Kayakingking Posted November 24, 2016 Posted November 24, 2016 I have a crush on my professor. And no, I'm not a freshman, and no I'm not 18. I'm a 23 year old super senior student. And this professor has been treating me like sh*t, and I've been one of the class top students. But the more he treats me like sh*t, the more horny I feel. I just want to have him for once! I developed this weird crush on him, and it makes me feel like I'm 16 again. Is there any way that I can actually make it happen? I just can't stop fantasizing about him, and I think about him all the time. I just want him that bad. 2
MarkIVSteel Posted November 24, 2016 Posted November 24, 2016 Is he married? If he's not, then just ask if you can see him after class in his office because you have some questions regarding a certain topic you're having difficulty with. Wear a mini skirt and top that exposes your cleavage when you go see him. Work a little seduction magic in his office and he will have you right there on his desk. 1
Author Kayakingking Posted November 24, 2016 Author Posted November 24, 2016 I got just two words for you. Grow up. I just wanted to make my post short and easy to read so I just put he has been treating me like sh*t and I have a crush on him. But he has been acting very unprofessional around me by intentionally trying to be mean to me. If I tell you what he has been doing, you will agree. All my friends ( and most of them are grad students in their late 20's ) agreed when I explained what he has been doing. In fact, he well knew he was being unprofessional (he was pretty much acting emotional) and he had been doing things to compensate for his unprofessional behavior. And I find that even weirder and somewhat cute. But basically he has been doing ridiculous things to me that made me keep think about what happened, and it eventually led me to think about him all the time. 1
Scarlett.O'hara Posted November 24, 2016 Posted November 24, 2016 Based on what you have said, this crush doesn't sound very healthy and it would be in your best interests not to indulge it any further. It may not be what you want to hear but it could actually turn out to be a useful learning experience for you. For instance, I think it would be a good opportunity to question yourself, why would you lust after someone, who by your own admission, treats you like sh@t? I think it will be useful for you to try and figure that out. Maybe it stems from past issues that some counselling might be able to help you work through? If you think there might be some truth to that, it is important to work through that or risk being susceptible to dysfunction relationships with men in the future. Alternatively, you could also just be aroused by the thought of being dominated, which is fine, as long as you educate yourself and are aware of what you are getting into. These are just two possibilities, neither of which may apply to you. Regardless, I think it would be worth exploring the reason for your attraction to this type of man. As for the issue at hand. I have to strongly urge you to not try and indulge your fantasy. It will end in disaster. This man is your professor, which means he has an ethical and professional responsibility that prohibits him from becoming involved with you or any other student. It would jeopardize his job, reputation and career to allow anything like that to happen. Equally important is your own reputation and the possible negative consequences that could result from a possible liaison with a professor. It could destroy your reputation and future opportunities. All your high grades in his class could be brought into question. Not to mention the fact that you have already stated that this man is capable of being a jerk without any provocation, and is also prone to emotional behavior which you describe as unprofessional. Imagine what could happen if he actually felt provoked or out of control. It is a terrible idea. You can see that, right? No matter what way you look at it, the situation will work out badly for you. At 23, you need to be thinking about what is best for your career and future. You can find other ways to indulge your fantasies that won't have so many negative consequences. You say you are a good student, focus on that, not how much he likes or dislikes you. Start dating more guys and try not to fixate on everything he says and does. He isn't worth it, trust me.
yellowbumblebee Posted November 24, 2016 Posted November 24, 2016 yes, I agree with Scarlett. In my year we had a girl who was well known to be sleeping with one of our professors. She was extremely good at the subject and after uni got into that field. I think the scandal followed her for the time she spent in that field and i know a lot of people wondered if she got the great promotions through that professor rather than her own merits. She quit that job after a few years, even though at uni that subject was her whole life, which was a huge shame. I think this relationship definitely played a part in that.
thecrucible Posted November 25, 2016 Posted November 25, 2016 I would keep things professional as per advice above. Also perhaps he's got form? I heard a few rumours about something similar happen at an academic institution I know between one professor and several students.
