Tim1 Posted November 26, 2016 Posted November 26, 2016 I know I know, it's another one of those threads. But I would never go to forums like this If I wasn't completely desparate. I just can't stop thinking about her, I can't even function normally without thinking about her every 30 seconds. So here is a short summary of my problem. So I met this girl when I entered highschool. Truly, the most beautiful girl I could ever imagine. She was that well intentioned, innocent, party-girl and what I like most, sometimes that rebellious girl. Slowly, I was starting to grow affections towards her, but she firstly didn't. Then came the most unbelievable moment. She started liking me back. I sometimes caught her looking at me, she was constantly laughing at my jokes, constantly looking for excuses to be with me, etc. I messed up. I was afraid. I was afraid because I thought she was out of my league, because some of her friends didn't like me, because I thought I'm just a second choice for another guy who I though she was liking. I was just making up excuses not to do anything. In truth, I was afraid she wouldn't like me when she gets to know the depeer me. So she eventually lost interest. After that summer break last year(I'm a senior by the way, that's fourth year in my country) when we didn't see each other for 2 months or so. So I convinced myself I lost out, I don't need her, etc. Little did I know emotions are going to screw me to the present day. After emotons kicked in again, I started to check if I could make my move, and I saw there was nothing. But shortly after I stopped chasing her, when I started to ignore her even for some time, I again noticed some interest. In the last days in school, we even crossed each others with those eyes you know. It's that atmosphere again, I think. But I don't know what to do now. I can't ask her on a date, time has passed fot that, we know each other for too long and I have a feeling she would say no. I think she is feeling a mixture of emotions towards me, and some of them are negative, such as that I'm a coward. And all those emotions make me unlikely to get a date. I need to tell her, face to face. I need to tell her I love her. But I don't know how to get a chance. We rarely talk anymore. Let alone talk alone. We generally only see each other in school and I can't just drag her somewhere and tell her. But I know that If I don't do it, I'm going to regret it for the rest of my life. What should I do, how to tell her? How to get us to be alone?
MarkIVSteel Posted November 26, 2016 Posted November 26, 2016 You don't sound like you get a lot of girls. You've put this girl on the highest pedestal there is. Move on to other women and stop being so scared. 1
thecrucible Posted November 26, 2016 Posted November 26, 2016 Don't worry. There will be other women who take your interest. I'd say it's like going for jobs. The first thing you want to do is get your foot in the door. You can worry about how much she likes you later. All you've got to do to begin with is get her to fancy you and then once you've secured a date, you can go from there.
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