Grey40 Posted November 24, 2016 Posted November 24, 2016 Texted a girl back and forth, we set up a date for this Friday on Sunday night. She agreed and seemed excited. Texted her today (Wednesday) in the early evening (5/6pm) just to check in, asking how her week was, was hoping for a reply so I could potentially confirm the date. No response. First time she hasn't responded. She's Out tonight with girlfriends and posted stuff on Instagram, so I'm pretty sure she's read my text and decided not to reply. Should I be reading into this at all? She's always taken hours to respond, but this is the longest so far. Could this be cold feet or just a "I'll text him tomorrow" kind of thing?
Sweetfish Posted November 24, 2016 Posted November 24, 2016 Texted a girl back and forth, we set up a date for this Friday on Sunday night. She agreed and seemed excited. Texted her today (Wednesday) in the early evening (5/6pm) just to check in, asking how her week was, was hoping for a reply so I could potentially confirm the date. No response. First time she hasn't responded. She's Out tonight with girlfriends and posted stuff on Instagram, so I'm pretty sure she's read my text and decided not to reply. Should I be reading into this at all? She's always taken hours to respond, but this is the longest so far. Could this be cold feet or just a "I'll text him tomorrow" kind of thing? Do not even text her... Where is the date to?
Author Grey40 Posted November 24, 2016 Author Posted November 24, 2016 Do not even text her... Where is the date to? Too late for that, just sent one text not going to send anything else until she responds. It's out for drinks at a bar nearby
TheTraveler Posted November 24, 2016 Posted November 24, 2016 She read it. Didn't care to answer it. Maybe she will respond, maybe she will not. Do not text again and assume the date is off now. Go about your life and set dates with others.
Sweetfish Posted November 24, 2016 Posted November 24, 2016 Too late for that, just sent one text not going to send anything else until she responds. It's out for drinks at a bar nearby you do realize its a holiday weekend... so your timing is bad and you might look desperate. DO NOT TEXT HER AGAIN... Just for one second...place your self as the receiver of your own text... All you see is you texting over and over again... Now you see it? no mix signals here
Author Grey40 Posted November 24, 2016 Author Posted November 24, 2016 you do realize its a holiday weekend... so your timing is bad and you might look desperate. DO NOT TEXT HER AGAIN... Just for one second...place your self as the receiver of your own text... All you see is you texting over and over again... Now you see it? no mix signals here Eh, I don't see it as a big deal. We set up a date on Sunday then next time I text her is 3 days later just one check in text. Didn't think much of it, nor do I think it was needy. But yeah, I'll wait until the day of the date and then I'll probably just call her to see if it's still on
smackie9 Posted November 24, 2016 Posted November 24, 2016 No response means "I'm not going to show my interest yet...not until I go on a date and see, then maybe...."
Author Grey40 Posted November 24, 2016 Author Posted November 24, 2016 (edited) No response means "I'm not going to show my interest yet...not until I go on a date and see, then maybe...." Ok well that's fine if the date happens, but the no response makes me worried about a flake. I usually get a bad vibe and I can feel when a flake is imminent. I feel similar now. Ive had a bunch of dates have flaked on me, it's a frustrating thing. I don't do anything that comes off needy/creepy/desperate, and I know there is a physical attraction, so I don't believe I'm the reason for that, maybe I've just been unlucky with my timing. 9/10 when a girl changes her behavior suddenly that is not a good sign. When I've sent her a text before, she responds hours later but always responded. Then so typical as soon as she agrees to a date, now she doesn't respond. Probably because she's a) trying to think of a way out of it or B) isn't going to go and rather than hurt my feelings she's just going to hope I get the hint. Worst part of dating for sure Edited November 24, 2016 by Grey40
hippychick3 Posted November 24, 2016 Posted November 24, 2016 Texted a girl back and forth, we set up a date for this Friday on Sunday night. She agreed and seemed excited. Texted her today (Wednesday) in the early evening (5/6pm) just to check in, asking how her week was, was hoping for a reply so I could potentially confirm the date. No response. First time she hasn't responded. She's Out tonight with girlfriends and posted stuff on Instagram, so I'm pretty sure she's read my text and decided not to reply. Should I be reading into this at all? She's always taken hours to respond, but this is the longest so far. Could this be cold feet or just a "I'll text him tomorrow" kind of thing? You said she was out with friends. I wouldn't expect her to text you back when she's out with her friends and hasn't even met you yet. Give her until the next day when she's not busy and able to text you back. Until you've met, lower your expectations and relax. You're still basically strangers to each other. 2
Author Grey40 Posted November 24, 2016 Author Posted November 24, 2016 (edited) You said she was out with friends. I wouldn't expect her to text you back when she's out with her friends and hasn't even met you yet. Give her until the next day when she's not busy and able to text you back. Until you've met, lower your expectations and relax. You're still basically strangers to each other. Thanks. Yeah that I understand, though it doesn't take long to respond. If a girl I'm attracted to texts me when I'm out with people, I may not respond quick, but absolutely would respond. That's what bothers me. Usually if I don't respond to a girl it's because I'm really not that into them and are trying to kind of avoid the situation. Edited November 24, 2016 by Grey40
Author Grey40 Posted November 24, 2016 Author Posted November 24, 2016 So if she doesn't text me today, should I call or text her tomorrow? I have to make sure the date is confirmed I'm not goOmg to show up expecting her to do the same
dumbass2 Posted November 24, 2016 Posted November 24, 2016 Not on Thanksgiving day. You have no idea what she has going on. Confirm the date Friday morning.
