JeffAnderson Posted November 22, 2016 Posted November 22, 2016 Recently I went on four dates with a 26 year old girl (I’m 29) & after the first two dates she said I was very interesting and she enjoyed the time we shared a lot. On the second date (2 days after the first) we kissed when I dropped her off outside her home. On the 3rd & 4th dates she kissed me as we met and was holding my arm when walking (not hand). On the 3rd & 4th dates I believe I made a mistake as to becoming very affectionate with her (kissing her forehead & kissing her in random moments). I also was organising dates on each date & I believe this came across to eager & needy. The day after the 4th date, I didn’t receive any message from her which was strange. I wrote her in the night to see if she is ok and she said, she didn’t miss me as much as she thought she would. She wants to miss me more to continue our dates. She doesn’t have the feelings (urges) she requires to continue the dates. She said we were moving too fast & when things move fast the excitement goes. She said it’s frustrating she feels like that because I’m the perfect guy & we’ve had the best dates but she doesn’t know why she is blurred (but I believe it’s because I was too easily into her) I said ok, let’s take this slower & she agreed. The day after she wrote me and asked how I was, I replied only to be ignored – four days later I asked her what was wrong - She later told me that when we first talking that she didn’t see me as anything more than a friend but when we started to go out she thought she liked me. I told her that I felt a little the same but believed it was because she was new to the country & culture & I think she is very special and there are a lot of positives worth pursuing. We have the same dreams & goals, enjoy doing the same things & the dates were amazing. I said let’s relax, take our time, get to know each other & see what happens, no pressure or expectations. Her reply was “ok, let’s take things very slow & take our time and let’s see what happens. Without ever trying to force anything but when I have doubts, it doesn’t often work, but we can try” – I said I completely agree, and hope she was having a nice day. She didn’t reply to say you too, or she hasn’t said anything since then (this was 6 days ago). My friend noticed that she has joined tinder now too I like her a lot & I really think me and her have a lot in common & could be great together. I believe I shown her that I liked her too much & therefore the excitement and challenge for her was taken out of it. She got me within 4 dates and we were heading into a relationship. Now my dilemma is, do I leave her alone and wait till she contacts me (which might not happen & if it does, maybe it’s too late) or do I write her and say – hey, I was thinking that both of us were moving quite quick and it would be a shame not to see each other again because of that – let’s go out have a good time together & relax – what do you think?’
ExpatInItaly Posted November 22, 2016 Posted November 22, 2016 She's not interested. Don't bother waiting. Just move along and you will find a person who's enthusiastic about dating you.
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