Met amazing guy but he left the country. Is there any point staying in touch?

[yellowbumblebee]

I met this guy at a friend’s party. He had just quit his job and had 2 weeks at home before going on a round the world trip to figure out what he wanted from life. We really liked each other and went a date. We saw each other every single day after I finished for for a week and a half, until he left. That was 3 weeks ago. In the first 2 weeks when he first left, he called me a lot and texted a lot. Less so now, but I get at least 1 message the least every other day. However, he still doesn’t know if he wants to come back to this country and definitely won’t be back until Jan. We have said how much we like each other, but that we should not be in an official relationship and what an awkward situation this is. He asks me if I miss him and acts jealous when I mention an event I have to attend with my ex.

 

Rationally, I feel like I should just let him go and let our affection fade as he may decide never to come back and all this would have been for nothing (and worsening the potential pain). We are still getting to know each other but he isn’t in the right place to be giving me a lot of time. We have talked about this on multiple occasions but each time we agree to continue talking. Do you think we should just let it go?

 

Thanks for any advice in advance!

[dumbass2]

Yeah, I think you two probably shouldn't be in contact too much. I think it's okay to keep in touch once in a while, like friends checking in on each other, but not talk about romantic stuff or things like the future, unless things change for him and he's coming back. Less is best right now. I just don't think it something where you have to tell him that you two shouldn't be in touch any more. Just come to an understanding of what it is right now.

[Satu]

I agree with dumbass2.

 

Keep up occasional contact if you want to, but don't build up expectations.

 

If its meant to happen, it will happen.

 

 

Take care.

[yellowbumblebee]

I think we both know it's the right thing to do. It's just so hard, which is why we keep talking about it but not actually doing it. Can't I hope that maybe we'll just both fade without much effort or feeling...? However, I can see no-one actually doing anything and us just carrying on as before, argh.

 

I just really hope he *independently* decides coming back home will make him happy and we can try seeing each other properly...