Logo Posted November 25, 2016 Posted November 25, 2016 It's happened on 2 or 3 occasions now that a woman would contact me, write me with excitement and eagerness, then I respond, they respond, it might take me a few hours to respond again because I'm busy at work and then when I write I don't get a response. Are they expecting things to move along faster? Are they expecting me to ask for their number or to meet up instead of writing long paragraphs? Or is it just a coincidence? They do write in their profile that they are eager to meet someone in person. I should point out that these women are looking for long term dating or friendship depending on how things go, or so they claim in their profile. Am I missing something?
OatsAndHall Posted November 25, 2016 Posted November 25, 2016 (edited) It is the wonders of the technological age, my friend. This happens to me all of the time via dating sites. I start chatting with a woman, we have a good, casual conversation about life, music, interests and then I don't hear from them ever again. There's nothing in the conversations that would be a put-off like sexual innuendos, asking personal questions, etc..etc.. I just always assume that they're shopping around, was chatting with someone else they had more interest in and didn't respond. I will say, don't be surprised if you find even stranger behavior from people on these sites. I talked to a woman for three weeks, first via the site, then through Facebook/text and we made plans to talk on the phone. Some of these conversations were deep and personal, not just the normal chit-chat. I wanted to meet up for a date within a couple of weeks but we live two hours apart and couldn't as our schedules didn't mesh those over those particular weekends. We made plans to talk on the phone on a Wednesday evening and then she just disappeared on me. I waited for the phone call, it didn't come in and she didn't respond to a text. I checked Facebook and the dating website and she blocked me on both. At first I wondered if I had posted something on Facebook that would have spooked her but then I reminded myself that all I do is share funny, PG memes.. The last two messages between us went like this: Her: "I'm really looking forward to talking on the phone and I hope we can get together sometime soon." Me: "I look forward to it as well, it will be nice to talk to you. Have a nice day!". Friggin' dodged a bullet on that one.. Edited November 25, 2016 by OatsAndHall
Michelle ma Belle Posted November 25, 2016 Posted November 25, 2016 Online dating has created monsters of all us if you ask me. The attention spans online are notorious. Just when you think you found a cute toy to play with, a new one with sound comes along, then another with sound and lights! You get the picture. Don't take any of it personally. Attraction is fleeting when it comes to OLD which is why many people advocate meeting sooner rather than later if you even get that far. It's just how the game is played anymore. 2
40 Fonzarelli Posted November 25, 2016 Posted November 25, 2016 Welcome to online dating, where women have the pick of the litter and a flooded inbox to boot. The answer is simple: she found someone better.
Author Logo Posted November 25, 2016 Author Posted November 25, 2016 Welcome to online dating, where women have the pick of the litter and a flooded inbox to boot. The answer is simple: she found someone better. They contacted ME. So, clearly there was high interest on their part.
OatsAndHall Posted November 25, 2016 Posted November 25, 2016 They contacted ME. So, clearly there was high interest on their part. Eh... There was interest on her part, not necessarily "high" interest. Most folks send out message after message to perspective matches on these sites. We'd all like to think that people are going through people's profiles conscientiously and picking out those that they're most attracted to or "compatible" with but that's generally not the case. Last week, I had three different OLD conversations going while I was texting another woman. Bear in mind that I have no intention of sleeping with all these women but I've got no issue packing my social calendar with dates. Now, I didn't used to do that: I'd have one conversation at a time but that just left me high and dry when it came to meeting someone in person. And, that gets back to the situation you are describing. I would chat with one woman for awhile and then they'd just disappear and not because of anything I had said or done. They were in contact with multiple men and found something she liked better. If you're going to date online, you'd better listen to ol' Smokey Robinson's mama and shop around.
Gr8fuln2020 Posted November 25, 2016 Posted November 25, 2016 Online dating has created monsters of all us if you ask me. The attention spans online are notorious. Just when you think you found a cute toy to play with, a new one with sound comes along, then another with sound and lights! You get the picture. Don't take any of it personally. Attraction is fleeting when it comes to OLD which is why many people advocate meeting sooner rather than later if you even get that far. It's just how the game is played anymore. SIGH...yup. You are on point!
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