Fish Soil Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 I have a fair dose of confidence and look OK enough. Many brief relationships have taught me that I'm not good in bed. I know the techniques of pleasuring, it seems to be a lack of passion on my part. The unit is not impressive either. I enjoy everything about sex, but don't do much for the ladies I meet. I've attracted my share of women, and I've known women to lose interest after sex or apon hearing of my performance. I can go on this way...I guess. I could trick someone into "getting married 1st" , then she'd be stuck with me, but I'm not that mean. (not ready to marry anyhow) I tried the V pill (e.d. wasn't an issue) but it doesn't increase passion. Sometimes I think I shouldn't bed women anymore. Just go my own way. Yes! advice neede, thanks
westernxer Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 I bet your unit is getting to you, and you're self-conscious about it. Correct?
Jennifer'sSecret Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 I'm with W on this one. If you really know how to please a woman and want to, I don't see how you'd be bad in bed. Skill and effort combined would make you bed-able, I'd think.
strange love Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 Hmm ok I had intended my last post to be my last..but this is am emergency. Ive read your post and what i SEE is 2 things 1. Lack of desire..ie low sex drive? is that right 2. Perhaps feelings of inaduequacy.(sp) Now have you always had these feelings? Has then been an encounter where you felt very good about? Have you ever tried experimenting with different types of sex? damn it im out of retirement!!!
RecordProducer Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 Originally posted by Fish Soil I can go on this way...I guess. I could trick someone into "getting married 1st" , then she'd be stuck with me, but I'm not that mean. (not ready to marry anyhow) Hahahahahah! You said you lack passion. So can you fake it 'till you make it? If erection is not a problem then anything else should be okay. What you consider a non-impressive unit might be perfectly fine for women. I bet it's the performance. A lot of foreplay will excite the woman. You must be relaxed. Create an ambiance that will make you feel better (sexy music, nice tiny light, warmth, wine). Flirt a lot before the sex. Give her a nice massage then play with (and kiss) her whole body. Make sure you smell great and your breath is okay. Do you have a problem with premature ejaculation?
XNemesisX Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 I have to agree with RP...FAKE IT TIL YOU MAKE IT! Just like when you smile it makes you start to feel better. Initially that is a fake smile but the more you do it the more you convince yourself you are actually happy. I do have to ask though and please don't take offense to this...but is there any possibility you are gay? One of my gay friends tried so hard to enjoy having sex with women but he couldn't. He felt real passion with another man and that's how he knew.
strange love Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 You know what.. Im fairly well equiped..but lately im so tired or I just want to lay back so I prefer to use my fingers to get someone off. Fish soil do you know where the GSPOT is? find that on a woman and your home free.. Ok and another thing you can do if you having problem "getting wood" is you grab your guy by the base and squeeze, this gets it hard and you rub it against your lady friend. In fact if you just rubbed it a while without insertition basicaly slow at times maybe a bit quicker at times..very teasingly she will be moaning in pleasure and you yourself will probably be like whoa and you get more into what u are doing.. The getting wood tip is a "RON JEREMY" tip Ok what else I just woke up and im out of sorts.. Heres a book you should buy or borrow from the library but having it on your shelf doesnt hurt. Satisfaction: Art of the female orgasm by kim catrall theres a little red book I have too but cant remeber the name, but just do a web search or go to amazon.com.... another thing if you wanna make peewee bigger lose some weight. I forget what the formula is but if your kinda chubby/overweight and u chuck some pounds apparently it gets bigger.. hmm maybe a myth not sure..
Sal Paradise Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 Lose weight = bigger penis? That can't be right...
strange love Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 Theres a reason im called STRANGE LOVE who else would know crazy ass fact like this.... My penis size is hardly 2 inches on full eraction. I want it to grow. A. Being overweight causes a whole stack of problems, not least an apparent lack of penile size. I can talk about this from first hand knowledge as I am more than a bit short for my weight. Along with increased risk from cardiovascular disease, being overweight masks the true length of your penis as it is hidden into the abdomen. You have basically two choices with regard to penis size: Surgical enlargement. Not a good idea as many men are not happy with the result and find all their problems are still there after the operation. It can also cost a great deal of money as it is not available on the NHS. Lose weight. Good idea as it cost nothing, improves your chances of a longer life, makes you more attractive so you can use your longer penis when it emerges. Believe me I know how difficult it is to lose weight, but if you are feeling this bad you should consider seeing your doctor for help to get started.
