is my bf's female housemate stepping a bit over the boundary?

[No_Go]

I'm just giving you another point of view.

 

Whether it is all fine or not - only you can tell.

 

I stated above I have nothing against opposite sex roommates and usually it is just a financial arrangement (I admit though I lost my virginity to one But my next roommates were also guys - we barely interacted).

 

Situation sounded fishy - if you believe it's not - great, you're the only one here having the entirety of the information.

 

Engaging and responding to it- now looking back , if it was me Id also do it, just to avoid awkwardness and unpleasantness. I would not do it for very long but just for the very beginning, yes I'd help too

He only did her ONE favour anyway-to pick her up. And he did turn it down first because he was going grocery shopping. But she turned up at the same shop so what do you expect him to do? Pretend to not seeing her?

Sure if things keep happening like this then I'd suspect if he is "engaging". But now? No.

And I really don't understand why you just keep thinking he is lying

[frus69]

I'm just giving you another point of view.

 

Whether it is all fine or not - only you can tell.

 

I stated above I have nothing against opposite sex roommates and usually it is just a financial arrangement (I admit though I lost my virginity to one But my next roommates were also guys - we barely interacted).

 

Situation sounded fishy - if you believe it's not - great, you're the only one here having the entirety of the information.

I don't understand which part is fishy. Sounds like you still don't believe crazy girls like her can exist and you still believe my BF made it all up to cover the fact that he's doing something with her behind my back, or even, they were previous BF/GF.

 

 

I appreciate your imagination but no..no just no. It's not a Hollywood movie and no conspiracy theory here.

[No_Go]

The fishy part is the whole lease / no lease 'magic' within a week, the coincidences (meeting her in the shop etc). Sorry but that's just my opinion.

 

For real life Holiwood movies - I told you to check one of my old threads (Breaking up with live in mooching BF) - you'll see how far people can go with lying. Not saying your BF is same way, but is good to be aware.

 

I don't understand which part is fishy. Sounds like you still don't believe crazy girls like her can exist and you still believe my BF made it all up to cover the fact that he's doing something with her behind my back, or even, they were previous BF/GF.

 

 

I appreciate your imagination but no..no just no. It's not a Hollywood movie and no conspiracy theory here.

[frus69]

The fishy part is the whole lease / no lease 'magic' within a week, the coincidences (meeting her in the shop etc). Sorry but that's just my opinion.

 

For real life Holiwood movies - I told you to check one of my old threads (Breaking up with live in mooching BF) - you'll see how far people can go with lying. Not saying your BF is same way, but is good to be aware.

 

There is a lease, still is. Lot of things happened within the last few days and lots of twists. I explained everything, do not want to repeat myself.

Meeting her in the shop? She probably went there because she knew my BF would be there. But before you jump into another conclusion: no he did not ask her to meet him in the shop.

 

Does she have an agenda? Maybe but I don't care. I trust my BF now a lot more than when I started this thread.

 

Really in life you can doubt just about everything if you choose to. Donald Trump could be a radical Muslim. Yes your life can be more dramatic than Hollywood movies. Maybe your conman experience has jaded you. But I actually want you to start putting more trust in people, you will be a lot happier.

[LexiCat29]

The last female roommate I had seduced me, not the other way around. She started off by texting me, asking for little favors, and eventually started texting nude photos from my bed saying she was waiting for me to get home.

 

So, I should start warning any future female roommates by letting them know that after a month or so, they will likely be sending me booby pics and asking me to come home and sleep with them? I may actually do that.

 

 

 

What nonsense are you talking? Plenty of women will also happily sleep with a taken guy, and even more happily try to steal him from his woman. I just had some random woman hit on me last Saturday while my lady friend walked into a store. I know she saw her. Didn't stop her at all.

 

 

 

I did not read all of the posts here, just the initial question posed. If more information has been offered that has rendered my response irrelevant, feel free to ignore it.

 

Your post appeared to imply that every woman should be suspicious of every other woman. I think that's nonsense. Just as I wouldn't think any man would sleep with a taken woman.

