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I want my GF's sister. [UPDATE: Ex is texting me wanting a fight.]

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My ex blew up my phone just now. She thinks I'm pretending to have a crush just to make her jealous. She said "I think you forgot that I'm a double major in sociology and communications, you get nothing pass me." I told her the truth, about how I feel about her sister, she said "I g2g now" and blocked me.

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My ex blew up my phone just now. She thinks I'm pretending to have a crush just to make her jealous. She said "I think you forgot that I'm a double major in sociology and communications, you get nothing pass me." I told her the truth, about how I feel about her sister, she said "I g2g now" and blocked me.

 

You need a break from both of them.

 

Let me tell you that once a guy I was dating started to subtly flirt with my sister over Facebook chats.

My sister called me and explained her concerns.

I called the guy and asked him directly whats going on. He tried to blame it on my sister and provoke me against her.

 

I dumped the guy. He reached out to her.... she cut him off.

 

We sisters stand together. No guy comes between us.

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You need a break from both of them.

 

Let me tell you that once a guy I was dating started to subtly flirt with my sister over Facebook chats.

My sister called me and explained her concerns.

I called the guy and asked him directly whats going on. He tried to blame it on my sister and provoke me against her.

 

I dumped the guy. He reached out to her.... she cut him off.

 

We sisters stand together. No guy comes between us.

 

She keeps laughing about it and saying I'm trying to make her jealous. I told her I've always been attracted to her sister, and all of this doesn't matter because she cheated on me and told me she never loved me. Her sister says my ex really cared and is struggling with this, but my ex is acting all happy go lucky.

 

Yes, I'm taking a break. They blocked me anyways, I'll just soak in my pain and suffer.

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She just sent me a msg. "first of all my sister really did care for you, don't discredit her. You don't know half the struggle she's going through."

 

She's not addressing my crush, & I don't agree with her about this. She cheated on me & told me straight up she never loved me. I don't see how she's struggling when she's with the guy she want's to be with.

 

That has nothing to do with you trying to hit on her sister. Her sister. Seriously?

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She keeps laughing about it and saying I'm trying to make her jealous. I told her I've always been attracted to her sister, and all of this doesn't matter because she cheated on me and told me she never loved me. Her sister says my ex really cared and is struggling with this, but my ex is acting all happy go lucky.

 

Yes, I'm taking a break. They blocked me anyways, I'll just soak in my pain and suffer.

 

Stop repeating that part in bold above and justify your actions.... you were equally or even more wrong for falling for her sister. HER SISTER!!!!

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Stop repeating that part in bold above and justify your actions.... you were equally or even more wrong for falling for her sister. HER SISTER!!!!

 

Fine, I'm wrong for that. I fell for her a long time ago, I just had to tell her.

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Fine, I'm wrong for that. I fell for her a long time ago, I just had to tell her.

 

Full disclosure is not always the best option, especially on social media.

 

Just think about it. If it's not something you could say to her face, it's not worth sending an instant message.

 

Best way to rescue this is to claim someone hacked you or something but then damage is already done. She'll always be wondering. Anyway it's best for you to take a break from all this.

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you were equally or even more wrong for falling for her sister. HER SISTER!!!!

 

What the hell. How is falling for someone, something you cannot control, worse than cheating, which you are fully capable of controlling?! Jesus Christ.

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What the hell. How is falling for someone, something you cannot control, worse than cheating, which you are fully capable of controlling?! Jesus Christ.

 

Biggest lie ever told!

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Biggest lie ever told!

 

Oh for God's sake, everyone has the right to feel whatever they want. I'm not even agreeing with OP at all. I think he is crazy for pursuing his ex's sister for reasons already mentioned in this thread. But the problem lies in his actions, not his frickin feelings. Saying that everyone chooses who they fall for is the same toxic mentality that homophobes use when they say that being gay is a choice.

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Oh for God's sake, everyone has the right to feel whatever they want. I'm not even agreeing with OP at all. I think he is crazy for pursuing his ex's sister for reasons already mentioned in this thread. But the problem lies in his actions, not his frickin feelings. Saying that everyone chooses who they fall for is the same toxic mentality that homophobes use when they say that being gay is a choice.

 

You're right. I was just thinking about that... I can't control the fact that I was falling for her. I was wrong for telling her though. Now I have nothing.

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YOU thought you could pick up where you left off only with her sister instead of your ex.

It doesn't work that way, as you found out to your cost.

The bed was hardly cold when you asked her sister to jump into it with you, that is not cool, no self respecting woman would want to do that.

Don't do that again.

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Now you'll just soak in your pain and suffer... You have nothing... You are dead inside...

 

Dude, you are a piece of work.

 

No sympathy from anyone here. You really need to learn how to respect women. Anyone who thinks that the sister would ever entertain the thought of dating you, is seriously delusional. Sorry, it's just that ridiculous.

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Having just read both of your threads from beginning to end, while if find your situation somewhat hilarious since you walked right into it with both eyes open and guns blazing, I wiil give you a valuable piece of advice.

 

Never and I mean NEVER assume that family is anything but. Exchanging sisters to bang is the stuff of bad movie scripts, not real life.

