I like a girl at work. I don't understand she likes me or not?

November 28, 2016

The longer you invest in the fantasy, the likelier this will break your heart.

Here's advice I wish I had listened to when I was younger: avoid pining after people. That's damaging to the self-esteem. You might feel like you're protecting yourself, but what you're doing is attaching your self-worth to an outcome (whether or not she likes you). When you like someone, let her know you're interested. If she doesn't respond to your interest, move on. Plenty of fishes in that sea.

Not everyone is going to be interested in you. And that's ok.They have their own reasons that have nothing to do with who you are. Don't waste time on those people and find the people who like you back.

November 28, 2016

You changed your response while I was replying.

If she knows you like her and you feel like you could scare her away with a false move? Sorry: she's not into you.

Have you ever been in a relationship before? You can't scare away someone who is into you.

November 28, 2016

You changed your response while I was replying.

If she knows you like her and you feel like you could scare her away with a false move? Sorry: she's not into you.

Have you ever been in a relationship before? You can't scare away someone who is into you.

Sorry something came into my mind quickly so i changed the comments. No never been in a relationship before

November 28, 2016

You changed your response while I was replying.

If she knows you like her and you feel like you could scare her away with a false move? Sorry: she's not into you.

Have you ever been in a relationship before? You can't scare away someone who is into you.

So you think she is not interested at all.

November 28, 2016

So you think she is not interested at all.

She knows you're interested and she avoids eye contact with you while talking to you. I struggle to imagine a scenario where someone interested would avoid eye contact / not give out a sign that the interest is mutual.

But... I'm a stranger on the internet. If you really want to know so that you can move on: invite her to do something after work with other people around. See how she answers. The worst thing that will happen is she won't be available and then you can stop wondering about this and move on.

November 28, 2016

She knows you're interested and she avoids eye contact with you while talking to you. I struggle to imagine a scenario where someone interested would avoid eye contact / not give out a sign that the interest is mutual.

But... I'm a stranger on the internet. If you really want to know so that you can move on: invite her to do something after work with other people around. See how she answers. The worst thing that will happen is she won't be available and then you can stop wondering about this and move on.

Yes may be she is avoiding me, but she initiated the talk, before that she was distant just a little eye contact as there. As the respected members on this forum mentioned that, may be it's her way to indicate that she is not interested by keeping the talk limited to greetings only.

November 28, 2016

Yes may be she is avoiding me, but she initiated the talk, before that she was distant just a little eye contact as there. As the respected members on this forum mentioned that, may be it's her way to indicate that she is not interested by keeping the talk limited to greetings only.

The fact is you don't have enough to go to determine for sure whether or not she's interested.

So figure it out. Either ask her out or approach her and chat her up in a flirtatious way. What you're going on right now? It's not much.

November 28, 2016

The fact is you don't have enough to go to determine for sure whether or not she's interested.

So figure it out. Either ask her out or approach her and chat her up in a flirtatious way. What you're going on right now? It's not much.

As I said I never been involved in this type of situation before. This is very first time for me. When I look at her and talk a bit and try to read at the same time. I don't know what happens to me. And she remains on the move and that shuts me down

November 28, 2016

As I said I never been involved in this type of situation before. This is very first time for me. When I look at her and talk a bit and try to read at the same time. I don't know what happens to me. And she remains on the move and that shuts me down

I don't know how old you are. But if she keeps moving while you talk to her... That's another sign that she's not interested. I'm sorry to be delivering bad news. But it's not the end of the world. It just means you need to stop focusing on her.

I think you said this is the first time you've felt this way about someone. How old are you?

November 28, 2016

I don't know how old you are. But if she keeps moving while you talk to her... That's another sign that she's not interested. I'm sorry to be delivering bad news. But it's not the end of the world. It just means you need to stop focusing on her.

I think you said this is the first time you've felt this way about someone. How old are you?

29-- don't laugh please..

November 28, 2016

29-- don't laugh please..

It happens. You said earlier this is your first ever interest in someone. Could you expand on that? How did that happen?

November 28, 2016

It happens. You said earlier this is your first ever interest in someone. Could you expand on that? How did that happen?

I always kept on working to establish my company and never thought anything else other than that. I never looked at anyone second time, just kept on concentrating on work. In my free time I read books or meet people with similar interests. Now I got stuck with this feeling, and I feel akwardness. I don't know whats going on. So I started asking and joining forums to find out what's going on. She struck me 50K volts I guess.

I know it's my mind only. I think too much.

November 28, 2016

Welcome to the world of romance then! I know it's not easy but your focus was elsewhere. And good for you.

I think three things happened here: you discovered that side of your humanity; you somewhat put yourself out there (she did find out you liked her); and 3rd: you're learning when to move on.

And that last lesson? We all had to learn it at one point.

Now that you've experienced feeling attraction... I would recommend you figure out how to meet other women you might find attractive. Because in dating as in everything else, practice makes perfect.

November 28, 2016

Welcome to the world of romance then! I know it's not easy but your focus was elsewhere. And good for you.

I think three things happened here: you discovered that side of your humanity; you somewhat put yourself out there (she did find out you liked her); and 3rd: you're learning when to move on.

And that last lesson? We all had to learn it at one point.

