James Edwards Posted November 24, 2016 Posted November 24, 2016 I’ve never asked a question on here before so here it goes as I’m interested in the responses So I met this girl on tinder and we got on really well in communicating with each other, banter and all with flirting. So we set up our first date and we meet in a good bar. All really goes well, as we start to initially get interested in each other, body language was great, allot of eye contact and touching, and the laughs were great as we got closer. There were times the conversation between each other got deeper and then changed dramatically to humour and again more laughs before touching started. Several times she mentioned that she liked my company and at one point mentioned that if I missed my train home I could share a taxi as it was on the same way to where I live. Anyway we stay out longer and head to a few bars and she goes on about her life more and tells me about her job. She tells me about her life and part time cake making business and that she had 4 cakes to make in one week so life was busy but great. A Few hours go by and the conversations continue and the connection and similarities between us was rather similar but attractive. We eventually head for a taxi and I ask her about meeting up for another date, she responds with a definite yes and arranges for the next Saturday after a wedding that she was attending. I kiss her before getting out of the taxi to go home and politely texted her to say thank you for a great night and that I hope she got home ok. Anyway to cut a long story short. I received a text back the next morning saying that Saturday would be hard pushed after a wedding and her cake making week, so she mentioned Sunday instead so I said ok. A day goes by when I get another message saying that she would have to cancel Sunday and is sorry but is really busy and hectic trying to get 4 cakes made in one week and that she also had to get ready for a job interview the following Tuesday. I responded with that’s ok; “we can re-schedule for another time and let me know when you’re free”. I get a few more responses with a thank you for understanding and that she promised to text to arrange a date once her interview on Tuesday and cakes were done and makes a few jones before finally saying have a good weekend. There were allot of kisses in the message and the message seemed to have decent reason and apology but there also seemed to be to many excuses as well. At that point there was no more reason to message with questions so I responded with a hope the job goes well and that I hoped her cakes were done in time and to not worry about the Sunday as we can reschedule when was free. So 6 days have gone by and no message to re-schedule. At this point my gut feeling is telling me that I’ve done what I could have done and not to message again as she cancelled and I was the last to message without any response. I’m happy to send another message, however the above mentioned feels like a bail out card and to send another message seems pointless. So what do you think? I am disappointed as I liked this lass and in the game of dating if two people like each other they will let each other know?
TheAntiHero Posted November 24, 2016 Posted November 24, 2016 The ball's in her court; you did exactly what you should have. If she doesn't respond in the next week here (this is being ****ing generous), you'll know your answer for sure. 1
joseb Posted November 24, 2016 Posted November 24, 2016 It kinda sounds like she was up for a ONS and when that didn't happen she lost interest over time. Could be wrong, but that's how I read it from your info. Yeah ball is in her court. Forget her for now. If you want, send a casual text in a week to see if she wants to hook up, but treat this as bottom of your list. 1
MarkIVSteel Posted November 24, 2016 Posted November 24, 2016 You should have taken her home with you and f*cked her on the first date. She was giving you clear signs of interest. 1
phineas Posted November 24, 2016 Posted November 24, 2016 You should have taken her home with you and f*cked her on the first date. She was giving you clear signs of interest. yep. The number of times i did not have sex with them and the woman lost all attraction to me........ You will learn OP. 1
kismetkismet Posted November 25, 2016 Posted November 25, 2016 after one cancel I would text her, but after cancelling twice I would leave the ball in her court. Personally I'm not like that when dating, but I have friends that send SUCH mixed signals with guys. They act interested but expect them to get the message when they repeatedly cancel kindly. 1
Author James Edwards Posted November 25, 2016 Author Posted November 25, 2016 Thanks for the comments all. What everyone has said makes sense on all levels really. I have decided to just delete her number and move on as I have thought about it and the amount of excuses given without any hint of another set date is clear enough for me. No messages back from her and it’s been 10 days since our last date is really a clear signal that her are low or not there. I am annoyed as I'm one for honesty and been truthful but to be honest I deserve better and it really says allot about a person who can't be authentic when it comes to the dating game. So without been hung up like fish bait wondering what I might have done wrong as I know I did everything a man should do I've cut the line and thought na, there's plenty of women out there who'd be happy to show an interest. Dating is about finding that someone you want to be with and shouldn’t be a game as the we Irish put it…Feck it. I've had another girl keep messaging me and then stop and then text again and stop when I ask her out for drink and waits weeks before messaging about meeting for a drink so I reply to arrange the drink...nothing. So feck to this mind playing trick that's been played. I'm learning, even though I'm angry as hell, let them come to me if they're interested and work for that interest back. I’d rather watch paint dry then play kid games and mind tricks.
TheTraveler Posted November 25, 2016 Posted November 25, 2016 (edited) Thanks for the comments all. What everyone has said makes sense on all levels really. I have decided to just delete her number and move on as I have thought about it and the amount of excuses given without any hint of another set date is clear enough for me. No messages back from her and it’s been 10 days since our last date is really a clear signal that her are low or not there. I am annoyed as I'm one for honesty and been truthful but to be honest I deserve better and it really says allot about a person who can't be authentic when it comes to the dating game. So without been hung up like fish bait wondering what I might have done wrong as I know I did everything a man should do I've cut the line and thought na, there's plenty of women out there who'd be happy to show an interest. Dating is about finding that someone you want to be with and shouldn’t be a game as the we Irish put it…Feck it. I've had another girl keep messaging me and then stop and then text again and stop when I ask her out for drink and waits weeks before messaging about meeting for a drink so I reply to arrange the drink...nothing. So feck to this mind playing trick that's been played. I'm learning, even though I'm angry as hell, let them come to me if they're interested and work for that interest back. I’d rather watch paint dry then play kid games and mind tricks. The car ride home offered by her was a clear sign to take her back and pound her. Recognize this in the future. Also, after hearing this you could have ended the night sooner and offered her back to your place or hers. It's just one date and you shouldn't get overly invested in someone after meeting one time. You could actually be on here with the same story after a one night stand. But, at least in that situation you had sex;) Edited November 25, 2016 by TheTraveler
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