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I want my GF's sister. [UPDATE: Ex is texting me wanting a fight.]

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amaysngrace Established Member

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Ask her out rather than just making the assumption that she digs you then if you're so sure she does.

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mia251 Member

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Honestly, go for it. The sister sounds better than your ex. However, is her sister just a rebound? Would you actually consider dating her? You don't want to hurt her feelings along the way.

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My ex cheated on me, I couldn't control that.

 

I have self respect, but something tells me I should be with her sister. I just have that feeling. She cares about me more than my ex does, I'll know that much.

 

Please refrain from saying that you have self-respect. There's nothing respectable about going for someone who's related to someone you were once intimate with. What are you thinking? As far as I'm concerned and aware you're doing so just so you can get some 'sweet' revenge on your ex and whilst doing so have a grand time with her sister.

 

My dad cares about me more than my ex did, doesn't mean I should go for him? my occupation manager cares about me more than my ex did, doesn't mean I should go for her? Personally, you're just inclined to do something really stupid and which could jeopardize a families relationship.

 

You want to talk about self-respect? act like a man? Walk away from the entire situation and leave them all behind and alone for that matter. Understandable she 'cheated on you' so there's alot of harrowing emotions but just because someone does something absurd and wrong to you, doesn't mean you have to imitate it. Nonetheless there's no reason to be just as sinister and oppressive.

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It's over with my GF, caught her cheating on Christmas Eve. She wants to be with him instead of me. I lashed out, said some mean things to her, kinda went overboard.
I'm curious to know what exactly you can say to a GF who cheated on you that goes overboard.

I unfriended her and her sister online. But tonight her sister requested to be my friend again. She told me I need to let her go, that I should know my worth, if she doesn't want you, then someone will (hint, hint.) She's the one I ran to when me and my ex had problems & she always has the right answers. I asked her if we could remain friends because she's pretty cool, still waiting for her reply.

 

She's closer to my age, has it together, more mature. She actually acknowledge my birthday, when her sister didn't. I'm attracted to her. She's more beautiful. Recently broke up with her bf too. But she's my EX-girlfriends sister.

 

My heart is broken, but a rebound doesn't sound too shabby. I want her, there was always something about her. Should I go for it? If so, tell me how to go about this...

Your heart is broken? Are you sure?

 

You're going to get two reactions to this bang the sister idea: Go for it, and DON'T! Women are likely to give you the latter, as well as guys who put relationships on a pedestal. But, in fairness, you have to be careful about mistaking genuine sympathy for attraction, when you're in an emotional state you might misconstrue sympathy for signals.

 

But, assuming that the sister is actually willing, in the long run, any conflict between them will be their problem. The long and short of it seems to be either that your GF never liked you all that much, regardless of what she's told you, or that if she did, those days are over. So, unless she's a bitch on wheels, she shouldn't really have any objection other than some sisterly pride BS - which isn't your problem. Also, don't be so sure they haven't already talked about it. What's more, you don't owe the EX anything, including a modicum of respect, if she cheated on you. In fact, if she gives you any sh*t at all, just say something like:

 

Remember when you cheated on me? Yeah, I do too. I don't owe you anything, especially respect. GFY.

 

You're not likely to get mixed signals from the sister once you go for it. She's either in, or she's out. She won't be shy either way.

 

Can't wait to hear what happens! Fortune belongs to the bold!

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BlkVelvet Established Member

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Geez this is ridiculous. You're "heartbroken" but all you can think about is boning her sister. Yeah, okay.

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marky00 Established Member

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Why not have a threesome and be done with it?

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Stephen Furry Member

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Honestly, go for it. The sister sounds better than your ex. However, is her sister just a rebound? Would you actually consider dating her? You don't want to hurt her feelings along the way.

 

To be honest, I've always had a thing for her. I told myself "I chose the wrong sister" all the time. She's wayyyyy better, if i could go back in time I'd pursue her instead of my ex.

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Stephen Furry Member

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Please refrain from saying that you have self-respect. There's nothing respectable about going for someone who's related to someone you were once intimate with. What are you thinking? As far as I'm concerned and aware you're doing so just so you can get some 'sweet' revenge on your ex and whilst doing so have a grand time with her sister.

 

My dad cares about me more than my ex did, doesn't mean I should go for him? my occupation manager cares about me more than my ex did, doesn't mean I should go for her? Personally, you're just inclined to do something really stupid and which could jeopardize a families relationship.

