rebelstrike Posted November 25, 2016 Posted November 25, 2016 Hello guys! first time poster here A little background, I met this girl online and we've been on 2 dates so far. I think they were both good, lots of laughter and good conversation. On the second date we must have spent 3 hours just sitting and chatting, at the end of the night, we kissed. It was a little awkward but I don't think anything deal breaking. Now since I didn't schedule a time for a third date, I sent her a text yesterday just to ask how her day was and told her light joke, to which she didn't reply at all. Now this girl has always been very slow to reply to texts (usually hours), but never this long (its been 24 hrs at least) If you were in my shoes, what would you do LS? Accept that she probably lost interest and delete her number or try to text her one more time in couple of days? I can't imagine any girls interested would actually not bothering responding to a simple "how are you" text. Any advice is appreciated
Sweetfish Posted November 25, 2016 Posted November 25, 2016 Hello guys! first time poster here A little background, I met this girl online and we've been on 2 dates so far. I think they were both good, lots of laughter and good conversation. On the second date we must have spent 3 hours just sitting and chatting, at the end of the night, we kissed. It was a little awkward but I don't think anything deal breaking. Now since I didn't schedule a time for a third date, I sent her a text yesterday just to ask how her day was and told her light joke, to which she didn't reply at all. Now this girl has always been very slow to reply to texts (usually hours), but never this long (its been 24 hrs at least) If you were in my shoes, what would you do LS? Accept that she probably lost interest and delete her number or try to text her one more time in couple of days? I can't imagine any girls interested would actually not bothering responding to a simple "how are you" text. Any advice is appreciated I think you need to relax and proceeded as your self. You don't need to delete the number. Don't text how are you or anything. She may be thinking about the date or she maybe busy with the holidays. If she has interest in someone else... at least you won't come across as the chaser
Michelle ma Belle Posted November 25, 2016 Posted November 25, 2016 How long did you go between date #2 and texting her to see about date #3? My thinking is that anyone who takes 'hours' to respond to a text isn't all the interested, particularly if they're not prefacing their responses with "I"m so sorry I lost my phone or was in meetings all day...", blah blah blah. I think she was being polite and because you asked her out on dates she accepted but I don't get the feeling she's been as keen about things as you have been. As far as what to do, the ball is in her court. You sent her a witty text in the hopes of setting up a third date and she's yet to respond. Speaks volumes in my opinion which why you need to cut your losses and move on. She knows where to find you if she changes her mind. Good luck.
olivetree Posted November 25, 2016 Posted November 25, 2016 Two people can have very different ideas about how a date went. She doesn't sound overly interested. Since you even asked her a question, if she didn't reply, I wouldn't send another text.
DK_Casus Posted November 25, 2016 Posted November 25, 2016 If it's been 24 hours without a response, then chances are she's simply not interested. I would wait a few more days - and then delete her number and move on. Spare yourself the anguish of contacting her again. It's not exactly rocket science that she needs to reply to your text if anything is going to happen. Texting again will not make anything better.
Author rebelstrike Posted November 25, 2016 Author Posted November 25, 2016 What was awkward about the kiss? I guess it wasn't so much awkward as it wasn't as passionate as I thought it would be after the night we had. I supposed my perception of how the night went was completely off
down hearted Posted November 25, 2016 Posted November 25, 2016 I'm thinking she isn't interested, now days we literally have our phones attached to our hip, we won't leave our house without it and if we do, most of us drive back to get it, just saying. If she was interested i feel like she would have responded by now, because chances are she saw your message.
Author rebelstrike Posted November 25, 2016 Author Posted November 25, 2016 How long did you go between date #2 and texting her to see about date #3? My thinking is that anyone who takes 'hours' to respond to a text isn't all the interested, particularly if they're not prefacing their responses with "I"m so sorry I lost my phone or was in meetings all day...", blah blah blah. I think she was being polite and because you asked her out on dates she accepted but I don't get the feeling she's been as keen about things as you have been. As far as what to do, the ball is in her court. You sent her a witty text in the hopes of setting up a third date and she's yet to respond. Speaks volumes in my opinion which why you need to cut your losses and move on. She knows where to find you if she changes her mind. Good luck. I think it's only been one day between date #2 and asking for # 3 In any case, thanks for the advice
winny Posted November 25, 2016 Posted November 25, 2016 There could be many reasons for her not responding and some them may not even be about you. You have texted her and the ball is in her court now. I know this waiting game just sucks. So don't wait anymore if she doesn't text by tomorrow. I am sorry you have to go through this feeling. Take care.
Sweetfish Posted November 25, 2016 Posted November 25, 2016 I guess it wasn't so much awkward as it wasn't as passionate as I thought it would be after the night we had. I supposed my perception of how the night went was completely off Again... everyone is different... Do not text her. It is the holiday weekend. Give her the benefit of the doubt.
Marc878 Posted November 25, 2016 Posted November 25, 2016 It's the holidays but if she had interest she would have texted IMO. The other thing is what's wrong with an actual call when you're interested. Texts are kinda impersonal.
Gr8fuln2020 Posted November 25, 2016 Posted November 25, 2016 Not b/c its a holiday weekend. The two of them went on a date ON THANKSGIVING DAY! A text takes 30-seconds. She may not have thought that much about the date.
Michelle ma Belle Posted November 25, 2016 Posted November 25, 2016 Sorry everyone, holiday or not, if someone is truly interested they will move mountains to connect even if it's just to fire off a quick message letting you know they got your text but can't respond until later. People are so damn attached to their phones anymore (especially the twenty-something generation) that NOT responding to a text message especially in a timely manner is beyond ridiculous and quite frankly, just plain rude. Period. 2
40 Fonzarelli Posted November 25, 2016 Posted November 25, 2016 In this day in age, you can't play the waiting game in hopes of not seeming needy. She's probably got hundreds of guys blowing her phone up on Tinder.
winny Posted November 25, 2016 Posted November 25, 2016 People are so damn attached to their phones anymore (especially the twenty-something generation) that NOT responding to a text message especially in a timely manner is beyond ridiculous and quite frankly, just plain rude. Period. Totally agree! 1
linzmoon Posted November 26, 2016 Posted November 26, 2016 I want to think that since you guys kissed it went fairly well, normally first kisses are a little awkward for me. If she's been a slow texter she could not be so interested, really busy, or something happened with her phone? Give it a couple of more days, text her once more, if no reply then move on. Overall, don't beat yourself up, the ball is in her court right now so she should be the one to send the next text. 1
Author rebelstrike Posted November 26, 2016 Author Posted November 26, 2016 I want to think that since you guys kissed it went fairly well, normally first kisses are a little awkward for me. If she's been a slow texter she could not be so interested, really busy, or something happened with her phone? Give it a couple of more days, text her once more, if no reply then move on. Overall, don't beat yourself up, the ball is in her court right now so she should be the one to send the next text. Thanks for your reply! I think I will send her one more text in a couple of days and that will be that, but I certainly won't be holding my breath.. 1
filani Posted November 26, 2016 Posted November 26, 2016 Thanks for your reply! I think I will send her one more text in a couple of days and that will be that, but I certainly won't be holding my breath.. @ rebelstrike The medium is the message. https://therationalmale.com/2011/09/06/the-medium-is-the-message/
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