down hearted Posted November 25, 2016 Posted November 25, 2016 met someone, he wanted to be with me, i wasn't sure at the time since we barely have spoken for a month, then when i was ready he friend zoned me, its fine, however he gets mad if i don't respond his messages right away, when we get together he wants to be all over me, make out etc. Now I'm so confused. I want to be with him but he made it clear we are just friends, so i am treating it as that just friends. I feel like if we are friends you're not getting any special treatment, i don't have to check in etc.. i don't make out with friends, i just feel so confused and its upsetting me because i do like him, i just wanted things to go smoothly since i ended a long term relationship and just wanted to be ready first before getting into something. Now he makes it so clear that we are just friends and it does hurt but I'm just going with that and leaving it at that, i don't run after him or anything because i feel like i always go out of my way telling him i miss him etc and he doesn't. Its as though he likes to receive attention but doesn't do the same back. I feel as though he is somewhat selfish. I mean if you tell me we are friends then I'm backing off. anyway, I'm not sure what to do, seriously confused, i don't know what he wants.
hup Posted November 25, 2016 Posted November 25, 2016 Sounds like an unstable person, with issues, and doesn't know how to handle it. You're seeing some of it now. Even if you (think) like him, it's in your own best interest to stay away from him and move on completely. There's honestly plenty of men out there for you who are socially well adjusted, who you will be just as, if not more, attracted to. There's no need to stick to someone who isn't on the same page as you are. Look for what you want, don't try to force it with a particular person. 3
spiderowl Posted November 26, 2016 Posted November 26, 2016 I think you need to keep strict boundaries with him here. He wants to be just friends so make sure he stays that way. He is trying to cross boundaries as it suits him. You are not there to be picked up and dropped when he feels like it. You are worth more than he is offering you. 2
Author down hearted Posted November 26, 2016 Author Posted November 26, 2016 he hasn't texted me all day, so i messaged him good night and he didn't respond either. I feel like its one big game and I'm so tired of it. Was i wrong for texting him, i feel like it makes me seem desperate? He makes me feel so insecure, i just need to let him go. 1
hup Posted November 26, 2016 Posted November 26, 2016 he hasn't texted me all day, so i messaged him good night and he didn't respond either. I feel like its one big game and I'm so tired of it. Was i wrong for texting him, i feel like it makes me seem desperate? He makes me feel so insecure, i just need to let him go. It's a text, what's wrong with that! You've obviously taken to him a bit, that can happen. But you need to be able to see the reality here - if you weren't so infatuated with him, you wouldn't give him a second look! Infatuation, fear of rejection, etc., all cloud you to the reality. Completely detach from him, move on, and you will see how silly it really is. It's also healthier for yourself to avoid being around people with unstable behavior.
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