sunflwer625 Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 Ok I have a question? The guy I was dating for 17 months and I broke about a week ago (the 6th to be exact). Well the day before we broke up he ordered a part to fix my car. Well the next day we met up and decided to call it quits. Well he asked me that day what I wanted to do about the part and I told him here's the money to cover it and that he could just leave it where he ordered it or get it and keep it-- I didn't care really. I told him that I would take care of getting it fixed on my own. (I also need to mention that we were in a LDR so he ordered the part where he lived...) Well we didn't speak until the 12th (well he text messaged me). Well he went on about how he had went to get the part and that it was the wrong one and that he would reorder the correct part. Well I told him that I had already talked to the parts store and they said they would hold it for me until I traveled to get it. Well, I guess I better get to the point... Why did he even go mess with getting it? MY ex-husband would have said "Forget that- if she wants it she can go get it..." And even if he felt obligated to go get it (and was just trying to be nice)why did he even tell me about it being the wrong part-- why not just reorder the right one and let me know later-- or heck even just mail it to me when the right one came in. (That's what he wanted me to do with his stuff when we broke up-- he wanted me to just mail it to him.) I was willing to just leave it be-- as far as I was concerned I had paid him back the money- so that was not on my conscious-- and I was going to just chalk it up as a few bucks lost--no big deal. Well I had decided to not even call him or talk to him, but when he decided to text me I decided I better also as for my spare keys back for my car. Well this threw me off too... When I asked if they would be available to me all he asked was "When are you coming?" he didn't say I'll mail them to you or anything... I guess I'm just confused on what's really going on. We broke up because I was willing to take the relationship to the next level and he wasn't comfortable with that. So he said it wouldn't work. I had worked all this time to get over the fact that we would no longer be together and then sends me a message about a part that I told him was, to me, irrelevant now. I was ready to just let bygones be bygones and move on. What is this guy thinking? what are his motives? Any insight would be great!! I'll be going to his town tomorrow to get some things with school and work situated and I don't know how to handle things if I have to see him to get my keys??? I guess if I was more clear on his intentions maybe I could prepare my self!!! Let me know what you think PLEASE!!!
A Fly onThe Wall Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 What kind of car part is worth all this drama ? It is just a car part. Have him send the keys in the mail with the car part or have the car part sent to you. what are his motives.. Who knows.. Ask him
Author sunflwer625 Posted July 14, 2005 Author Posted July 14, 2005 I do see what you are saying about just leaving everything up to the mail, but I would kind of rather see the keys in my hand-- that way I know I get them. But what I worry about is how I should handle myself if I do have to see him to get the keys? What is he wanting? When we split he kept saying he wished he wasn't so wishy-washy about what he wanted. In a way he wanted to stay together but at the same time he felt it would just hurt me if it went nowhere. That splitting was the best thing to do. Is he feeling sad, hurt, lonely, or regretting what has happened? Is he going to try and talk to me about reconciliation? or am I just reading to much into it and he's just being nice? But why be nice to this extreme to an ex? I can understand being nice and friendly, but to go out of your way to do something makes no sense?! Let me know!!
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