Author Grey40 Posted November 24, 2016 Author Posted November 24, 2016 Not on Thanksgiving day. You have no idea what she has going on. Confirm the date Friday morning. Yeah I meant on Friday. Should I call or text? This sucks though. Definitely don't feel good about this right now.
smackie9 Posted November 24, 2016 Posted November 24, 2016 you are way too invested in this. If it doesn't happen it doesn't happen....next!
Sweetfish Posted November 24, 2016 Posted November 24, 2016 Eh, I don't see it as a big deal. We set up a date on Sunday then next time I text her is 3 days later just one check in text. Didn't think much of it, nor do I think it was needy. But yeah, I'll wait until the day of the date and then I'll probably just call her to see if it's still on You do seem needy... You texted her weds. Which is a day before a holiday... ppl are doing a lot of things. You text her again the same day. You know she is with her friends so her priorities are with them. Now you want to text her on Thanksgiving... You will be creating a wall of text.... Or a great Wall of Vagina since now you became less attractive... It should be your instagram that shows your having a great time.
Author Grey40 Posted November 24, 2016 Author Posted November 24, 2016 You do seem needy... You texted her weds. Which is a day before a holiday... ppl are doing a lot of things. You text her again the same day. You know she is with her friends so her priorities are with them. Now you want to text her on Thanksgiving... You will be creating a wall of text.... Or a great Wall of Vagina since now you became less attractive... It should be your instagram that shows your having a great time. Only texted her once on Wednesday. All I said was "hey hope you're having a good week off, enjoying yourself?" That was all I've said since she agreed to the date on Sunday. I realize it's a holiday week and stuff is going on, but you'd think a simple response wouldn't be a big deal if you like them. 1
Author Grey40 Posted November 24, 2016 Author Posted November 24, 2016 you are way too invested in this. If it doesn't happen it doesn't happen....next! Yes but I'm bored and it's fun to discuss right now. This kind of thing has happened to me a couple of times as well recently, so I guess I'm more irritated by it than usuak
TheTraveler Posted November 24, 2016 Posted November 24, 2016 Yes but I'm bored and it's fun to discuss right now. This kind of thing has happened to me a couple of times as well recently, so I guess I'm more irritated by it than usuak I'm guessing you met online? If so, it happens. I wouldn't bother texting again and assume the date is off.
Author Grey40 Posted November 24, 2016 Author Posted November 24, 2016 I'm guessing you met online? If so, it happens. I wouldn't bother texting again and assume the date is off. Nope not online, at a bar but through a mutual friend. She def gave all the signs of being interested but it's possible she's changed her mind. I find it hard that you can't respond..it's 2016 everyone is on their phone, so she purposely didn't answer. Only could be two things 1) she's no longer interested, wants me to get the hint 2) is playing some hard to get game Neither of which is good, knew it was too good to be true. Time to move on I guess
Author Grey40 Posted November 24, 2016 Author Posted November 24, 2016 UPDATE: She just responded saying "hey yeah I am enjoying my week, thanks sorry I took so long to reply it's been a couple crazy days! Happy thanksgiving!" So i guess I'll try and confirm our date now. 2
thecrucible Posted November 24, 2016 Posted November 24, 2016 UPDATE: She just responded saying "hey yeah I am enjoying my week, thanks sorry I took so long to reply it's been a couple crazy days! Happy thanksgiving!" So i guess I'll try and confirm our date now. Yay! I'm glad it went well for you. She could just be like me and a bit scatty with phone contact. I think some people can be different in real life to what they are like with their phone if they are not very into using it.
Author Grey40 Posted November 25, 2016 Author Posted November 25, 2016 Yay! I'm glad it went well for you. She could just be like me and a bit scatty with phone contact. I think some people can be different in real life to what they are like with their phone if they are not very into using it. Thanks, certainly seems to be the case. Well hoping now that she remembered the date and won't bail, I sent her a nice text back wishing her a happy thanksgiving etc. etc. and then throwing in at the end "I'll see you tomorrow right?" Still trying to keep my hopes at bay just in case it was too good to be true
Author Grey40 Posted November 25, 2016 Author Posted November 25, 2016 Annnnnnd she bailed. Sister visiting from Florida never sees her blah blah bull****. Damnit./
TheTraveler Posted November 25, 2016 Posted November 25, 2016 Annnnnnd she bailed. Sister visiting from Florida never sees her blah blah bull****. Damnit./ Im not surprised. Her life is crazy. Crazy!!!! So busy! Haha
Author Grey40 Posted November 25, 2016 Author Posted November 25, 2016 Should I even bother to try and set up another date/meet up? Was thinking of waiting til tomorrowcand then seeing if she's free on Sunday to do something. Too needy right? Should probably just move on? Technically this is the only the first flake but wouldn't you say the behavior shown is pretty low interest?
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