mikemike15-1 Posted November 28, 2016 Posted November 28, 2016 So this girl and I have been hanging out for a little while now, we've gone on several what seemed to be dates going out to dinner just the 2 of us a couple times and all. Then this past week we hung out with some friends of mine 2 different times and had been drinking at their house we were playing games and all, and she was all over me, head on my shoulder, hands on my legs, would look over at me every couple minutes just to look me in the eyes, cuddling up on me wanting me to sleep on the couch with her, fell asleep with her head in my lap. I mean like all the signs that she likes me, everyone there could see it too and kept asking when am I gonna ask her out that we're perfect for each other and that she's clearly into me. Then she took me outside where we had a talk where she told me she needs time and she doesn't want anything more than what we already have which I get she did just get out of two bad relationships where she went into them too quick, but here comes the confusing part she then told me that she doesn't share the same feelings for me as I have for her like as though no feeling exist at all. The next day I told everyone that was there both nights what happened (it's a group of my friends) and they are just as lost and confused as I am. I just need help figuring this out and what to do. Thanks
Grey40 Posted November 28, 2016 Posted November 28, 2016 So this girl and I have been hanging out for a little while now, we've gone on several what seemed to be dates going out to dinner just the 2 of us a couple times and all. Then this past week we hung out with some friends of mine 2 different times and had been drinking at their house we were playing games and all, and she was all over me, head on my shoulder, hands on my legs, would look over at me every couple minutes just to look me in the eyes, cuddling up on me wanting me to sleep on the couch with her, fell asleep with her head in my lap. I mean like all the signs that she likes me, everyone there could see it too and kept asking when am I gonna ask her out that we're perfect for each other and that she's clearly into me. Then she took me outside where we had a talk where she told me she needs time and she doesn't want anything more than what we already have which I get she did just get out of two bad relationships where she went into them too quick, but here comes the confusing part she then told me that she doesn't share the same feelings for me as I have for her like as though no feeling exist at all. The next day I told everyone that was there both nights what happened (it's a group of my friends) and they are just as lost and confused as I am. I just need help figuring this out and what to do. Thanks Just back off and keep doing what you've been doing. Don't bring up being serious or dating or anything, just keep hanging out as you are and don't press the issue. She is clearly into you, she just wants to take it slow because of her past. Let her take it slow. You don't need to be entirely in a committed relationship after a few hangouts. I'd wait a good month and then maybe bring it up again if it doesn't clear itself up by then
kvolm2016 Posted November 30, 2016 Posted November 30, 2016 Can you just talk with her directly and tell her you are confused because her actions seem to indicate something different from her words?
LargoLagg Posted November 30, 2016 Posted November 30, 2016 You took too long, and at some point, she decided that you must not like her all that much. By the time you manned up (because of her urging, I might add), she was pissed. This is classic man-woman behavior. Remember this: fortune belongs to the bold. Risk rejection, the rewards are more than worth it.
TheTraveler Posted November 30, 2016 Posted November 30, 2016 You took too long, and at some point, she decided that you must not like her all that much. By the time you manned up (because of her urging, I might add), she was pissed. This is classic man-woman behavior. Remember this: fortune belongs to the bold. Risk rejection, the rewards are more than worth it. You are probably right. He friendzoned himself
Erik30 Posted November 30, 2016 Posted November 30, 2016 You're just her cuddle buddy when she's feeling lonely. Don't try to make excuses for her about not being ready. You're basically being her boyfriend without all the intimacy. Some guy will show up one day and start dating her, and she'll be wondering why you're mad since you're "just friends" after all.
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