RecentChange Posted December 5, 2016 Posted December 5, 2016 Can you accept love, and live happily with this man in his current state? If he isn't in on going treatment now, the odds are very very slim that this will ever be controlled. In your gut you know. .. that is why you are here starting these threads. Is he really the one you want to be exclusive with? What are you going to do if another prospect surfaces?
spiderowl Posted December 5, 2016 Posted December 5, 2016 You know what you need to do. It sounds like you need to opt out of this relationship. His has subtly pressured you into agreeing to something you don't actually want. You are not attracted to him and you feel he misrepresented himself. You find his anxieties and controlling behaviour too much. I think you agreed because for a moment you felt close to him. Hard though it might seem, you can change your mind. It is best to be quick and tell him rather than let him get more attached to you.
spiderowl Posted December 5, 2016 Posted December 5, 2016 I forgot to mention that his OCD affects me. For example when trying to get out of his car, he asked me to open and close the door multiple times. This goes for other things too. Such as which side of him to sit on (it changes sometimes) how to get up, etc. Have to hang up the phone on a certain minute, because there are numbers he deems as bad, and a conversation can't end on one of those. This is pretty bad. While it is obviously an enormous struggle for him, it would drive you crazy. I know someone who is a bit OCD and when in her house she is very controlling about lots of things. I can't just put things in the bin, they have to all be wrapped up several times. She has a thing about getting water on surfaces in the kitchen, and so on ... These are all extensions of normal behaviour, I guess, but believe me, after a short time I feel as if my every move is being controlled. It is not going to work so why prolong the agony?
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