But unfortunately my boyfriend lives with his parents they paid for his college and are paying half for this trip while he pays for the other half. So it's basically "my roof my rules" 'mentality. We tried going away during the summer to one state over for 2 days and they still wouldn't let us! They said; "you can go, but you can't go with her." I'm just really frustrated. I feel really left out and I so badly want to experience this with him but I can't because of his parents. I would have paid for everything on my own but I don't want to cross boundaries. I love my boyfriend I really do and I'm happy that he's going but I so badly wish that I could go. I was already upset that I couldn't go but now I just find out he's going to Rome too and staying longer so that just put a damper on everything. His parents are middle eastern, his mom grew up here and his father is from there. His mom explained to me that Arabs are a little backwards but I don't know I think it's a little extreme. I'm not even allowed at his house when neither of them are home I mean I could understand if we were teenagers but we're in our 20's. But again it's that "my roof my rules." So my boyfriend and I have to respect that. I don't know, what are your views on this?
ExpatInItaly Posted November 30, 2016 Posted November 30, 2016 I think you're being silly, OP. He's only gone for 10 days and it's for school. Why do you feel the need to tag along? Do you not trust him? Wish him a good time and safe travels. Don't make this into an unnecessary drama. Also, his parents are right - their roof, their rules. Even though he is an adult, if they pay for him or house him, he needs to respect their wishes. If it's too much for him, he needs to move out. Theoretically, you could travel to Europe if you want. His parents cannot prevent that from happening, since you are not their daughter. But don't be that girl who follows her boyfriend around. That's what it will look like. And it will creates major waves that you probably don't want. I don't see any reason why you would go, given that it's for his thesis and he'll be with classmates. 2
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