Now that you've experienced feeling attraction... I would recommend you figure out how to meet other women you might find attractive. Because in dating as in everything else, practice makes perfect.

I don't know it's requires practice to makes a successful relationship. It's somehting else that i don't know yet.

November 28, 2016

Welcome to the world of romance then! I know it's not easy but your focus was elsewhere. And good for you.

I think three things happened here: you discovered that side of your humanity; you somewhat put yourself out there (she did find out you liked her); and 3rd: you're learning when to move on.

And that last lesson? We all had to learn it at one point.

Now that you've experienced feeling attraction... I would recommend you figure out how to meet other women you might find attractive. Because in dating as in everything else, practice makes perfect.

Forgeting someone is not easy, heard that, read that and now going to experience. I thought it's not that difficult to date or get into the relationship. but now i think its impossible, may be not my cup of tea

November 28, 2016

Welcome to the world of romance then! I know it's not easy but your focus was elsewhere. And good for you.

I think three things happened here: you discovered that side of your humanity; you somewhat put yourself out there (she did find out you liked her); and 3rd: you're learning when to move on.

And that last lesson? We all had to learn it at one point.

Now that you've experienced feeling attraction... I would recommend you figure out how to meet other women you might find attractive. Because in dating as in everything else, practice makes perfect.

One thing more. there are too many lessons in life as compared to gains.

November 28, 2016

If it were easy to date, this site wouldn't have so many members. Some people are good at it. Most of us need to figure some stuff out.

I believe from observation it's easier for people who aren't afraid to show their interests and who handle rejection gracefully. Those of us who do everything in our power to avoid rejection? We have a tougher time of it, avoid situations where we might face it and therefore it takes us longer to get in the game. I wish I had figured this out when I was 29 .

Are there more lessons then gains? Maybe at first. But you know what's worse than a lesson? Regrets. Don't let life pass you by because you're afraid to learn a few lessons on your way to your goals.

November 28, 2016

If it were easy to date, this site wouldn't have so many members. Some people are good at it. Most of us need to figure some stuff out.

I believe from observation it's easier for people who aren't afraid to show their interests and who handle rejection gracefully. Those of us who do everything in our power to avoid rejection? We have a tougher time of it, avoid situations where we might face it and therefore it takes us longer to get in the game. I wish I had figured this out when I was 29 .

Are there more lessons then gains? Maybe at first. But you know what's worse than a lesson? Regrets. Don't let life pass you by because you're afraid to learn a few lessons on your way to your goals.

Yes I do understand, how old are you?

November 28, 2016

If it were easy to date, this site wouldn't have so many members. Some people are good at it. Most of us need to figure some stuff out.

I believe from observation it's easier for people who aren't afraid to show their interests and who handle rejection gracefully. Those of us who do everything in our power to avoid rejection? We have a tougher time of it, avoid situations where we might face it and therefore it takes us longer to get in the game. I wish I had figured this out when I was 29 .

Are there more lessons then gains? Maybe at first. But you know what's worse than a lesson? Regrets. Don't let life pass you by because you're afraid to learn a few lessons on your way to your goals.

You know I tried really hard to avoid thinking about her, i did everything to avoid having that feeling. But the more she avoids me the more it gets stronger.

November 28, 2016

You know I tried really hard to avoid thinking about her, i did everything to avoid having that feeling. But the more she avoids me the more it gets stronger.

It's okay to have a crush. I've had crushes that led nowhere. It's fun even.

But you should stop trying to figure out if she likes you back. You should also work on meeting other women, so that eventually you can feel the same thing for someone else.

November 28, 2016

If she's moving as you're trying to talk to her, she's trying to end the conversation and isn't interested. Sorry. She has to talk to you and be polite because you're workmates, so you can't make anything of that. If she were interested, she'd be all over you when you talked to her and trying to make it last and acting like she liked you.

Look a friend of mine once told me: When someone likes you, you won't have to wonder. You'll know it. It's usually obvious, not something they try to hide.

November 29, 2016

Look it might be hard to see for yourself and hard for these other people aswell, but you're being a huge puussyy!

You probably made so much eye contact with her that if freaked her the F#ck out. Next time you see her, re-attach your genitals and talk to her and tell her how you feel, be direct, because it's literally the only way. Don't try and think you can slither your way into her life, cause making weird eye contact with no context will just make you creepy asf. Talk to other girls to bro, don't just be the nun who sticks to one girl (nuns don't even do that). I can't stress this enough, break the awkward barrier and talk to her and tell her how you feel, what you think of her and then ask her for her number. Take a risk. You never know if you never try. You got this Player!

LOL....being a rat in a maze. Not not much eye contact but surly there was but was not intentionally. but I see her after ages, she works in a different department.

She was very distant, never talked to me. Now she started to talk a bit and that confused me.

November 30, 2016

Lester2010 , I am same age as you. I don't have much experience in dating.

I get a crush on a shy girl at work. She never replies my message. She also never answers my phone.

We sit face to face but not familiar. I often look at her. She often touches herself in sexy places. (collarbone and neck, ribcage) . However, I still often feel frustrated.

Is your girl a shy person ? Details may make a difference. Cheer up! buddy

By the way, you may want to google "sign girl is interested" , "girl body language" etc and read some articles .

Edited November 30, 2016 by kisshug

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