 

At the end of the day they will remain tight , because they are sisters.

 

I know your feelings got the best of you because your gf cheated on you so in a moment of poor judgement you spilled the beans to her sister being you has a feeling for a fleeting moment.

 

You are not he first guy that has had something like this blow up in his face, and you won't be the last.

 

Just because you can remain on friendly terms with someone you used to have a relationship with doe snot mean hat everyone can.

 

You sure stepped in it. But do yourself a favor and chalk i up to emotions getting the best of you, making a foolish mistake and moving in. Just cut them both out of your life. You are just adding insult to injury by even communicating with either of them.

 

So they blocked you. Accept it and find someone else.

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Many of us make rookie mistakes like this. Learn from it.

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Having just read both of your threads from beginning to end, while if find your situation somewhat hilarious since you walked right into it with both eyes open and guns blazing, I wiil give you a valuable piece of advice.

 

Never and I mean NEVER assume that family is anything but. Exchanging sisters to bang is the stuff of bad movie scripts, not real life.

 

At the end of the day they will remain tight , because they are sisters.

 

I know your feelings got the best of you because your gf cheated on you so in a moment of poor judgement you spilled the beans to her sister being you has a feeling for a fleeting moment.

 

You are not he first guy that has had something like this blow up in his face, and you won't be the last.

 

Just because you can remain on friendly terms with someone you used to have a relationship with doe snot mean hat everyone can.

 

You sure stepped in it. But do yourself a favor and chalk i up to emotions getting the best of you, making a foolish mistake and moving in. Just cut them both out of your life. You are just adding insult to injury by even communicating with either of them.

 

So they blocked you. Accept it and find someone else.

 

 

The thing is her sister is the one who has been contacting me since the breakup. She's always been that shoulder to cry on, & cheer me up. Yes I'm attracted to her physically, but emotionally too. I feel that she cares more than my ex ever did.

 

I crossed the line telling her how I felt. I can't help the way I feel about her but I'm stupid for letting her know. I was drunk last night and sent her an apology, asked if we can just remain friends.

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The thing is her sister is the one who has been contacting me since the breakup. She's always been that shoulder to cry on, & cheer me up. Yes I'm attracted to her physically, but emotionally too. I feel that she cares more than my ex ever did.

 

I crossed the line telling her how I felt. I can't help the way I feel about her but I'm stupid for letting her know. I was drunk last night and sent her an apology, asked if we can just remain friends.

No, you didn't cross any lines and you weren't stupid for telling her how you feel. You feel how you feel, and when you feel that way, it's better to let it out than to keep it in. It was a long shot from the outside, you knew that going in. Chances are that it wouldn't work. Now there's no regrets. You took your shot. There are no question marks. You can look at yourself in the mirror, and know that you acted in good faith. Who cares what others think about it? Who cares what your ex thinks about it? In the long run, you just have to live with yourself.

 

Second, you forgot to tell your ex to shove it where the sun don't shine. You forgot to tell your ex that her dimestore diploma isn't worth the paper it is printed on. You forgot to say that you don't pine for cheating {bad name here}. You forgot to tell her that her sister is sweet, and she's a {fill in the blank}. You forgot to tell her that her sister has a warm and caring heart, and that the ex is a heartless {whatever}. You forgot to ask how anyone could not fall madly in love with the sister, and wonder how you ever fell for a {not nice description} like your ex. You forgot to act like a guy who really likes her sister instead of the ex. You forgot to be the Stephen Curry of love: dogged, determined, relentless. You forgot to be believable.

 

The stupid thing was to back off from your declaration. "Can't we just be friends" makes you out to be the creep she now knows you are. If you like a woman, you own it, no apologies, no backing down to anyone. I don't care who her sister is. But now, because you did back down, you're just some wishy-washy creepy dude who tried to hook up with his ex's sister. You might have been seen as creepy anyway, but at least you'd be a sincere creep. That's better than what they're thinking right now.

 

Time to pick yourself up, dust yourself off, learn from this debacle and live your life. And if anybody ever mentions it to you, then just refer to that second paragraph up there.

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You might have been seen as creepy anyway, but at least you'd be a sincere creep. That's better than what they're thinking right now.

 

 

 

:) muhahahahaha

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It's 4:30 am, and my ex is blowing up my phone. Its been weeks since we broke up and the last time we talked she said "leave me alone or I will call the cops and get a restraining order on you."

 

Now she's trying to fight me about something I said on my blog. What I said was not even a big deal & was subliminal. But why does she even care? That was weeks ago when I posted it. I haven't responded because we're just gonna argue back and forth.

 

I still love her tbh. I was trying to take a break from her, and waiting for her to talk to me calmly, but now she wants to fight.

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Too much drama. You were right to leave her alone. All that fighting would drive me mad and I wouldn't respond back to her.

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Block her on everything.

 

Don't allow any communication from her to reach you.

 

 

Take care.

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Passive aggressive "subliminal" messages on your blog, I guess designed to wind your ex up is not very mature.

Stop doing that.

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I'm not going to respond, but I want to. I want her back.

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