DK_Casus Posted November 25, 2016 Posted November 25, 2016 Well, if he's truly treating you like **** - do you think sex is worth the risk following the sex? If he was a kind and considerate person, then maybe the risk could be mitigated. But then I guess he wouldn't be sexy 1
you_can_not_see_me Posted November 25, 2016 Posted November 25, 2016 I have a crush on my professor. And no, I'm not a freshman, and no I'm not 18. I'm a 23 year old super senior student. And this professor has been treating me like sh*t, and I've been one of the class top students. But the more he treats me like sh*t, the more horny I feel. I just want to have him for once! I developed this weird crush on him, and it makes me feel like I'm 16 again. Is there any way that I can actually make it happen? I just can't stop fantasizing about him, and I think about him all the time. I just want him that bad. lol, This is so bizarre for me. Its super odd that (some) women actually develop crushes on people who give them ****. While I have had times when I was still attracted to a girl who was being being kinda rude to me, It was in spite of the girls attitude that I liked her not because of it. I still resented women that aspect of the woman, its just that her physical attractiveness overrode her off putting attitude. I am not judging you for this of course, its just pretty interesting to me.
you_can_not_see_me Posted November 25, 2016 Posted November 25, 2016 I just wanted to make my post short and easy to read so I just put he has been treating me like sh*t and I have a crush on him. But he has been acting very unprofessional around me by intentionally trying to be mean to me. If I tell you what he has been doing, you will agree. All my friends ( and most of them are grad students in their late 20's ) agreed when I explained what he has been doing. In fact, he well knew he was being unprofessional (he was pretty much acting emotional) and he had been doing things to compensate for his unprofessional behavior. And I find that even weirder and somewhat cute. But basically he has been doing ridiculous things to me that made me keep think about what happened, and it eventually led me to think about him all the time. This is very interesting. Its something I have heard from other women too. So I guess the key to women's heart is to simply be memorable and stick in their mind in some way. I always try to be super composed around women, and may be that's why I am going wrong. I m not doing anything memorable around women, I am acting very predictably.
DK_Casus Posted November 25, 2016 Posted November 25, 2016 I'm not sure it's gender-related. Some people are just attracted or curious when it comes to assh*les. It's basic reverse psychology at work. I think experience is key. If you've tried a few things in life - and you've used your brain a little here and there, you'll know that being in front of a hole in an ass is not all that exciting in the longer term.
you_can_not_see_me Posted November 25, 2016 Posted November 25, 2016 By the way OP, is the professor actually a handsome guy?
Author Kayakingking Posted November 26, 2016 Author Posted November 26, 2016 By the way OP, is the professor actually a handsome guy? No he's not handsome at all. I was not attracted to him at all at the beginning of the semester. But it was this weird behavior of his that really got me.
Author Kayakingking Posted November 26, 2016 Author Posted November 26, 2016 I would keep things professional as per advice above. Also perhaps he's got form? I heard a few rumours about something similar happen at an academic institution I know between one professor and several students. I just feel that no one has to know about it. If I keep my mouth shut, he keeps his mouth shut, and we keep it a one time thing (because considering his position, I really don't think he will ask for sex again if sex ever happened between us) why would there be a rumor?
Scarlett.O'hara Posted November 26, 2016 Posted November 26, 2016 What exactly are you hoping to achieve by having sex with your professor once? Is that supposed to relieve your lust or are you that desperate for validation? You really don't seem to grasp how serious this is. You could end up in serious trouble for coming on to him. He would be obligated to report you, and by the sounds of his personality, he would. Make no mistake, you are about throw away your academic career for nothing.
Author Kayakingking Posted November 26, 2016 Author Posted November 26, 2016 I'm not sure it's gender-related. Some people are just attracted or curious when it comes to assh*les. It's basic reverse psychology at work. I think experience is key. If you've tried a few things in life - and you've used your brain a little here and there, you'll know that being in front of a hole in an ass is not all that exciting in the longer term. If he was just acting like a d*ck, I think I would not have been so attracted to him. But he was literally acting....weird. This professor has been 40 % completely ignoring me (intentionally), 40 % mean, 20 % nice. And I find it cute that he has been acting so unprofessional and emotional around me. (All my friends agreed that he was being very unprofessional, but I'm not going to write details about what he did since I don't want this post to be too long.) On top of that, I think the fact that his in an authority position over me makes me have sexual fantasies about him.
Author Kayakingking Posted November 26, 2016 Author Posted November 26, 2016 What exactly are you hoping to achieve by having sex with your professor once? Is that supposed to relieve your lust or are you that desperate for validation? You really don't seem to grasp how serious this is. You could end up in serious trouble for coming on to him. He would be obligated to report you, and by the sounds of his personality, he would. Make no mistake, you are about throw away your academic career for nothing. I think it's really just a sexual fantasy, but I guess you are right. It seems most reasonable to just let it go.
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