I like a girl at work. I don't understand she likes me or not?

November 23, 2016

I saw her few months ago and had a little crush on her. She figured that out (i guess), then she became really awkward. She

used to talk to everyone except me. Few times our eyes met as well, she glanced at me from a distance I noticed, our eyes met few times. She started to walk

past me quickly and never said Hi or Good morning, always looking down. She even used to get quite in the office meetings when I used to talk.

So I went to have chat and that went OK, mostly about our office work.

After that she became really quite and distant. She started ghosting me.

So I thought she hates me

Now for the first time she talked to me"., but when she talks she does not look at me, she keeps on looking on her phone I think she is shy but she is very out going or may be she is politely avoiding me

November 23, 2016

It could be one of two things...she is super shy and likes you or she knows you like her and she is keeping her distance. The ONLY way to know is to ask her out on a date.

If you find a girl attractive, you chat her up and ask her out on a date. That is just how it is done. you don't spend months trying to read her mixed signals and asking people what they think....that my friend is a waste of time. Confidence wins the girl.

November 23, 2016

She is avoiding you and isn't interested. Interested women, even shy ones, are perfectly capable of smiling and acting interested. She's going out of her way to avoid you.

November 23, 2016

She smiled at me when I saw her and I smiled back

November 23, 2016

If she is not interested then why she started talking. She could walk past me I guess

November 23, 2016

It could be one of two things...she is super shy and likes you or she knows you like her and she is keeping her distance.

Thanks for the reply...why she is keeping distance if she not interested...

November 24, 2016

If she is not interested then why she started talking. She could walk past me I guess

Keeping her distance like that is meant to be a strong signal that she's not interested. She's in a difficult situation about you because she doesn't want to avoid you, but she doesn't want you to think she's interested either. So she has kept her distance for a while hoping you took the hint and by talking was checking if it can return to normal.

Merely talking to someone isn't an indicator of romantic interests, but you're interpreting it as that. That's why she has been keeping her distance, she knows you'll think she's interested if she does talk to you. She is not interested and doesn't want to communicate anything that will make you think she is, that's why a woman behaves like this.

Women often use non-verbal communication because they feel uncomfortable confronting something directly. You're not the first man to have difficulty taking the hints, but the good thing is that this can be learned.

November 24, 2016

Are you new to working in an office?

November 24, 2016

If you REALLY like her, I'd say it's worth it to just be direct about it - without being confrontational or unpleasant.

If it's not a biggie, then just ignore her completely and stay professional when you have to interact. If she's interested, she's going to have to make the move. If not, so be it.

November 25, 2016

Yes I am new

November 25, 2016

Thanks for the reply. I have not posted in the correct order or there are missing bits in it.

When i felt that she hates me or showing no interest.I moved away and even stopped looking at her. Then one day I was going home and she saw me and then she greeted but did not look at me. I replied and moved on. Then again I did not show any intrest. I noticed that she is becoming conscious (adjusting her dress as soon as I enter in the office(happened once only)). Our eyes started meeting again. She greeted me again. but again looking down. I felt she is avoiding me. Then next day she saw me and gave me a big smile and an eyebrow flash. I smiled back.

November 25, 2016

Are you new to working in an office?

Sorry I did not understand your question at first. Its my new job but no I am not new to office work. Have more than 15 years of experience

November 25, 2016

Keeping her distance like that is meant to be a strong signal that she's not interested. She's in a difficult situation about you because she doesn't want to avoid you, but she doesn't want you to think she's interested either. So she has kept her distance for a while hoping you took the hint and by talking was checking if it can return to normal.

Merely talking to someone isn't an indicator of romantic interests, but you're interpreting it as that. That's why she has been keeping her distance, she knows you'll think she's interested if she does talk to you. She is not interested and doesn't want to communicate anything that will make you think she is, that's why a woman behaves like this.

Women often use non-verbal communication because they feel uncomfortable confronting something directly. You're not the first man to have difficulty taking the hints, but the good thing is that this can be learned.

Thanks for the reply. I have not posted in the correct order or there are missing bits in it.

