salparadise Posted November 27, 2016 Posted November 27, 2016 (edited) I have chatted to quite a few guys online, I admit. I have found that if you chat for a week or two, then their true colours come out. First conversations can be fine; they can seem great. Two or three conversations later, they can sound very different. You start to hear about the fetishes, the controlling behaviour, the attitudes, the temper, the attempts to patronise and manipulate you, the lack of respect for your privacy or safety. Yes, sometimes are you lucky and the nice guy stays a genuine and nice guy, but there have been too many instances where the nice guy has quickly turned into a wolf, for me to suggest meeting someone quickly. There have been times when, quite frankly, I have been relieved a guy does not know my last name or where I live. A week or two, eh? I just think that's nuts, but whatever floats your boat. So you're messaging daily, or several times a day, being all wary and suspicious and looking for signs of a wolf or any excuse to eliminate the guy... See, this is exactly the reason guys shouldn't play this game. It's a waste of time, effort and dignity. If a woman is predisposed this way she will find a reason. And you know she's going to be playing a half dozen other men at the same time. BS time waster. Exchange a few messages to establish a positive rapport and ask to meet. If she acts like she afraid you're a werewolf then it wasn't going anywhere anyway. If she's actually interested in dating she'll agree to meet for a drink and a chat. You can learn more in five minutes face-to-face than you can in a month online. Edited November 27, 2016 by salparadise 2
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