Trauma_Luna Posted November 23, 2016 Posted November 23, 2016 So i knew this girl and instantly liked her, we started chatting on the web and later we hung out 2 times and everything went perfect, after the second time she even texted me saying "i really enjoyed this night, i hope to do it again soon". After that i wrongly thought "Well she likes me, i think we'll be a couple soon" And stated calling her things like "baby" "sweety" "love" and stuff like that, she didn't seem to feel uncomfortable with that, but then she didn't accept any invitation to go out with me again. And a few days later, she said "I think i am not ready for a relationship, i don't want to hurt you in the future, so it's better for you to know it now". The thing is that it's been three days without talking, texting or calling her. I messed up? is there a way i can fix it? she really looked like she wanted something with me... she even tell a friend in common we have that she was starting having feelings for me. I was thinking on sending her flowers with a "Can i start again?" card or something... what you think? 1
smackie9 Posted November 23, 2016 Posted November 23, 2016 Epic fail.....when women hear that crap they think "player" "trying to butter me up to get me into the sac." or "clingy". Sorry but she has ran for the hills, she's long gone........ tip: when they say they are not ready for a relationship....they are just saying I'm not interested in dating you. 4
LD1990 Posted November 23, 2016 Posted November 23, 2016 I was thinking on sending her flowers with a "Can i start again?" card or something... what you think? So after all the romantic talk failed, you're thinking of going even more romantic on her? No, no, no. Don't initiate contact. Forget about her. If she initiates contact with you, play it cool, see if she wants to hang out, and if she does make a move at that point. 5
Author Trauma_Luna Posted November 23, 2016 Author Posted November 23, 2016 Epic fail.....when women hear that crap they think "player" "trying to butter me up to get me into the sac." or "clingy". Sorry but she has ran for the hills, she's long gone........ tip: when they say they are not ready for a relationship....they are just saying I'm not interested in dating you. But i am not a player... i ended my last relationship a year ago after 6 years of being together, i'm not used to "play" with women, i don't know, i just felt like saying her those things... damn it. 2
ashy555 Posted November 24, 2016 Posted November 24, 2016 Never start calling someone 'baby' and 'Sweetie' so quickly. It is a massive turn off. You wait until things are way more intimate and official for that. She doesn't think you're a player. She thinks you have moved way too quickly. Do not send her flowers. She will run even more. Just leave it. Move on and go about your life. She may contact you. She may not. Don't push her away further. It's nice to be romantic but there is a place and a time. After hanging out twice is not it especially if that is what scared her in the first place.. 3
Kayakingking Posted November 24, 2016 Posted November 24, 2016 I do that to guys a lot. That happens when the guys likes me a lot while I'm 1) uncertain or 2) not very interested. If I was uncertain, it could be a little turn off that a guy called me babe and what not. I'm just not feeling that intimacy but he's moving way too forward. So I might back off. But in this case it could work if you just chill but be nice. And do not rush into anything. Just let her take her time. If she was not interested in the first place. It will not work. So my advice is that, just act more like a friend, and if she liked you at all, things will work out. 2
ExpatInItaly Posted November 24, 2016 Posted November 24, 2016 Definitely do not send her flowers! She has probably just met someone else. Let this one go and stick to a slower pace next time. 2
TheTraveler Posted November 24, 2016 Posted November 24, 2016 So i knew this girl and instantly liked her, we started chatting on the web and later we hung out 2 times and everything went perfect, after the second time she even texted me saying "i really enjoyed this night, i hope to do it again soon". After that i wrongly thought "Well she likes me, i think we'll be a couple soon" And stated calling her things like "baby" "sweety" "love" and stuff like that, she didn't seem to feel uncomfortable with that, but then she didn't accept any invitation to go out with me again. And a few days later, she said "I think i am not ready for a relationship, i don't want to hurt you in the future, so it's better for you to know it now". LEARN from this situation and don't ever do this again. Do not reach out again 2
Satu Posted November 24, 2016 Posted November 24, 2016 Total fail. No flowers. “I had rather hear my dog bark at a crow, than a man swear he loves me.” - William Shakespeare, Much Ado About Nothing – Act 1, Scene 1 Take care. 1
smackie9 Posted November 24, 2016 Posted November 24, 2016 But i am not a player... i ended my last relationship a year ago after 6 years of being together, i'm not used to "play" with women, i don't know, i just felt like saying her those things... damn it. She doesn't know that. Women are exposed to all kinds of creepers, players, users from OLD....whatever it was, she didn't like it. 1
smackie9 Posted November 24, 2016 Posted November 24, 2016 I agree with the others, you moved way too fast for someone who only "hung out" twice. 1
staggerlee71 Posted November 24, 2016 Posted November 24, 2016 Silver lining...you have learned something in the dating arena. you sir are smarter today than yesterday! 1
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