Whoa... she swiped right... but something awkward happened!

[shyguy3543]

Hey guys,

 

A while back, I posted something about a girl who came into my job a few times. When I saw this girl I was just like... wow.

 

Anyway, I really wanted to talk to her about getting to know eachother and even posted a thread in here about how I could possibly do that while working and not coming off as unprofessional. I never wound up asking her out for two reasons.

 

1) The last time I saw her was in late August. About a week after that, I met up with a friend and it wound up becoming a date, which wound up to us breaking things off this week (it never got to the point of being a relationship, just dating).

 

We'll get to reason #2 shortly

 

So I reactivated my tinder profile and yesterday this girl popped up! At this point, I was like well, why not... so I "super-liked" her which means that she got a notification that I "liked" her (as opposed to her not getting a notification with a "regular like," for anybody not familiar with Tinder). Today, she matched up with me, but didn't send a message after matching up. I haven't sent anything yet either because...well.. I mean, she's pretty much my dream girl hahaha. I don't wanna screw it up! But of course I'm going to send something tomorrow and not let this linger any longer.

 

But here's reason #2 as to why I never approached her about getting to know eachother:

My coworkers knew about how attractive I found this girl. We joked about how I should approach her and some of my coworkers (who are all women, except for 1 other man) were saying that they were going to say something to her if I didn't do it myself. They were all joking... except one. The most socially awkward woman in the world decided to take it upon herself to try to play matchmaker when this girl stopped by to pick up a product we sell in early September. I was pretty upset by it, but even more upset when she told me how it went.

 

This is pretty much how it went, according to what she told me:

Girl: Hey, I'm here to pick up the product that Shyguy3543 said I could get from you guys.

Coworker: Ah okay. Oh, shyguy3543, always going the extra mile to help our customers. He really genuinely cares.

Girl: Yeah, he seems like such a nice kid every time I come in.

Coworker: Oh, he's no kid! He's 26 (even though I'm actually 28).

Girl: Oh.

Coworker: Yeah. So...are you seeing anyone these days? *wink* (kill me... yes, she said she winked)

Girl: I'm seeing someone right now but I don't think he's worth my commitment

 

Don't remember the rest exactly, but apparrently it ended with her saying she wanted our dogs to meet? No idea.

 

But knowing that, how do I start this conversation with this girl? Do I pretend that never happened? If she brings it up, do I act clueless about it? Approach it just like any other girl?

 

I'm thinking something like "Hey! Happy Thanksgiving! Can't believe we ran into eachother on here. How have you been doing?" and continuing along those lines. Should I say anything about how I had wanted to talk to her in the past?

 

Also worth mentioning, I'm not on tinder just to hook up. I wanna find someone for a long-term thing haha.

 

Thanks everyone!

[MarkIVSteel]

You've already put her on a massive pedestal so you're already starting off poorly.

 

She is just a woman. She poops, pi$$es and sweats like every other human being. There is nothing inherently special about her. There a billion just like her.

 

Take off the rose colored glasses and just chat her up like every other normal human being.

 

Ask her out for drinks and move from there.

[Satu]

You come across in your post as a being very timid.

 

Women don't see that as a plus.

 

Either ask her out in a straightforward way, knowing there's a possibility you'll get a rejection, or forget it.

 

 

Take care.

[salparadise]

Skip the formal salutation, introductions and all of that... start off with something kind of clever, a little presumptive, double entendre, etc. (but not crass), as if you're already in the middle of a conversation. Ask to meet within a few messages, and make it for a day or two later––like friday or saturday.

 

Don't start feeling invested, which is almost the same as the pedestal. Know your own worth and communicate in the way you walk, talk and butter your bread.

[DK_Casus]

Whatever you do, don't play a role you can't sustain indefinitely.

[ElizabethIII]

You sound too heavily invested already.

 

Posting entire chunks of dialogue written like a play with the name of the person speaking etc rather than just a summary of what was said.

 

You super liked her on tinder she liked you back. Say hi and take it from there.

[Tribble]

Stop over thinking it. And try to pretend you don't REALLY like her already haha. Just say hi and talk to her like any person - which is what she is. There is no real relationship here (friends or otherwise) yet. Set up a date and see how it goes.

 

In terms of this conversation she had with your co-worker, don't mention it. It's very unlikely she will ever mention it. And even if she does, just say something along the lines of "oh yeah, x mentioned she'd spoken to you". Why even bother lying, you barely remember what she even said! It also sounds like your co-worker didn't make it entirely obvious you were into her so no biggy.

 

Just treat this like any other tinder interaction, except you dont have to worry about not recognising her hahaha.

[shyguy3543]

Alright, trying not to overthink it haha.

 

We exchanged some messages throughout the day yesterday. We exchanged some more today and voila! She asked if we could exchange numbers. Really hoping this leads to something good.