Girlfriend not making the effort to see me

[elaine567]

I know it sounds like it could be a great love story for the two of you, but frankly I think you and your dog, deserve better.

Plenty women out there who would appreciate you more.

 

~ There Comes A Time When You Have To Stop Crossing Oceans For People Who Wouldn't Jump A Puddle For You ~

[Shining One]

The father lives 2 hours away. So every other sunday we drive together to pick her up.

Who does the actual driving on these trips, you or your girlfriend?

 

Most of the women I've dated have tried to minimize their driving responsibilities as much as possible. This became a source of frustration for me in the past. In my recent relationships, I decided to put my foot down early to prevent future frustrations. It sounds like your girlfriend has gotten comfortable with you doing the vast majority of the driving and she doesn't want to change that.

Edited November 27, 2016 by Shining One

[gcp]

Who does the actual driving on these trips, you or your girlfriend?

 

Most of the women I've dated have tried to minimize their driving responsibilities as much as possible. This became a source of frustration for me in the past. In my recent relationships, I decided to put my foot down early to prevent future frustrations. It sounds like your girlfriend has gotten comfortable with you doing the vast majority of the driving and she doesn't want to change that.

 

She will drive there and I'm the one who drives home so she can spend time with the little one in the back.

[MarkIVSteel]

My house is clean, but I am a 28 year old man living alone with his dog, so no it is not as cozy as her home.

 

Update: Today was the day we were supposed to go pick up her daughter, I decided to take a step back after our talk and stay home, thinking it would be best if I didn't go this time.

 

Well, she took to social media and posted one of those Quote Meme things, this is what it said, "I'M NOT A PERFECT PERSON, I MAKE A LOT OF MISTAKES; BUT STILL, I LOVE THOSE PEOPLE WHO STAY WITH ME AFTER KNOWING HOW I REALLY AM." Then left the comment below it "In a world full of critics"

 

Maybe Im being overly sensitive but i could only assume this was about me telling her I do not think our relationship is very fair or balanced.

 

Get out of your head and stop reading into every little crap.

[Dirt]

I know it sounds like it could be a great love story for the two of you, but frankly I think you and your dog, deserve better.

Plenty women out there who would appreciate you more.

 

~ There Comes A Time When You Have To Stop Crossing Oceans For People Who Wouldn't Jump A Puddle For You ~

 

And at his age, never married and without kids.

[olivetree]

My house is clean, but I am a 28 year old man living alone with his dog, so no it is not as cozy as her home.

 

Update: Today was the day we were supposed to go pick up her daughter, I decided to take a step back after our talk and stay home, thinking it would be best if I didn't go this time.

 

Well, she took to social media and posted one of those Quote Meme things, this is what it said, "I'M NOT A PERFECT PERSON, I MAKE A LOT OF MISTAKES; BUT STILL, I LOVE THOSE PEOPLE WHO STAY WITH ME AFTER KNOWING HOW I REALLY AM." Then left the comment below it "In a world full of critics"

 

Maybe Im being overly sensitive but i could only assume this was about me telling her I do not think our relationship is very fair or balanced.

 

She sounds very dramatic. No idea if that is about you but people who air their dirty laundry on FB (even cryptically) are not for me. Seems immature and attention seeking.

 

But anyway, what did she actually say TO YOU when you said you wouldn't be going? Does she drive herself when you're not there to take her?

 

Does she make up for not coming to you in other ways?

 

If not, then you are doing the right thing by pulling back if you want a more balanced relationship.