Narcissist, gifted him a custom painting, why is it his profile picture?

[Lena91]

Hello everyone!

 

I've been dating this older guy for about 2 and a half months now. Cutting the story short at some point I realized he was a narcissist and wasn't treating me well or appreciating me. Regardless of my attempts to relay that to him, it was futile. At one point I tried to go A-wall on him and ignore him completely for a few days, that drove him insane.

 

My point was to end the relationship, but the humane side of me gave him another chance and I also realized that it was completely immature of me to do such a thing. We reconciled and he started treating me a whole lot better. Things were great until I felt he was bouncing back to his old habits and controlling me. He absolutely adores horses, rides horses as a hobby. Me being an artist, i decided to paint an oil painting of a horse for him. Not being cocky or anything but it was a beautiful piece. I gave it to him as a gift and he loved it.

 

About a week later I realized I couldn't continue with him as he was reverting to his old ways. However, this time I decided to end it the mature and right way. I met him in person and brought up how we were no longer what we used to be and I honestly wanted to break up right there and then but for some reason my eyes started to water in front of him and I couldn't control it. Evidently I wasn't able to break up in person, I tried to over the phone but the same thing happened. Eventually I realized that I had to do it the horrible way which was over whatsapp. I praised him and said nothing but kind things to him but let him know that I wanted to move on and that it was over.

 

It was an amicable text although I asked him to forget about me and anything to do with me. I immediately closed my whatsapp account (not giving him any chance to respond as him being a narcissist, he probably would have said some hurtful things) and mobile phone as this break up was one of the hardest things I had to do.

A day later I turned my phone on and I re-activated my whatsapp account. I found one measly call from him on my phone but that was it.

 

His whatsapp profile picture always was that of a horse photograph he got off of google. Ever since i got whatsapp back he has been signing in almosy every half hour which is not his habit at all. Since i've known him , he would sign in every 2 hours or so.

 

Another thing he's done since i reactivated whatsapp, when we were both mutually online on whatsapp, he changed his profile picture to a photograph of the horse painting that I gave him.

 

My question is why did he do that? Why is he signing in and out so frequently and why has he placed my painting as his profile picture now. Is there any meaning to all of this? He hasn't tried to contact me whatsoever aside from that one call. Fact of the matter is he has a huge ego and is narcissistic but deep down is very insecure.

 

Kindly help me understand. I know i dumped him but it was for the best even though I miss him terribly.

[basil67]

If he was a narcissist, he probably used the picture because he liked it. I would imagine it had nothing to do with you. You need to block him on whatsapp so that you're not over analysing what he does. Just work towards keeping his movements out of your mind.

 

Oh, and for the record, it's not A-wall. It's AWOL. Absent WithOut Leave.