[Timshel]

There is a lease, still is. Lot of things happened within the last few days and lots of twists. I explained everything, do not want to repeat myself.

Meeting her in the shop? She probably went there because she knew my BF would be there. But before you jump into another conclusion: no he did not ask her to meet him in the shop.

 

Does she have an agenda? Maybe but I don't care. I trust my BF now a lot more than when I started this thread.

 

Really in life you can doubt just about everything if you choose to. Donald Trump could be a radical Muslim. Yes your life can be more dramatic than Hollywood movies. Maybe your conman experience has jaded you. But I actually want you to start putting more trust in people, you will be a lot happier.

 

frus, you know the drill...you know any person that posts in your thread is on your side.

 

This is your thread about your bf, no need to take digs.

 

So on your front everything is peaches and are looking to have every poster say same, yes?

 

I had asked the question if you trust your dude, if you have joy with him...

 

Trust your own self. What ever you feel is valid. Relationships are not about perfection, far from it.

 

It's a joint attempt to achieve nirvana, failure is a given.

F any partner who isn't trying to help you go and vice versa.

[frus69]

frus, you know the drill...you know any person that posts in your thread is on your side.

 

This is your thread about your bf, no need to take digs.

 

So on your front everything is peaches and are looking to have every poster say same, yes?

.

 

Look, I definitely do not ask everyone to think the same as me. Feel free to raise reasonable doubts and I will take them into consideration.

But I don't want people to go too far and make some far-fetched assumptions based on their own experience/not the evidence I provided here, and continue to do so after I cleared the air.

 

 

People here assumed he only chose women to live with, assumed they knew each other, assumed all kinds of things and maybe it's my fault for not disclosing every single info. It's fine. I addressed all of them and none of it was true. I did get frustrated when people continue to make assumptions afterwards though cuz nothing constructive will come out of it anymore.

 

This is a long thread and I assume you didn't read all the post. A lot of things were explained later and lot more detailed revealed. You probably doubt I'm making the right decision but anyway, yes I do trust my BF now. I agree with you relationships are not all perfect and not everything about a relationship is black and white. And I am not going to say he lies just because there is some gray, or he doesn't do exactly what I want.

Edited December 6, 2016 by frus69

[Gaeta]

When threads get over 100 replies it often has a life of itself and you cannot control it. People's imagination is just running wild.

 

It starts with give him a break and observe how it unfolds and thread ends with your BF is illegal and married in 4 different countries.

[Timshel]

Look, I definitely do not ask everyone to think the same as me. Feel free to raise reasonable doubts and I will take them into consideration.

But I don't want people to go too far and make some far-fetched assumptionsbased on their own experience/not the evidence I provided here, and continue to do so after I cleared the air.

 

 

This is a long thread and I assume you didn't read all the post. So you probably doubt I'm making the right decision but yes I do trust my BF now. I agree with you relationships are not all perfect and not everything about a relationship is black and white. And I am not going to say he lies just because there is some gray, or he doesn't do exactly what I want.

 

I have read at least most of the thread. OK, grey....this is where you are.

 

So every person and their cousin has ups and downs, isn't that what makes a relationship real after all?

 

People in long term relationships go through life together, right? So the two of you are figuring a few things out.

 

This only means that you will grow closer or be drawn apart, both are the right answer.

 

Keep listening to yourself frus...you know yourself and him much better than any of us.

[LexiCat29]

I never speak in absolutes. I also refuse to acknowledge the fact that many people do hook up with people who are taken.

 

Neither of us knows the woman that lives with the OP's BF. She could very well be the type of chick that hooks up with another woman's man. Her actions make me think she is, because I have met women like that before. If she wasn't at least somewhat shady, this thread would not exist.

 

This is an oxymoron.

[Sunkissedpatio]

Finally! Glad someone picked up on it!

 

I caught it and was coming to post a response but Lexicat beat me to it

 

That was good

[Els]

Gosh... so much drama. No wonder after a certain age many of us prefer men who have (or who can afford to rent) their own place...

 

Sorry if I missed it, but how old is he? Is he ever planning to get his own place, or is it going to be one female roommate after another?