Pimbolie94 Posted November 24, 2016 Posted November 24, 2016 Hi everyone, trying to stay strong with no contact (almost three weeks)... Keeping myself busy, uni does it for me for most of the time but i'm also working out, meeting friends, reading and watching my fave series. I've posted about the breakup in my previous threads. Long story short: we've been together for six year, living together for one. That one year flew by because we were always busy with the house and after that with his sisters house. After all that was done we started argueing more about stupid stuff like laundry but we talked about that and moved on (at least i did). However after some more argueing he broke up with me and said i had to move out and collect my stuff (lot of furniture i bought with my savings) within one week. I had to switch off my feelings to sort everything out and but they catched up pretty quickly when i was settled back at my parents place. I texted him a couple of times saying i wasn't perfect and could have done better in the last weeks and that i still loved him but will leave him alone because that is what he wanted. However i do struggle everyday with no contact because of the following thoughts. My mind knows better but my heart is saying the opposite: - why do i keep wondering who he's texting or seeing or speaking to? - why do i keep thinking he already moved on, feeling relieved and being happy without me (like jumping around happy because i'm not there anymore)? - why is it so easy for him to not contact me? Does he not want to know how i am? i have a lot more thoughts but above bother me the most (i think). Does someone have any experience or tips? I really need to move on or at least make myself happy and live my life.
Kayley Posted November 24, 2016 Posted November 24, 2016 Afraid I have no tips but I'm feeling very similar! You are not alone
Shawnnag34 Posted November 26, 2016 Posted November 26, 2016 I am sorry fo what you are going through. I.just went through.something very sinilar only my ex never told me anything. I came home.from work one day to find him and all our belongings except my clothes gone. I found out he moved right in with another women. And then I had to move because I wasnt on the lease. Anyhow I spend so much time wondering about why he did this...And wondering if he will contact me. I am still veey hurt because I truly love him. But you cant live like that. Miving forward is very hard after such a serious relationship especially when it ends the way mine did. Its been 2 months since my ex left and id like to say it gets easier and in some ways it does bit I think you will wonder about him for a while..believe me I wish I.could switch my feelings off. Truth is men and women are wired different. Good luck and hang in there
Been Posted November 26, 2016 Posted November 26, 2016 Think of it like this-the more you contact him the more he loses respect for you. And if you are entertaining thoughts of getting back together the more you try to contact him the less chance you'll have. 2
Kelley Posted November 27, 2016 Posted November 27, 2016 You need to stop focusing on him and think about yourself. How can I improve my life, what can I do to make myself a little happier? Start running, take a course, do some volunteering? Build your own life, who cares what your ex does? It's not a reflection on you. When you start working on you, trust me you won't give a **** what your ex is up to. How do I know this? Through experience and NC heals you quicker you just have to put the work in and love yourself more. 1
ElizabethIII Posted November 27, 2016 Posted November 27, 2016 I was struck by how easily he broke up with you and over something so silly. Arguing over laundry and silly things? Then he tells you out of nowhere just to go. In three weeks he hasnt contacted you and isnt wondering how you are....after SIX years. You ask how he can forget you so easily. I have been through a few break ups and I have to say, the break ups where they end it over nothing and move on quickly and without a backward glance, I am sorry to say there is most likely someone else involved. He isnt interested in you remotely now as someone else has his attention. As for you? You user name has '94 in it and you speak of uni. If '94 is your year of birth , that makes you 22 and been with this guy since you were 16? Life has barely begun for you. Lots of people to meet. Just keep doing what you are doing and moving forward as you have been doing. You will be ok. 2
Author Pimbolie94 Posted December 2, 2016 Author Posted December 2, 2016 Hi everyone, Thank you all for replying, you are all very sweet! Also i would really appreciate if you guys would read my latest thread. Its kind of a big deal for me as i'm starting to realise that im getting over my ex happy news! Would also love to read your thoughts and opinions about the tread
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