soccorsilly Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 You penis doesn't grow your body shrinks. You lose some of the fat around it and it appears to grow. Just like shaving your pubic hair will give the appearance of "massive proportions"--boy now there is a good rumor to start--eh? But as to your problem, I agree with RP, if you are gettin it up, that is the battle, now go win the war. If you are self conscious--weight, penis length/girth. looks, teeth whatever, you need to know that apparently they are not an issue with this women because she is after all, in bed with you. So if it is your issue, dim the lights..pull up the covers..and have some fun. On a physical end, I suggest a lot of foreplay and for gods sake go downon her with a vengeance. As long as it is not opressive (See the other post on that topic) go for it, give her a few orgasms before the main event with your mouth and fingers. But when doing it dont just think of it as your mouth only--use your hands on other parts, your fingers, nip her upper thighs, use your legs to rub her legs, change positions a bit--I enjoy a woman straddling me and leaning back, so I can look up and see her and feel her and from what I have heard it is a pretty good position for her. Then after you get to the quivering leg part--don't give up. Go for a bit more till she forceably pulls you away from her and by then you should be good to go. Practice makes perfect.
Opium Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 On a physical end, I suggest a lot of foreplay and for gods sake go downon her with a vengeance. Lot's of brownie points their!! Don't just "f***" like a , you need to take your time on her. Show her how good it feels to have you inside her. That's definitely a start! Being passionate I think is a gift, not a lot of men know how to do it.
EC Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 Being passionate I think is a gift, not a lot of men know how to do it. Tell me about it
Opium Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 Originally posted by EC Tell me about it It's like men know how to say the sweet things that make your clothes come off, they know how to kiss you, hug you and even "f*** you" but when it comes down to some real good love making with swet coming down your body and the erection he has is in your throat and he's going so slow that it's torturing you...That's passion!!! Sorry for all the details but just because you 'think' you're not good in bed doesn't mean you can't work on it. The more you "practice" the better you'll get. Remember it's also very hard to please a woman in bed, we tend to want more than just getting to that orgasm we want the "connection", feeling "sexy enough" and of course "loved".
clynn Posted July 15, 2005 Posted July 15, 2005 Its true. If I've spent an amazing evening with a man before we even start fooling around, I'm that much more inclined towards having good sex. And, frankly, I'm not that picky in the early stages of a relationship. I believe less in a man having perfect technique, as much as willingness. And I don't believe in linear lovemaking either. By this I mean starting with caressing, moving to foreplay, then sex, the big orgasm, snuggle and fall asleep. A whole evening can be lovemaking and lots of caressing and kisses and slow moving, quiet talks, that sort of things. Thats the stuff. Oh yah. Please don't get down on yourself about your size. There are so many other much more important things to be concerned about. Personality. Turn on my brain and my heart and my body will follow. (though I heard that quitting smoking increases a penis size).
Sal Paradise Posted July 15, 2005 Posted July 15, 2005 but just because you 'think' you're not good in bed doesn't mean you can't work on it. The more you "practice" the better you'll get. That goes for women as well. Most women assume they're great in the bed, the truth is most of them could be a lot better. Its kind of a double standard in a lot of ways. Many women want their men to be more passionate, romantic etc..in the sack. If the guy doesn't comply then he is a jerk and a bad lover. If a guy ask his girl to me more nasty, dirty or to try something different and she doesn't comply then thats perfectly fine. Both men and women could be a lot better. Neither is that receptive to criticism. Men pout when their ego is bruised and women cry when their feelings are hurt. I've been with several women who had no clue when it came to sex. All I'm saying is it goes both ways. Remember it's also very hard to please a woman in bed, we tend to want more than just getting to that orgasm we want the "connection", feeling "sexy enough" and of course "loved". Many guys want more than just an orgasm as well. There are times when both sexes just want an orgasm but when its with someone you love of course you want a little more. The connection is important to both sexes. Its easy to give a man orgasm but an orgasm doesn't always = satisfied. The better the woman is the more intense it will be. Its not all physical, a lot of its mental, getting inside your lovers head. I think sometimes women coast more in bed because its easy to make most guys orgasm.
clynn Posted July 15, 2005 Posted July 15, 2005 hey i'm interested in those thoughts so started a thread called "Women Bad at Sex" in the Sex Forum http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t66934/
amerikajin Posted July 15, 2005 Posted July 15, 2005 It's something that's difficult for us men to talk about, but I dare say that even the biggest studs of them all have their off nights once in a while. The reason I generally don't like one night stands is because of my performance anxiety. I do okay once I get the jitters out of the way, but historically, one-night stands just aren't really my thing. I need to know the person and get a sense for who they are, and usually, once a woman likes you, she'll look past the first night - and maybe even the second. Are you trying to have sex too early in the relationship? You have to be as comfortable with it as she is.
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