Grey40 Posted November 29, 2016 Posted November 29, 2016 (edited) So on to a new girl. We went to high school together, ran into her a few weeks ago at a bar she's working at, she gave me a free drink, we chatted a bit, just kind of friendly. She's been liking all my social media posts since and I know she finds me attractive. So I decided to message her and I asked if she was still living in the area she responded positively. Asked her if she wanted to grab some drinks this weekend if she's free...no response. Seriously can't make this **** up lol. I really can't understand why a girl likes you, is attracted you and just won't accept a date Invite. Either im really reading these chicks wrong, or they're just too scared to actually meet me. This seems to happen a lot to me. I know I'm a good looking guy, and I'm not creepy at all. I'm not one to toot my own horn, but I KNOW it's not my looks holding me back, so I just can't figure out what I'm doing wrong. Even when I'm more specific about a time and place, still either get no response, ghost, or a change of topic from every girl. Other times they'll initially agree but flake. But at least those ones respond. And I know I know, they would respond if they were interested..and that I get. But what if I KNOW they're interested? Then it makes no sense Edited November 29, 2016 by Grey40 1
ElizabethIII Posted November 29, 2016 Posted November 29, 2016 You dont know she is attracted to you. She isnt if she didnt accept. Regarding the social media: I have lots of guys on mine that I knew from college and old jobs. I like their posts sometimes. I would give any of them a free drink in those circumstances. It is called being friendly. You may have overestimated her level of interest. 4
Author Grey40 Posted November 29, 2016 Author Posted November 29, 2016 You dont know she is attracted to you. She isnt if she didnt accept. Regarding the social media: I have lots of guys on mine that I knew from college and old jobs. I like their posts sometimes. I would give any of them a free drink in those circumstances. It is called being friendly. You may have overestimated her level of interest. Yeah i suppose so, just got the vibe she was attracted but clearly I was wrong About it 1
RecentChange Posted November 29, 2016 Posted November 29, 2016 Sounds like she didn't want to go on a date with you. For many women it takes more than just looks to get them interested enough to go on a date. You know for a fact she is single and looking?
Satu Posted November 29, 2016 Posted November 29, 2016 Social media doesn't tell you anything about what people really think. Don't invite people out by text. Ask them face to face. Take care. 2
basil67 Posted November 29, 2016 Posted November 29, 2016 I have been physically attracted to guys who I would not date. A handsome face and hot bod don't necessarily mean that he'd be a good boyfriend. 3
Author Grey40 Posted November 30, 2016 Author Posted November 30, 2016 Spoke too soon haha she literally just responded "I would love to! But I'm working at the bar Friday and Saturday :(" 2
ElizabethIII Posted November 30, 2016 Posted November 30, 2016 Spoke too soon haha she literally just responded "I would love to! But I'm working at the bar Friday and Saturday :(" Awesome! Arrange another day and quick. 1
winny Posted November 30, 2016 Posted November 30, 2016 Spoke too soon haha she literally just responded "I would love to! But I'm working at the bar Friday and Saturday :(" Happy for you Good luck!! 1
LargoLagg Posted November 30, 2016 Posted November 30, 2016 I'm totally a fossil, but asking a girl out, one who you've already met in the flesh, doing that online seems so .... wimpy. Why not go back to the bar, look her right in the eye and ask her out? Given the behavior of you and your contemporaries, that would come across as downright manly. Ever think of that?
Author Grey40 Posted November 30, 2016 Author Posted November 30, 2016 I'm totally a fossil, but asking a girl out, one who you've already met in the flesh, doing that online seems so .... wimpy. Why not go back to the bar, look her right in the eye and ask her out? Given the behavior of you and your contemporaries, that would come across as downright manly. Ever think of that? I haven't, too late for that now. Yeah I'm sure that would be good, but I think in today's world it's not a huge difference. I think either way works. It's not like I know her schedule, I'm not going to keep goOmg back there until she's working, to me that seems creepy
butterfly84 Posted December 17, 2016 Posted December 17, 2016 the weird thing, at least for me, is that what is usually considered or sounds 'creepy' is only considered creepy if i am not interested in the guy. if i am interested in the guy then it is not creepy because i want them to talk to me. hope that made sense
TheAntiHero Posted December 17, 2016 Posted December 17, 2016 the weird thing, at least for me, is that what is usually considered or sounds 'creepy' is only considered creepy if i am not interested in the guy. if i am interested in the guy then it is not creepy because i want them to talk to me. hope that made sense Lol, saying this as a guy gets you labelled a misogynist, haha.
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