zack9292 Posted November 23, 2016 Posted November 23, 2016 Been together for 3.5 years, engaged... people have described our relationship as glowing and we agree. We love each other more than anyone else we've ever been with, have no deal breaking conflicts, We have passion for each other (physical, emotion), we can be ourselves and accept each other 100%, we refer to each other as best friends as well, never get bored, support each others needs, have aligning goals, we confide in each other everything etc etc I am male, 26 She is female, 23 She says there feels like something is missing, a tug or nag that she can't get what she needs from the relationship, like there is some level we can't connect or mesh together on. Its not something she has experiences with anyone else. She finds it hard to put into words although my interpretation isn't 100% confirmed by her as the answer but we don't have matching core values (she is spiritual, super nature friendly for example), things that we can relate to and connect to on that level. Dont get me wrong, we dont any conflicts corr values and we've learned from each other so much and I have new respect and interest for the things she believes in strongly... but it seems like there are these extra boxes she wants ticked in a relationship. She is wanting to break out the commitment and we are in that profess now. She wants to remain BFF even when we have this desire to be with one another, still love each other very deeply and are still physically attracted to one another. She even wants the door kept open so we can rekindle in future. Any way to save what we believe is a very good relationship?
BC1980 Posted November 23, 2016 Posted November 23, 2016 She says there feels like something is missing, a tug or nag that she can't get what she needs from the relationship, like there is some level we can't connect or mesh together on. Its not something she has experiences with anyone else. She finds it hard to put into words although my interpretation isn't 100% confirmed by her as the answer but we don't have matching core values (she is spiritual, super nature friendly for example), things that we can relate to and connect to on that level. ^^^This sounds almost identical to what my ex said when he wanted to stall our engagement. A year after that, he broke up with me. I don't know if you will ever get specifics as to why she feels this way, but the specifics don't matter. She clearly doesn't feel strongly enough to marry you. Her feelings are a bad sign, and there is probably nothing you can do to save this.
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