 

You want to talk about self-respect? act like a man? Walk away from the entire situation and leave them all behind and alone for that matter. Understandable she 'cheated on you' so there's alot of harrowing emotions but just because someone does something absurd and wrong to you, doesn't mean you have to imitate it. Nonetheless there's no reason to be just as sinister and oppressive.

 

 

My ex could care less. I've talked to the guy she cheated on me with. She told him I mean nothing to her, I was just a guy who had a crush and we just messed around.

 

I just realized he said she was trying to hook me up with her sister. I told him she was lying, but now I feel there's some truth to it. Like this past month she became distant, I initiated all the communication. But the sister would interact

with me all the time. I'm not trying to hurt my ex, but I always had a thing for the sister. I would love to have a relationship with her, not just hook up.

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I'm curious to know what exactly you can say to a GF who cheated on you that goes overboard.Your heart is broken? Are you sure?

 

You're going to get two reactions to this bang the sister idea: Go for it, and DON'T! Women are likely to give you the latter, as well as guys who put relationships on a pedestal. But, in fairness, you have to be careful about mistaking genuine sympathy for attraction, when you're in an emotional state you might misconstrue sympathy for signals.

 

But, assuming that the sister is actually willing, in the long run, any conflict between them will be their problem. The long and short of it seems to be either that your GF never liked you all that much, regardless of what she's told you, or that if she did, those days are over. So, unless she's a bitch on wheels, she shouldn't really have any objection other than some sisterly pride BS - which isn't your problem. Also, don't be so sure they haven't already talked about it. What's more, you don't owe the EX anything, including a modicum of respect, if she cheated on you. In fact, if she gives you any sh*t at all, just say something like:

 

Remember when you cheated on me? Yeah, I do too. I don't owe you anything, especially respect. GFY.

 

You're not likely to get mixed signals from the sister once you go for it. She's either in, or she's out. She won't be shy either way.

 

Can't wait to hear what happens! Fortune belongs to the bold!

 

 

 

You are exactly right. I don't owe my ex anything. She was with this guy for awhile when she could have just broke up with me a long time ago instead of stringing me along. I felt she was losing interest along the way too.

 

On the other hand, attraction for the sister has been building. She would hit me up all the time, but I had to cut it short because I was loyal to my GF, and didn't want to show my true interest.

 

Last time I talked to the sister, she said my ex is just a young, dumb girl, who wants all these guys attention. If she doesn't want me, someone does. She knows my heart is broken and that I need to move on. I asked if we could remain friends, she laughed and said yes.

 

I'm going to go all in today. I'll take it slow, and just say "I've had a lightweight crush on you since the beginning."

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Stephen Furry Member

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If you read my other thread, I broke up with my girlfriend, & was always interested in her sister.

 

I've been talking to her the past couple of days, & told her how much I appreciate her for helping me out. One thing lead to another, and I told her "I know it's not the right time to say this, but I've always had a crush on you." She replied "OMG, bye" and blocked me.

 

I'm dead inside.

BaileyB Established Member

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Pretty much what everyone said would happen...

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Gr8fuln2020 Established Member

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If you read my other thread, I broke up with my girlfriend, & was always interested in her sister.

 

I've been talking to her the past couple of days, & told her how much I appreciate her for helping me out. One thing lead to another, and I told her "I know it's not the right time to say this, but I've always had a crush on you." She replied "OMG, bye" and blocked me.

 

I'm dead inside.

 

You only 'think' you're dead inside. You're not. I haven't read your other post, but your ex's sister did what a loyal sister would or should. Move on and find another gf.

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brianalex New Member

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I had a few clients who were in similar situation.

 

Why did it happen?

Girls do not appreciate being the fall back option, cos it makes the feel not important

 

What can you do about it?

I suggest the same thing as simpleNfit did. You need to move on!!

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Stephen Furry Member

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She just sent me a msg. "first of all my sister really did care for you, don't discredit her. You don't know half the struggle she's going through."

 

She's not addressing my crush, & I don't agree with her about this. She cheated on me & told me straight up she never loved me. I don't see how she's struggling when she's with the guy she want's to be with.

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Younger sister cheated on me, I want the older one. I'm trying to go for it, but it looks challenging right now.

 

Please don't make it sound like - "Oh she cheated on me so now I am somehow entitled to date the other sister!!"

