dkguy1 Posted November 29, 2016 Posted November 29, 2016 (edited) Hi guys! I need some advise. Long post, but i would be deeply grateful if you read it. I had a casual flirt in august that lasted 3 weeks. We meet each other 1-3 times a week and had sex one time.(After third date) I meet all her friends and things went really well. She said she liked me, and we kissed regualary in front of her friends also. The girl had deep problems with getting close to people, giving people just a hug was a big deal to her. And when we sleept together she freaked if we sleept to close to each other. All her friends said that her kissing me in front of them etc was a really big deal, and they were really shocked about that so early. She told me that she felt so safe and secure around me. Anyway the last time i was out with here i ****ed up big time. She told me a big secret about her bestfriend dating a friend of here with a boyfriend, and told me that it was important that i didn't say that to anyone else. I was pretty drunk that night, and after 10 minutes meeting this best friend of hers i told him in front of all her friends the secret she told me... He was pretty upset that she had told me that, and she was pretty disappointed at me..But we kissed and had a great night after 30min of me saying how sorry i was for telling that. After that night thing went down hill ( I think that was the reason, but i don't know), and 4 days later she broke it off with me saying that she had meet a old flame, and wanted to see how things went with this guy because she couldn't handle dating 2 gus at the same time because of work...And thay i was a great guy, and she was sorry if i felt that she played me. I told here good luck with that, and that it was great getting to know here anyway. I then did NC in 2 weeks and she didn't contact me either, before i commenting a snapchat mystory about here finishing her educated with a party. I said " Congrats, have a great night! After that little comment!!...Everything went back to normal. She asked if i was going out that night ( I wasn't), and the day after she invited me to her party with some close friends of hers. It was pretty weird, because even after 2 weeks of NC we all acted like nothing happened. She told me that she was sorry for "breaking up", and that she didn't meet a new guys, she was just underwelmhed with work at her job and had a "break down". Because of her saying sorry after she ditched me in a very sweet way, i accepted it. The same night we had sex, and things went even better than last time. This time the dating lasted 2 weeks. We had sex 5 times, and her bestfriend told her how glad he was for her meeting me. She also told me that she liked me alot, but said she think's it hard speaking abount feelings. Things ****ed up when we went on a trip with 2 of her other bestfriends that also dated. ( Actually the bestfriend i told the secret about and the cheating girl) She told me before the trip that i should watch out before i says things, because i had a history of saying things without thinking... Day 1 and 2 went perfect, but the 3 day i ****ed up completly. Because her bestfriend and the "cheating" girl was arguing all the time and "cheating" girl liking her bestfriend more than he liked her, she cried all the time. ( Alot of drama). I wanted to boost her confidence. Instead of just saying how nice and cute she was because i could see that see she was sad. I went aaaaall inn saying she was mega hot and delicious, a perfect 10 in front of all of them. Later that night i ****ed up completly. Because of my feelings for her, i was jealous when my girl danced with her bestfriend, because they had a really close relationship and cuddled alot on that trip also....She even went to his bed after whe had sex the one time and stayed there for 10 min before coming back. Anyway, i got angry and danced with the " cheating girl" that her bestfriend had a thing with on. Grabbed on the ass multiple times and danced dirty... All in front of them!! None of them reacted on it, and the night went on good. But i still felt something was a little wrong. We also had sex that night. ---- Anyway. Straight after coming home and saying goodbye she want very very casual in the teexting and i knew something was off. I asked if we should get togheter and watch a movie. She then suddenly told me that it was best if we just stayed was friends, because she wasn't looking for anything serious and could tell that i was after the trip, and said that i deserved better than that. She also told me that she didn't think she was my type of girl and that we came from two different worlds. ( She is very high class and comes from a rich family, lives in the most expensive part in my country, and her friends is also very "high class". I´m more "normal" ) Two text later she said: " And a little tip for you, next time when you go on a trip with a girl you date, don't act like the way you did. Because my friends reacted on it, and i felt very humiliated. She then explained what she ment, and it was the situation that i explained earlier. I said i was sorry and didn't meen it that way, and that i would never do that to a close friend of her. It was only because i wanted to give her a confidence boost etc etc. I apologized many time. Then we went NC both of us. After four days she sent