Rekindled relationship and her male friends...

[raidmax]

Let me start with a bit of history between me and her. We dated for 3.5 years, we broke up a year and 3 months ago. The reason for breaking up was that we were fighting a lot and the relationship was not working out. Basically I felt that she was disrespecting me and a fight kindled and we broke up.

 

Fast forward a year and 3 months of NC.. she sent me a text saying how much she still loved and that she misses me. I replied and we started seeing each other again. I still loved her and I felt that I should try again. During this time neither me or her had seen anyone else.

 

She is still studying and she restricted our meetups for a few hours a week. I wanted more, but I did not complain. I said to myself.. she needs to study if she wants to pass exams.

 

Her only friends are 2 male single guys. One of them recently single. She calls them best friends. I met them a few times during our previous relationship and I get the feeling that they don't like me very much.

 

The recently single guy is a year behind her at University. She keeps telling me that he has no friends and that she feels sorry for him. Yesterday she told me that she is going to hang out with him at university cause he feels lonely. I objected to the idea, mainly because if she doesn't find time for me, she shouldn't find time for this guy. She went anyway.

 

I am not going to lie, I felt a little bit jealous and disrespected. We fought and we broke up again. Today I feel a little bit of resentment. She blamed me that I was too possessive and that I shouldn't restrict her from meeting her only best friends.

 

This second relationship lasted for 3 months.

 

What is your input?

[BluesPower]

The short answer is to just let it go and find a new GF.

 

You guys are just so young, and it is not likely that you will marry an collage GF anyway in reality.

 

She is very immature it sounds like. You seem maybe a little bit ahead of her but not by a ton.

 

And don't for a second think that she has not gotten laid in a year. I cannot believe you went that long, and at your age.

 

Yes she is disrespectful and yes if you guys were in a relationship she should have preferred to spend time with you. But what does it really matter.

 

Look you are in collage, these are some of the best years of your life. Getting this hung up on a immature collage girl is not the smartest thing you can do.

 

Date around, have fun, GET LAID. Leave all the serious relationship stuff until you are out, have a job and a real life.

[raidmax]

I am 25 and she is 23. I finished graduate school and I am currently employed full time. She still has 1 year left.

[salparadise]

Yesterday she told me that she is going to hang out with him at university cause he feels lonely. I objected to the idea, mainly because if she doesn't find time for me, she shouldn't find time for this guy. She went anyway.

 

I felt a little bit jealous and disrespected. We fought and we broke up again.

 

 

She's just wanting to have her cake and eat it too. The term male friends is a misnomer––they're orbiters. She likes playing the game, making you jealous, having multiple guy pursuing her, etc.

 

You're right to feel disrespected. Men should not put up with this. If she has time for him but not for you, then you know something is off about that situation. Let her go and don't worry about it.

 

Find someone to date who is respectful and shows it by giving you her time and undivided attention. Once you know what that feels like you will never go back to chasing women who play games and maintain fan clubs.