When i felt that she hates me or showing no interest.I moved away and even stopped looking at her. Then one day I was going home and she saw me and then she greeted but did not look at me. I replied and moved on. Then again I did not show any intrest. I noticed that she is becoming conscious (adjusting her dress as soon as I enter in the office(happened once only)). Our eyes started meeting again. She greeted me again. but again looking down. I felt she is avoiding me. Then next day she saw me and gave me a big smile and an eyebrow flash. I smiled back.

November 25, 2016

women at work if interested will let you know by creating opportunities to hang out with you outside of work.

Be it happy hour or seeing band with her co-workers or what-not.

She isn't interested.

Find another woman and stop trying to dip your quill in the company ink well.

You think it's awkward now?

Wait until you break up with someone in the office.

no thanks.

November 25, 2016

women at work if interested will let you know by creating opportunities to hang out with you outside of work.

Be it happy hour or seeing band with her co-workers or what-not.

She isn't interested.
Find another woman and stop trying to dip your quill in the company ink well.

You think it's awkward now?
Wait until you break up with someone in the office.
no thanks.

Thanks.. we work in a different departments. I see her after weeks

November 25, 2016

Thanks.. we work in a different departments. I see her after weeks

BTW... I don't understand your point of view.

November 25, 2016

women at work if interested will let you know by creating opportunities to hang out with you outside of work.

Be it happy hour or seeing band with her co-workers or what-not.

She isn't interested.
Find another woman and stop trying to dip your quill in the company ink well.

You think it's awkward now?
Wait until you break up with someone in the office.
no thanks.

BTW!! I don't understand what you exactly want to say.

November 25, 2016

Thanks for the reply. I have not posted in the correct order or there are missing bits in it.
When i felt that she hates me or showing no interest.I moved away and even stopped looking at her. Then one day I was going home and she saw me and then she greeted but did not look at me. I replied and moved on. Then again I did not show any intrest. I noticed that she is becoming conscious (adjusting her dress as soon as I enter in the office(happened once only)). Our eyes started meeting again. She greeted me again. but again looking down. I felt she is avoiding me. Then next day she saw me and gave me a big smile and an eyebrow flash. I smiled back.

Those details changes the perspective. Giving as accurate information as possible is important to receiving good advice.

Sounds like she likes you, but she's shy. Only way to progress with someone that shy is to take action.

Now, ask her out and stop trying to figure out if she likes you. Asking a woman out is the single most effective way to get an answer to your question. Make it obvious that's it's a date and not a friend thing.

November 26, 2016

Those details changes the perspective. Giving as accurate information as possible is important to receiving good advice.

Sounds like she likes you, but she's shy. Only way to progress with someone that shy is to take action.

Now, ask her out and stop trying to figure out if she likes you. Asking a woman out is the single most effective way to get an answer to your question. Make it obvious that's it's a date and not a friend thing.

Thanks for your help.

I am scared a bit. I just don't want to lose her. So don't want to make quick moves. She is like a deer one wrong step may make her run away.

November 26, 2016

I guess I have another take in this. I have a co-worker that popped into my room one day to chat. I feel like she was hinting at hanging out together as she asked if I had shot pool that weekend (people know I'm in a pool league) and stated that she LOVES shooting pool but never has anyone to play with. I told her to get a hold of me is she wanted to hang out and she told me that'd be fun. She popped in a few more times to chat and I finally asked her out, she said she would text me but never did. I didn't think much of it as there could have been numerous reasons why she didn't.

Things got strange between us at work as she avoided me and stopped coming down to my room. I finally broke the ice one day by opening up a casual conversation with her. She seemed relieved (I assume she thought I was angry or something) and asked me if I wanted to go to a brewery with her and some friends that weekend. I told her I'd love to but, once again, didn't hear anything from her. Some time went by and we chatted here and there but she still kind of avoided me.

She finally came down to my room and it came out that she was just getting out a relationship with another guy. We started talking about dating in general and she hinted that she wasn't comfortable dating anyone from work. But, then she asks me if I was going to to the staff Christmas part and I told her I was. She replied that she'd have to watch her booze consumption then because she doesn't want to be the "talk of the town".