me a snap of the three of them hanging out. I think this was a test. I asked if i should come over. She told me that she said she thougt she had made things clear, and that she wasn't "there", and that she was ****ed up?? I responded that i knew she wasn't looking for a BF, but i just wanted for us to hang out. ( I wanted to have sex with here again ) She then suddenly responed that she thought her "cheating BF" was a better match for me, and that she would never look or act the way she do. Very weird respons if she didn't want anything from me... Anyways i again told her that i liked her, and that she was in a total different league compared to her BFF. ( Her BFF is also a 9/10, very hot and prob a little prettier than her i think) After that it went NC. ------ 1 week later i asked if she was out on town. Sent her a text 02:30, pretty stupid.. I wasn't, but said she would call me later. We talked for 1 hour on the phone, and the phonecall went really well. I asked her if we should grab a lunch the day after. She said we can talk about it tomorrow. I didn't follow it up, because i thought she could do it because i had asked her two time for a meeting now.. She didn't contact me, but send me a snap later that night that she was going out. Anyway. I then asked her three days later if she would meet for movie at my place. She responded with that she needed space, and didn't that it would be any point / good idea for us to meet. But she told me that i was a great guy, and that we could meet soon, but she didn't want to promise me anything. Only reason that i asked her three times was because i felt really bad after the trip of me hurting her. She wanted a safe guy and i ****ed it up... I would NEVER do that to any other girl after ditching me TWO times. 1 week passed and she starting sending me 1x selfie almost everyday. She had sent me random snaps 1-3 a week after the "break up", but not selfies with her looking cute. That went on for 6 days. But because she said she needed space, i didn't follow it up on any of them. Didn't want to look all the desperate. Anyway, 6 weeks had now passed. Because she said she needed space i didn't ask her out again, and she didn't ask me out or contact me. The only contact we have had was 1-2 random snaps a week. I then sent her a more personal snap and she responed to it with " Hahaha". Again i could have started a conversation, but i didn't because i felt her could do it if she wanted.. Stupid of me i think. Then 1 more week passed ( 7 weeks after break up), and i sent her a message with "Hi, long time no see. Wanna grab a coffee this week?) Should probably have talked with her a little bit before asking her out of the blue 7 weeks later. I didn't get a respons, and 2 more weeks have now passed. ( 10 weeks total after last break up). I think it's weird that she didn't even respond.. Because i dont understand why she was sent me snaps all the time if she didn't like me at all. Funny thing is after i asked her out again she has stopped complettly. I really think i waited to long with my last try of inviting her out. I should have asked her when she sent me all the selfies, or maybe after 3-4 weeks.. Not 7 weeks. And i should probbably had started with smalltalk. I just can't forget about this girl. She was sooo perfect. Perfect 9/10, great at work, very popular and all of that things. She had maaany stalkers, and i felt så lucky dating her. ----- What should i do? I really want to try and msg here on Facebook one last time and start a casual conversation. See how she respons, and maybe ask her out again 1 LAST time. Whats stopping me from it is that this would be the 5 time i ask her out again after the break out. I feel my last msg with " Wanna hang out " was very casual, and i feel if i meet her at town now is not a big deal, and i feel that i have some dignity left. If i try again and not getting a answer or a no, i would feel like the biggest looser if i meet her again... Like the worst stalker that never got over her 10 weeks after breaking up... At the same time, i can understand why she didn´t want too see me because the way i acted, and maybe is not that needy if i try to ask her out again. Because she knows i have been seeing other women after the break up. I meet her friends some weeks ago when i was on a double date. They gave me a hug actually. Funny thing is that the first time she responded on snapchat was 2 days after the friends saw me with other girls. What would you do? I have no problem seeing other girls, i actually date one right now. But i can't forget about her, because her personality was so special, and i want to feel like i gave it all. At the same time i dont want her to label me as a freak, and potentially ruin a hookup / relationship with her if i meet her for example random on 1-3 years, and she remember me as the needy guy that asked her out 5 times. Edited November 29, 2016 by dkguy1
Author dkguy1 Posted November 29, 2016 Author Posted November 29, 2016 What should you do? Move on. It´s just hard when i feel i screwed it up... And when she keeps sending me snaps, like 3 weeks ago ( 1 week before i send txt msg about meeting up" with her in a red dress looking pretty i get so confused.. I really don´t know why she does that. But i know i should move on! 1
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