Poe77 Posted November 29, 2016 Posted November 29, 2016 Is it wrong to think about breaking up with some one because of their family? long story short I love my BF we get along great only thing is his family are a flipping bunch of lieing back stabbing using hyenas! I know this isn't his fault and I more then likely wont do anything harsh but tonight I learned not from him I had to do some investigating that his one sister called me a thief I have never stolen anything from anyone in my life so shes really out of line yet again we have helped his family mutable times and each time its returned with a nice firm stab in my back always me! they will say this **** about you and then smile to your face and im just so sick of it..ive never had issues with any other BFs family most have loved me and I really miss that..
Gaeta Posted November 29, 2016 Posted November 29, 2016 You need to make a list of the pros and the cons of this relationship. I had a look at your history and it seems you have bigger issues than his family being trash. Maybe it's time to move on from this.
kendahke Posted November 29, 2016 Posted November 29, 2016 What does he do when confronted with his sister's accusations towards you? Does he defend you or does he defend his sister and family? Unless he's totally on-board with turning his back on his own family and cutting all communication with them in order to maintain your relationship, I can't see how this is going to work between you two.
Author Poe77 Posted November 30, 2016 Author Posted November 30, 2016 You need to make a list of the pros and the cons of this relationship. I had a look at your history and it seems you have bigger issues than his family being trash. Maybe it's time to move on from this. Everything else we can work on far as im concerned I honestly think we will get there eventuality..but yeah I know what you mean What does he do when confronted with his sister's accusations towards you? Does he defend you or does he defend his sister and family? Unless he's totally on-board with turning his back on his own family and cutting all communication with them in order to maintain your relationship, I can't see how this is going to work between you two. Well his thing is he hates conflict he would rather not say anything ive told him in the past he needs to back me up when they are blantelty wrong and he knows it I confronted him with what I learned and he said he told her I didn't steal anything and I had no need to as what they said I took we have lots of DVDs...and its true we have hundreds so I guess he did back me up he just doesn't like feeling into his sisters drama..
eightytwenty Posted November 30, 2016 Posted November 30, 2016 He sounds like he has no backbone, and his family sounds like trash. I would honestly tell him, I want no connection with your family, if you can't handle that I'm out. Life is too short to deal with that drama. 1
mortensorchid Posted November 30, 2016 Posted November 30, 2016 That's a difficult one. I have been in a few situations similar, no matter how fleeting they may be, and I tried saying to myself "Well that's not his fault". But I said that when I was younger and not as experienced as I am now, and, quite honestly, the apple does not fall that far from the tree. He may seem like an okay guy, but ... It shows itself over time unfortunately. If they are as you say they are, weigh the pros and cons of it. If he's dedicated to not being like that, then good for him and he'll overcome certain things. Most likely, however, he's not. And you'll end up high and dry or moving on.
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