 

You were already emotionally cheating on this girl because you liked her sister while being with her. Maybe that forced her to be so sensitive and speak to other men???!!!! You already wanted out and her "cheating" on you just gave you the opportunity to blame it all on her and act like a victim.

 

The fact that you are hardly struggling with the break up and now dying for the older sister says how much you cared about your ex and the relationship. You are using this just as a means to manipulate the older sister and get her sympathy and maybe a way to her heart.

 

No self respecting woman would ever want to get into a relationship with her sister's ex BF so soon after their break up.

 

Why don't you take a break from both the sisters, figure out what you really want and then decide? You are just creating a mess by moving too fast.

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Please don't make it sound like - "Oh she cheated on me so now I am somehow entitled to date the other sister!!"

 

You were already emotionally cheating on this girl because you liked her sister while being with her. Maybe that forced her to be so sensitive and speak to other men???!!!! You already wanted out and her "cheating" on you just gave you the opportunity to blame it all on her and act like a victim.

 

The fact that you are hardly struggling with the break up and now dying for the older sister says how much you cared about your ex and the relationship. You are using this just as a means to manipulate the older sister and get her sympathy and maybe a way to her heart.

 

No self respecting woman would ever want to get into a relationship with her sister's ex BF so soon after their break up.

 

Why don't you take a break from both the sisters, figure out what you really want and then decide? You are just creating a mess by moving too fast.

 

I'm pretty much used to having my heart broken at this point in my life. She broke up with me on Christmas eve, cried my eyes out, got mad drunk, had a horrible Christmas, then realized I deserve better.

 

Yeah I had a thing for her sister, but that doesn't mean I didn't love my GF and gave her 100%

 

I just told her sister, she always was there for me, I appreciated her, & I had an innocent crush, always had. It wasn't the best time to say it, but I wanted to say it.

 

I will take a break, I just need to clean things up with the sister first.

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winny Established Member

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I'm pretty much used to having my heart broken at this point in my life. She broke up with me on Christmas eve, cried my eyes out, got mad drunk, had a horrible Christmas, then realized I deserve better.

 

Yeah I had a thing for her sister, but that doesn't mean I didn't love my GF and gave her 100%

 

I just told her sister, she always was there for me, I appreciated her, & I had an innocent crush, always had. It wasn't the best time to say it, but I wanted to say it.

 

I will take a break, I just need to clean things up with the sister first.

 

Yes please take a break. You may feel totally different about the situation later.

Your emotional situation right now may force you to take some stupid actions and mess things further. If it is meant to be with the older sister... it will be... why rush? Maybe a break from you would help her to reassess her thoughts. But its just wrong to make a move so soon after a break up within same family.

 

And I cried on my birthday and Christmas too - both fall on same day.... feels horrible but that's life...

 

Good luck!

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I'm pretty much used to having my heart broken at this point in my life. She broke up with me on Christmas eve, cried my eyes out, got mad drunk, had a horrible Christmas, then realized I deserve better.

 

Yeah I had a thing for her sister, but that doesn't mean I didn't love my GF and gave her 100%

 

I just told her sister, she always was there for me, I appreciated her, & I had an innocent crush, always had. It wasn't the best time to say it, but I wanted to say it.

 

I will take a break, I just need to clean things up with the sister first.

 

I don't believe you.

 

This thread is about the sister and not about the ex. You got dumped twice. Own it

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elaine567 Established Member

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I just need to clean things up with the sister first.

 

Don't bother.

She made it perfectly clear where she stands.

Leave her alone.

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GemmaUK Established Member

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Neither of them want you.

Just accept that and move on

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If you read my other thread, I broke up with my girlfriend, & was always interested in her sister.

 

I've been talking to her the past couple of days, & told her how much I appreciate her for helping me out. One thing lead to another, and I told her "I know it's not the right time to say this, but I've always had a crush on you." She replied "OMG, bye" and blocked me.

 

I'm dead inside.

 

Yiu appeared like a total creep by doing that. Hope you learnt the hard way that relatives of your companion are totally off limits

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IfonlyIknew Established Member

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Like I said in your previous thread.. sister code, don't go there. Just because it worked out with your brother doesn't mean it was going to work with you. Plus sending that made you look desperate, despite "always having a crush", it instead looks like "well that one didn't work out so why not pursue you!"

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introverted1 Established Member

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omg. 3.5 BILLION women on the planet and you have to date the sister of one you've already dated?

 

Move on.

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