semi Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 I can't seem to move on. oh and i need to in the worst way. we haven't talked in five weeks still feels like the first couple of weeks. i can function and i eat and sleep fine, but i have this huge weight on my shoulders. she cheated on me and used me til she left town. I know that she is well over me and she doesn't deserve for me to be thinking of her this much. I feel a need to talk about it two to three times a day but i don't want to bother my friends and family that much. if i don't talk about it I get pretty angry inside, if i try to forget or take my mind off it i feel like it's bottling up and i don't want to do anything stupid and break nc. What's the best way to cope talking or forgetting?
laRubiaBonita Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 why? wjy do you wantto speak with someone who used and abused your trust? whoo took you for a fool? a person who had such low self resoect that they did not respect others? what would/ do you wna to say to her? i am not understanding.....
Author semi Posted July 14, 2005 Author Posted July 14, 2005 i mean talking about it with my friends, not her. i don't want to talk to her and haven't and probably won't.
A Fly onThe Wall Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 Originally posted by semi What's the best way to cope talking or forgetting? Post here and let time do it's job...
RecordProducer Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 You will get over her sooner or later. I felt terrible when my ex-husband left me, but I got over and am very happy now. I did stupid things like chased after him, told him I loved him, called him late at night, etc. I shouldn't have. I was condemned to see him every day because we have kids together. One-night stands made me feel even worse. With time I felt easier because I realized that I was better off out of the marriage. But I completely deleted him from my heart when I fell in love with someone else two years later. I think it's good to talk about it; that way you get your pain off your chest and it helps you comprehend why it had to end as well as to accept the reality. Facing the problem is better in my opinion than avoiding it. Post here all that happened and all that is going on in your mind and heart. When you put your feelings and thoughts on paper and actually get some constructive feedback and consolation, you will feel much better.
A Fly onThe Wall Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 Originally posted by RecordProducer But I completely deleted him from my heart when I fell in love with someone else two years later. Interesting way of conveying that feeling .. Deleted from the heart
RecordProducer Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 Originally posted by A Fly onThe Wall Interesting way of conveying that feeling .. Deleted from the heart Heheh.. well he deserved it. He left me with two little kids.
pippen_2k Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 Semi, I wouldnt recommend bottling it up... might make you do something silly! Just choose a family member or good friend you can talk too about things.. I know your thinking they are sick and tired of hearing it, but I guarantee you a good friend or family member are more than willing to hear you and make you feel better.... I know it worked for me as I felt 100% better after getting a load off my mind and getting someone elses prespective.....
XNemesisX Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 This is what WE are here for, semi. When you are scared your family and friends might take you for a gasbag, you can always come here and pour your heart out and find someone to talk to about these issues.
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