freebird31 Posted November 29, 2016 Posted November 29, 2016 I feel so confused. In regards to dating, I hear different forms of advice. Some people give advice in order to play some sort of game to catch and lure someone you're dating in. Other people say to be more upfront and communicate. And that if a person is mature, there is no need to play these "games." If a person is truly mature they will communicate back with you and won't be scared off. Does it just vary case by case. My reason for asking is i confronted someone who was sending me mixed signals. I now wonder if I should have just left it alone. I am so confused and afraid I made a mistake now.
Sunkissedpatio Posted November 29, 2016 Posted November 29, 2016 Why, what was the outcome of confronting them? And what did you confront on?
Sunkissedpatio Posted November 29, 2016 Posted November 29, 2016 And to answer your question I believe it is a balance of both. Not so much to play games but it is more of a "dance of cat and mouse" when enough interest is there on both sides. It's more about knowing when to give up and next someone who isn't respecting you and about knowing who to invest in to play said "game" of seduction with.
Redhead14 Posted November 29, 2016 Posted November 29, 2016 I feel so confused. In regards to dating, I hear different forms of advice. Some people give advice in order to play some sort of game to catch and lure someone you're dating in. Other people say to be more upfront and communicate. And that if a person is mature, there is no need to play these "games." If a person is truly mature they will communicate back with you and won't be scared off. Does it just vary case by case. My reason for asking is i confronted someone who was sending me mixed signals. I now wonder if I should have just left it alone. I am so confused and afraid I made a mistake now. The problem is that you don't know if you are dealing with a mature person . . . And, it's not about the other person, it's about YOU. You be You always and if the other person is "scared" off, so be it. The right person will be attracted to YOU . . . just the way you are. Yes, there are certain things you shouldn't do which are all about common sense -- human nature. Don't smother a person, don't be over-anxious, don't over analyze, etc. but if you're doing those things -- you're immature. There are no games. I meet a man . . . I'm attracted to him . . . I will naturally show him that. I am not all up inside his head trying to figure out what works for him or doesn't and try to accommodate to get him to "like" me. I am what I am what I am what I am. And, like it or not, some guys just wanna have sex. That's OK. I like sex too, but I want a closer relationship and I won't keep having sex with a man if he's not showing me what I need from him. And, if they aren't being clear with me about what they want, they don't get what they want . . . unless I want it too and prepared to say goodbye if they disappear. 2
Mkn1010 Posted November 29, 2016 Posted November 29, 2016 Just be yourself as playing games will only get you so far and there needs to be genuine compatibility of intentions etc long term
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