Mixed signals ex girlfriend. NC or fight?

[Straziin]

Ex girlfriend broke up with me 3 weeks ago. Cause of small things I did that built up to be big. Dated for 6 months, I'm a 21 male she's a 24 female. I NC instantly when we broke up and 2 weeks later she spammed my phone telling me she's having bad anxiety every day cause she's so lonely and misses me. Told me she's still hurt, wants to be friends for now and see where it goes. Test it out. Maybe one day We will be together again. So I said okay. I took her out tuesday, it was great. Kissed at the end but no sex since she said she wants to take it slow. But we're just friends for now. Told me sex down the road eventually. I changed for the better for her. I mean she made tons of mistakes as well but I always forgave her.

 

 

So now she tells me the same night she's going to move back to Toronto in 2 months. So she led me on and now toyed with my emotions. Used me for being her friend and being there for her. Said I'm home to her. So I asked her you're remotely implying that we're just going to be friends then and nothing more. Instead of wasting my time. She repied. I guess so.

 

 

Her reason on moving is. She was started to plan a life here cause of me, get a car, get a place and move in with each other. But things went really south with us, she believed in us. Her whole life she looked for this and she found me. But time and time again I let her down. By not taking her out, or giving her small notes. Or small things like that. Which is silly but told me she's very emotional. *******s ****ed her over her whole life until me. She trusted me but said she was let down truly by someone she did and do love. So she's forced to go into full work mode again and be motivated with her life. Move back to Toronto. Sounds like running away to me right? She did this a few times in different cities. I didn't reply. Should I reply? Or just NC her and wait.

 

 

I want her to stay, should I STILL fight for her to show her how truly great I am and she's going to lose it. How I've changed into the better. Gain her trust back that she won't move. Or let her run away.. she did toy with my emotions. So idk. Advice please

[fromheart]

Always go NC if you want more than a friendship, never compromise yourself in this way. It'll never get the girl, even if it seems appealing at the time. The quickest way to rekindle interest, is to walk away and mean it.

 

When you have walked away, and even before, it is important to work on yourself. You talk about showing her you've changed, but its about showing you that you've changed.

 

So NC and walking away just to rekindle interest will at best get her calling, but then quickly disappearing again when she realizes you did in fact just wait by the phone after all.

 

This girl is obviously a confused person though, and that confusion is all she has to share with you. It wont get better, it'll get worse down the line. I wouldn't recommend going for a girl in that headspace.

[LargoLagg]

Date other girls - lots of them. See how good life can be.

 

You're way too young, and it does you no good to tie yourself down to one girl now.

 

Tell her you want to throw her a little going away party before she leaves.