So, there you go. She's strongly interested in me but doesn't want to date someone from work and she just got out of a relationship. You could be looking at the same type of situation. She could have some interest in you but isn't comfortable dating someone from work. Or, there could be many other reasons.

The only way you'll know is if you ask her out.

November 26, 2016

Thanks for your help.
I am scared a bit. I just don't want to lose her. So don't want to make quick moves. She is like a deer one wrong step may make her run away.

That fear has always become a self fulfilling prophecy for me, and it's counter productive. It will probably lead to just that, losing her because your actions are tainted by fear.

You must afford to lose her to even have a chance, you must not fear in order to find love.

November 28, 2016

Those details changes the perspective. Giving as accurate information as possible is important to receiving good advice.

Sounds like she likes you, but she's shy. Only way to progress with someone that shy is to take action.

Now, ask her out and stop trying to figure out if she likes you. Asking a woman out is the single most effective way to get an answer to your question. Make it obvious that's it's a date and not a friend thing.

I will ask but I am very new to this, it wont be wrong if I say this is my first ever interest in someone.I need help to figure out the right time and the situation.

Now again we came across and she did not look at me.. just a glance and she kept on walking, did not stop and quickly said how are you and quickly went passed me and I greeted her back and asked how is she, and she went to the door. This quick conversation happened when she turned to the door already. (I was standing at the back or she turned her back)

November 28, 2016

Those details changes the perspective. Giving as accurate information as possible is important to receiving good advice.

Sounds like she likes you, but she's shy. Only way to progress with someone that shy is to take action.

Now, ask her out and stop trying to figure out if she likes you. Asking a woman out is the single most effective way to get an answer to your question. Make it obvious that's it's a date and not a friend thing.

I will ask but I am very new to this, it wont be wrong if I say this is my first ever interest in someone.I need help to figure out the right time and the situation.

Now again we came across and she did not look at me.. just a glance and she kept on walking, did not stop and quickly said how are you and quickly went passed me and I greeted her back and asked how is she, and she went to the door. This quick conversation happened when she turned to the door already. (I was standing at the back or she turned her back)

November 28, 2016

Thanks for your help.
I am scared a bit. I just don't want to lose her. So don't want to make quick moves. She is like a deer one wrong step may make her run away.

She is not yours to lose. You don't currently "have her".

What you have is the fantasy that she might be interested in you. That's what you're afraid of losing: the hope that she might be interested in you.

Your fear is making you waste your time. At best, you have circumstantial evidence that she might - or might not - be interested.

Make something happen: ask her out for after work plans. If she says no or - so as to avoid flat out rejecting a coworker - "oh I would but I need to help my grandma with her knitting", then you know she's not interested and can move on with your life. Eventually, you will develop an interest in someone else. If she says yes, then you can get to know her and determine whether or not there is genuine compatibility there. But if you keep trying to play this so that you don't "lose her", you will be wasting a lot of time and energy.

So act. Let her know you're interested. See how she responds. Take it from there.

November 28, 2016

She is not yours to lose. You don't currently "have her".

What you have is the fantasy that she might be interested in you. That's what you're afraid of losing: the hope that she might be interested in you.

Your fear is making you waste your time. At best, you have circumstantial evidence that she might - or might not - be interested.

Make something happen: ask her out for after work plans. If she says no or - so as to avoid flat out rejecting a coworker - "oh I would but I need to help my grandma with her knitting", then you know she's not interested and can move on with your life. Eventually, you will develop an interest in someone else. If she says yes, then you can get to know her and determine whether or not there is genuine compatibility there. But if you keep trying to play this so that you don't "lose her", you will be wasting a lot of time and energy.

So act. Let her know you're interested. See how she responds. Take it from there.

Thanks a lot for the reply. Yes that's very true.I know you are trying to help me. She knows I like her (She said to someone at work that she is reading the situation). I just don't want to make a fast move.

Edited November 28, 2016 by Lester2010

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